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I know I may get bashed for this, but I did ask another question.
Before you bash me, however, let me explain why and what I asked.
I spent the first half of the day yesterday with the guy in question. There seems to be a weird pull between us but also a weird stagnation -- neither of us will move. I do not want to chase or pursue aggressively, but I want to keep the water simmering, so to speak. I see it way too easy (and my tendency) to disappear.
I tend to see black and white: Either I ask him out (chase/pursue) or I dont. But then it occurred to me there can be a middle ground. So I started to think about other options. How can I use my best traits without being overbearing, but to nourish a friendship and encourage it? How can I show that I'm trustworthy and not to be feared? For me, asking a man out is NOT an option... too forward, too aggressive. But what are other options?
I asked the Yi what if i send him an email following up on our discussion on Saturday. The response intrigues me:
12.2.4.5 > 4.
YES I KNOW: FOLLY< stop asking questions. But the lines that the Yi gave in 12 suggest a progression and shift of sorts. So I wanted to discuss those.
line 2: But the great man calmly bears the consequences of the standstill. He does not mingle with the crowd of the inferior; that is not his place. By his willingness to suffer personally he insures the success of his fundamental principles. Play it safe/bad idea, dont contact him, dont do anything. That is how I interpret this line.
line 4: Standstill is nearing the point of change into its opposite. Whoever wishes to restore order must feel himself called to the task and have the necessary authority. A man who sets himself up as capable of creating order according to his own judgment could make mistakes and end in failure. But the man who is truly called to the task is favored by the conditions of the time, and all those of like mind will share in his blessing. I Presume this is talking about my desire to write an email and start a written relationship or at least open up more communication other than our one day per week interaction. (And therefore I presume this is NOT talking about the outside view of this "relationship", i presume it is not saying that things will change for the better soon.)
If I am truly "called to the task" and "favored by conditiosn" then it will work out. The thing is: I dont know if I am, in either case.
line 5: The time undergoes a change. The right man, able to restore order, has arrived. hence “Good fortune.” But such periods of transition are the very times in which we must fear and tremble. Success is assured only through greatest caution, which asks always, “What if it should fail.” When a mulberry bush is cut down, a number of unusually strong shoots sprout from the roots. Hence the image of tying something to a cluster of mulberry shoots is used to symbolize the way of making success certain.
I can't see how sending an email could fail, per se. It's communication, it's open, but it's not aggressive: he doesnt have to agree or go anywhere, or even reply. But it puts the ball in his court.
Again, I"m prepared to hear the "you can't consider this valid bc you got Hex 4" argument or that i'm overthinking this or whatever, but if anyone has OTHER comments, please do share.
Before you bash me, however, let me explain why and what I asked.
I spent the first half of the day yesterday with the guy in question. There seems to be a weird pull between us but also a weird stagnation -- neither of us will move. I do not want to chase or pursue aggressively, but I want to keep the water simmering, so to speak. I see it way too easy (and my tendency) to disappear.
I tend to see black and white: Either I ask him out (chase/pursue) or I dont. But then it occurred to me there can be a middle ground. So I started to think about other options. How can I use my best traits without being overbearing, but to nourish a friendship and encourage it? How can I show that I'm trustworthy and not to be feared? For me, asking a man out is NOT an option... too forward, too aggressive. But what are other options?
I asked the Yi what if i send him an email following up on our discussion on Saturday. The response intrigues me:
12.2.4.5 > 4.
YES I KNOW: FOLLY< stop asking questions. But the lines that the Yi gave in 12 suggest a progression and shift of sorts. So I wanted to discuss those.
line 2: But the great man calmly bears the consequences of the standstill. He does not mingle with the crowd of the inferior; that is not his place. By his willingness to suffer personally he insures the success of his fundamental principles. Play it safe/bad idea, dont contact him, dont do anything. That is how I interpret this line.
line 4: Standstill is nearing the point of change into its opposite. Whoever wishes to restore order must feel himself called to the task and have the necessary authority. A man who sets himself up as capable of creating order according to his own judgment could make mistakes and end in failure. But the man who is truly called to the task is favored by the conditions of the time, and all those of like mind will share in his blessing. I Presume this is talking about my desire to write an email and start a written relationship or at least open up more communication other than our one day per week interaction. (And therefore I presume this is NOT talking about the outside view of this "relationship", i presume it is not saying that things will change for the better soon.)
If I am truly "called to the task" and "favored by conditiosn" then it will work out. The thing is: I dont know if I am, in either case.
line 5: The time undergoes a change. The right man, able to restore order, has arrived. hence “Good fortune.” But such periods of transition are the very times in which we must fear and tremble. Success is assured only through greatest caution, which asks always, “What if it should fail.” When a mulberry bush is cut down, a number of unusually strong shoots sprout from the roots. Hence the image of tying something to a cluster of mulberry shoots is used to symbolize the way of making success certain.
I can't see how sending an email could fail, per se. It's communication, it's open, but it's not aggressive: he doesnt have to agree or go anywhere, or even reply. But it puts the ball in his court.
Again, I"m prepared to hear the "you can't consider this valid bc you got Hex 4" argument or that i'm overthinking this or whatever, but if anyone has OTHER comments, please do share.