10.4 > 61 and 49.4 > 63

[leonine]

Hello All,

Yet ANOTHER Love life related reading/question? Damn reproductive urges!

Anyways, I've had a great deal of bad love luck ever since the events posted about here:
https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/fri...-21-2-gt-38-will-she-break-up-with-me-tonight

I won't bore you all with details, but trust me, bad luck, a curse even, perfectly describes what I have been going through... Murphy's law fully applied in ways big and small, though I will share a quick and funny (if you have a perverse sense of humor like I do)) example: during election season, a dating ap I used had optional "skins" for users profile.. One said something along the lines of "Don't be a Chump, vote for Trump", the other said "A woman's place is in the White House" (denoting support for clinton). I happened to be a Bernie supporter, so I was for neither of the two options represented by the skins, but after two months of receiving no matches, I decided to check out my 'home page'... the Trump supporter skin was on it, and I had most certainly not chosen it! That wouldn't be a problem if I lived in Rural montana, but I live in NYC, a verrrrry liberal place!!!! I removed it, but it kept on appearing until a month after the election. I even wrote the company about it. A glitch? Yes, but in the greater context one of mannnny instances of chance working against me, and as I said there are many other events and happenings that are of the bad luck variety, many of which have lacked the humorful elements of the one just related.

anyways, about two months ago after having had more than enough of this sort of crap, I asked the Iching:
"WTF!!! is going on with my love life... Am I cursed? Will this get better?" etc etc etc. It wasn't the most concise question, but came from a place of real emotion and real need.
I recieved
10.4> 61
Cautious advance/treading
Liu: Treading: Stepping on the tail of a tiger, but it does not bite one. Success. [You should act only after you have planned carefully, and then with resolution.]
line 4:Liu: He steps on the tail of the tiger. Caution and fearfulness. Good fortune in the end. [Trouble or disaster threaten and one must be very careful.]

Well, this matches the various troubles I have faced, certainly sounds like a 'curse' (make of that what you will, after many experiences, I tend to believe such things exist, and exist in many forms causes and expressions... not solely in the mind etc)... so yes, the iching seems to be saying "yes, something is indeed f-d up here, in fact you have/are stepping on a tiger's tail, you didn't side step it or avoid it.... but walk this path with care and it will turn out well"

relating/changing hexagram :
61:
Inner truth/sincerity etc etc etc
Liu:Inner Truthfulness. Sea Lions -- good fortune. It is of benefit to cross the great water.
The wind over the lake symbolizes Inner Truthfulness. The superior man judges criminals and postpones capital punishment.

Ok, some hexagrams I get. Hexagram 10? I understand it somewhat... the imagery makes sense. Hexagram 61? I've never understood it, nor how to apply it so as to understand what the Iching is saying about a question that has been asked in which 61 plays a part in the answer.

the only thing that I get that might apply here is the imagery of wading through a great stream, as a stream would be an obstacle in a journey, plus you would be wading through it, not using a rowboat.

so the overall message of this must be/have been "Yes, something is messed up here, but keep moving anyways, don't consider the life of a celibate monk just yet"

A few weeks ago, I finally seemed to connect somewhat with a woman I am actually attracted to. Some confusion and bad luck on our first date almost derailed that, but I was able to work around it. She is attractive, cultured, though she has a child and so this obviously (and rightly so!) takes up the majority of her free time. This is a bit of an issue for me, nothing major, as adventures and jaunts etc would be limited, but I do want children of my own some day, and in basic convo she is uncertain if she wants anymore (we are both 39, so these sorts of topics come up early on in dating so that everything is out there). We have been on a few dates, no biblical intimacy yet. We are attracted to each other etc...

Given my 2 year continuum of terrible luck, I have conditioned myself (or been conditioned) to not get too hopeful, as that has led to great emotional pain.

I asked:
what potential is there between me and Z?

49.4- 63
Metamorphoses/transformation
Liu: Revolution. When the appropriate day comes, the people will believe in it. Great success. It is beneficial to continue. Remorse vanishes.
Liu: Within the lake, fire -- this symbolizes Revolution. The superior man makes a calendar, clearly arranging the seasons.

Judgment: Hidden within its cocoon the caterpillar becomes a butterfly -- who would believe it until the Metamorphosis was complete?

The Superior Man recognizes that celestial sequences create changes only when they are due; he therefore acts in accordance with the requirements of the times.
line 4: Liu: Remorse vanishes. People believe him. Changing the government brings good fortune.

Changing/relating Hexagram 63:
Completion
Success in the small. It benefits to continue. Good fortune at first; disorder in the end.

Hmmm... this looks sort of good. Changing the Government? IF there is potential here, it represents a sea change of sorts for me?

Any thoughts would be appreciated, thanks!

 

[diamanda]

WTF!!! is going on with my love life... Am I cursed? Will this get better?
10.4 > 61
No you're not cursed. The 'tiger' is an animal, a reality. It represents dangerous people. For now you're surrounded by them. The advice is to be extremely careful (10.4) and keep your truth hidden in your heart, and/or keep your heart/core safe. I'm sorry to say it doesn't look as if it's getting better in the foreseeable future, so you'll need patience... When something like this happens, it's usually a matter of a £$%^ astro transit, my bets would be on a horrible Saturn transit.

what potential is there between me and Z?
49.4 > 63
I just had a look at my archive of readings, and I had this three times in recent years. Each time it turned out to mean that the ruler of the situation has changed (it was twice about a job, and indeed the ownership of business changed - and once about a relationship, again who was in command had changed) - and the result in all these cases was an end, I'm sorry to say. However it might play out differently for you, the i ching is never 100% foolproof. Maybe her child, who is currently the total ruler of the situation, will cease to be so? Or, for anything good to happen between you two, the rulership of the situation has to change.

The Trump supporter skin a 'glitch'..? hmm....

 

[leonine]

Hi Diamanda,
thanks for the reply. Unfortunately you were quite correct. the regime that would have to change, unless she is completely full of it, doesn't have to do with her son, but a guy she had a relationship a year before ended up texting her the night before (!) our last date.
Her demeanor when I met up with her for that third and final date was a bit off, and later in the night she basically said that this guy had texted her the night before (which is proof, as far as I'm concerned of bad luck on my part... as this sort of thing happens to me faaaaar too often, suggesting I am misaligned with something in some way in terms of fortune and luck). She hadn't spoken with him in a year, and the text the night before apparently re-awoke feelings etc etc etc ... I think the fact she had been dumped by him played a part in that. She then went on to describe a situation in which I would benched, left dangling etc... so that if this didn't work out she would maybe check me out again. Not my cup of tea, and very insulting. when I walked her to a cab she said in a practically patronizing tone that we would talk soon, to which I replied matter of factly "maybe we will, maybe we won't", which led to a semi-hocked look on her face (I imagine she wanted me to eagerly say "absolutely". The next morning, I awoke to a text from her with an exclamation mark, and a picture of a rare fruit she had mentioned the night before, to which I replied "So it does in fact exist". And that was that. The text was obviously a way to for her to gauge to what extent I was willing to "hang around". Her demeanor sure changed a LOT from the first and second dates, and I obviously ended up getting another not so nice taste of the BS of the dating world.
No communication since, which is fine with me, though I am extremely annoyed at yet once again getting f-d over by chance fate etc.

 

[leonine]

Hi Diamanda,
thanks for the reply. Unfortunately you were quite correct. the regime that would have to change, unless she is completely full of it, doesn't have to do with her son, but a guy she had a relationship a year before ended up texting her the night before (!) our last date.
Her demeanor when I met up with her for that third and final date was a bit off, and later in the night she basically said that this guy had texted her the night before (which is proof, as far as I'm concerned of bad luck on my part... as this sort of thing happens to me faaaaar too often, suggesting I am misaligned with something in some way in terms of fortune and luck). She hadn't spoken with him in a year, and the text the night before apparently re-awoke feelings etc etc etc ... I think the fact she had been dumped by him played a part in that. She then went on to describe a situation in which I would benched, left dangling etc... so that if this didn't work out she would maybe check me out again. Not my cup of tea, and very insulting. when I walked her to a cab she said in a practically patronizing tone that we would talk soon, to which I replied matter of factly "maybe we will, maybe we won't", which led to a semi-hocked look on her face (I imagine she wanted me to eagerly say "absolutely". The next morning, I awoke to a text from her with an exclamation mark, and a picture of a rare fruit she had mentioned the night before, to which I replied "So it does in fact exist". And that was that. The text was obviously a way to for her to gauge to what extent I was willing to "hang around". Her demeanor sure changed a LOT from the first and second dates, and I obviously ended up getting another not so nice taste of the BS of the dating world.
No communication since, which is fine with me, though I am extremely annoyed at yet once again getting f-d over by chance fate etc.