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Yet this pattern doesn't always show up, and hasn't tended to do so in the past. So... how to avoid it?
Hola Luis;
Shredded Readings?Shunting Readers?Extreme Readings?YJWF READINGS?*
Sergio
*Yi Jing Wrestling Federation
Yet this pattern doesn't always show up, and hasn't tended to do so in the past. So... how to avoid it?
Yet this pattern doesn't always show up, and hasn't tended to do so in the past. So... how to avoid it?
I'm not buying that. We have had plenty of good long discussions about readings with a multitude of perspectives and no one-upmanship worth mentioning.sparhawk said:How far in the past are we talking about? If it doesn't show is mainly because regular participants have learned that second opinions are not really welcomed.
No. Maybe I just don't see things quite like you do.(are you hell bent on avoiding the real issue?)
No, it isn't.It is your site, so you make the rules, who cares what others think, if they don't like it tough. But I can already see your new resolve to do something is already melting and it will be back to a free for all soon.
I think the rules in Open Space can be different from the rest of the forum. There should be a place where you can vent. There are quite a lot of things which are not bad enough for actually doing something about them, but which can thoroughly spoil communication.
Agreed.When there is no place where these things can be said, I think you will end up with a very boring forum.
You're right. So is everyone else who says this. Only I think, 'More readings? Maybe a 13 hour day instead of 11?' and I am not very happy. I need to go mull what I can do - no point making big commitments that last about a week before I fall over.I voted for moderate moderation in Open Space, but I think no moderating is better, but being present is important. This forum is so good because it is 'your', Hilary's, forum. It used to breathe your spirit, and that has been missing for a long time. Most of all in the Shared Readings, where it is most important.
A leader does not 'lead' but is present in the spirit of the place.
I'm not buying that. We have had plenty of good long discussions about readings with a multitude of perspectives and no one-upmanship worth mentioning.
No. Maybe I just don't see things quite like you do.
No, it isn't.
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I'm not buying that. We have had plenty of good long discussions about readings with a multitude of perspectives and no one-upmanship worth mentioning.
I like your choice of analogies! My impression in our local dog fights (past and present) is that only a few start because there is just one creator of negative energy; as often as not, it's a clash of personalities between two people who each get on perfectly well with most other people, just not with one another. Factions follow.
I don't quite get the point of the army ad. If they close it, does that mean no more food gets distributed? How have they solved anything? (It's been a long couple of days - you may have to explain things to me in words of very few syllables.)
And Luis? Yes, I know. I still like 'Shredded Readings'.
... I think, 'More readings? Maybe a 13 hour day instead of 11?' and I am not very happy. I need to go mull what I can do - no point making big commitments that last about a week before I fall over.
But... the forum is not just mine. Also, if it's just mine, and all my responsibility to keep everyone's behaviour in line, and no-one else is allowed to say anything about anyone, then I'm something like the teacher in the playground: 'No, if little Tommy hits you, or your friend, you must tell teacher and not hit him back!' And everyone else is reduced to the role of little Thomasina, and this all gets phenomenally silly.
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Hilary have you asked the Yi about your role in the Shared Readings area...(if we are talking about shared readings that is, there seem to be numerous threads about moderation somehow) I think total abandonment by you of it has not really felt like a good thing. Hard to say exactly why that should be, I suppose it has this air of neglect, abandonment, like a derelict building....does it need a bit of 37.4 ?...or maybe 37.6. If its not important enough to spend a little time there then maybe you should close it, if you don't like it there maybe you could think about why, that would answer you own question of how it might be a warmer place.
Maybe it doesn't need a big sacrifice, maybe two bowls of rice, ..maybe the Yi will tell you, you must already have thought of asking...
I guess you can't afford to give time to a free forum is the bottom line, but then don't you have to figure if the place is not worth you going to is it worth you having it at all..does it matter in anyway, is it important ?
Like Trojan is suggesting, shut down 'Shared Readings' for a while?Hi Hilary
Thanks - I like you choice of compliments.
My take on what the ad was saying - The source of the dispute is being removed to give space until order can be restored.
Think of sharks in a feeding frenzy
Mike
(Phew. Though it wouldn't hurt if I put my oar in now and then, would it?)No, I don't think it needs anything big from you like readings or so.
Well, at the moment there is no blog, either. But that has to change, and there is a good ready-made way of integrating blog and forum automatically, getting what I write to the blog also posted as a thread.Maybe make your blog more part of the forum? Now it feels as if you are talking elsewhere while the forum is on its own. But maybe that is no solution at all. And maybe no-one else feels it that way.
Thank you.I don't know a solution. I don't think more moderation will help one bit. Yes, things will change, but I doubt if that will be for the better.
I must admit that I gave up and left because I was fed up with how things were. The loudmouths and the nitpickers playing boss. Accusing the rest of 'ganging up' when there was a joint effort to bring some balance back. On a one-to-one basis they always win, even if it only means to silence the other. That is what they are loudmouth and nitpicker for.
So - well, I am going to be here and do what I can do. Add my drop to the ocean.
- is a weird reflection of a theory I came up with at school: on a one-to-one basis, no-one can bully me, they can only have ordinary conversations like anyone else has. What a wonderful relief! But I need to keep an eye open for their followers: if the group joins them, it all changes. (Conversely, if I have even one friend alongside me, they can't bully me, and they melt away.)On a one-to-one basis they always win, even if it only means to silence the other.
Mm. Depends what you mean by 'the forum'. I created and pay for the website, I get to take the decisions, but I didn't write the archives. Whose party is it, if the guests cooked 99.5% of the food? There is certainly a difference, but 'ownership' is spread widely - and that's a good thing. If it's yours, you take care of it.This phrase contains the answers you are seeking for, I think.
Imo, the forum is yours . They are also some people that come here enjoy to be there and feel that forum its like theirs. But we are just guests. There is a difference.
Yes, doesn't it? On both threads.I saw the number of the votes. This says something too.
Maybe those aren't the only two possibilities.Quoting self to remind what i said, i think it comes down to either you having a presence or closing Shared readings altogether. I personally feel it would be better to close it totally, maybe reopen it in another way in a year or two. Having a total break from it would be clarifying i think, as it is it is stale and heavy and completely undignified as someone else here said somewhere.
I think I know in advance that both these suggestions are going to be dismissed. That you will say you don't have the time to be there and neither do you want to close it...,
What would you like me to do, implement every single suggestion everyone makes? So the forum will be both strictly moderated and also not moderated at all, transformed completely and left just as it is, but at least I have pleased all the people all the time?But you also know making rules,appointing moderators and so on will be time consuming, impractical and in the end just not workable. You know that after days of discussion you will come happily to the conclusion that nothing really needs to change there...and we should feel placated our views were considered.....
This is a bit of a hexagram 60 situation, I think: finding out what works as I go along. Hopefully the extra moderation required will settle down and only take a manageable amount of time. If I find I can't keep up, then either less moderation is done, or more people do it. But if you think about how this forum works most of the time, it doesn't actually need someone hovering over it constantly with their finger on the 'delete' key.... seems the polls show people generally do want more moderation ? So if people want more moderation and you have limited time and really as it is you are the only person in a position to moderate, then isn't it practical to limit the areas of forum you need to moderate.
If people really want the facility of discussing their own personal readings with the forum they can pay for it and join Change Circle which is moderated anyway, and where you are more present anyway. This also solves the problem of those 'querents' in the public area who never give feedback on readings, who just ask question after question, who absorb alot of time and energy from others and canmake the whole process ever so slightly demoralising. I mean we accept we often won't get feedback, but it can make it all feel a bit futile.
A public Shared Readings area could be reopened after some time as i say but i think after a break the old patterns there may dissolve naturally...I'm thinking of it as a bit like leaving a field fallow for a year or two so that it is refreshed.
Alternatively as i may have suggested before why not charge a really small fee for everyone to use the forum at all. That would probably change the nature of Shared Readings quite alot, although I'm not so sure if thats a good idea......hmm anyway if left free people canstill get a taste of the I Ching iby visiting Exploring Divination, if they want personal attention to a reading they have more incnetive to join Change Circle don't they ?
Is a group trying to save the forum, trying to bring balance back by counteracting a difficult individual? Or are they reinforcing their sense of belonging safely in a group by joining in an attack on the one who doesn't belong?
Maybe a third way would be to have moderators? Maybe one or two, maybe thirty.
In theory, Shared Readings is where people who are just getting started with this site and probably with the whole idea of the I Ching can see what it's really about - practical help that makes a real difference. It's important to me to have something like that visible, with no payment barrier in the way.
I find it interesting that two individuals would rather see Shared Readings shut down completely than for it to go on in a way they're not comfortable with. Sounds like vengeful sour grapes to me: If I can't have it my way, no one will have it. Why don't you just not go there if you don't like it?
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).