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rebeca

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Some days ago I asked for your help to interpret hexagram 63 (changing lines 3 and 5) and derived hexagram 24. It is about a a relationship I had with a man some years ago. When we started, he was getting divorced from a wealthy and famous woman and he had job problems, appart from other more serious ones (he went out with different women at the same time, etc.). He was used to living in a wealthy environment and his situation was not the best then.

Despite being problematic, he was very sensitive and I can say it is the most important relationship I've had till now (I'm 36). We both suffered a lot in this relationship and it finished three years ago. We live in different cities and we have not seen again since then (2006). In the meantime, he tried to contact me but I didn't give him any opportunity. Last year he even suggested me working for him (in different cities) but I didn't like the way he did: he only contacted me by email or SMS.

I cannot stop thinking about him and I'm suffering a lot. It's as if I have lost the control of my life and I just leave life goes on. I feel sad, weak and, despite having a good work, I don't feel the strong woman I was before.

The last time he contacted me was March 2008. He asked me about a job issue (he wanted to make business with me) but I refused. Since then he stopped any contact.

Two weeks ago I asked for your help to interpret hexagram 63 (changing lines 3 and 5) and derived hexagram 24 about the possibility of contacting him. I decided to take my time a little bit. Last weekend I had to visit his city, where I had not gone since 2006, when I was with him. When I came back home, I felt very nostalgic and I ask I Ching what would happened if I sent him a message. I obtained 12.2.4.6 (Terrific!!!). I finally sent him a SMS: "I've just arrived from Madrid and I remembered you. Things go well for me. I'm sure you are happy as well". Four minutes later, he answered: "I am very happy you are well. The next time you come, just if you want, you can give me a call and go for a walk".

The real thing is that I know the perspective is not good (12.2.4.6>29). I feel nostalgic, and I know everything has finished, but, on the other hand, I do not feel strong enough to forget the past.

Can you help me interpret this hexagram more deeper, please?

I very much appreciate your experience in I Ching.
 

rebeca

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I have to clarify something from previous message. Perhaps I have not been clear enough and you ask yourselves why I consulted I Ching twice.

The first question (63.3.5. > 24) was about the possibility of contacting him.
The second one (12.2.4.6>29), once I decided to do so, was about sending a specific message (after coming from Madrid).

Thank you!
 

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Rebeca,
I think if this reading had to do with contacting him specifically when you returned from Madrid, then it answered your question. the standstill gave way and he messaged you back, communication was restored. I am not sure now if you are looking for a deeper meaning in this because you feel there is more to it, regarding where to go with this now? If so, I dont think a particular response refers to anything more than the question. NOT that the response itself implies that, but just in terms of the question you made.

You say you feel sad, weak and not the same woman ...is this sense the relationship in 2006? or just since re=connecting with him? In either case, the 29 is a good indicator of the kind of emotional deluge this man brings up in you. I know that three years is not really such a long time to remember him with intensity, but it is a long time to carry depression and an altered sense of self. Have you thought about talking with a professional to help you feel better and stronger? It sounds like you haven't fully processed what went on between you, and you're stuck. No judgement here, just reminding you that feeling lots better is a possibility. and would be a relief!

I dont know what to say about your friend? Are you in a position to go back and try to rekindle the romance? Is that what you want? If it is, I would still advise getting some support and feedback...re-claim yourself and take some steps to comfort and support yourself. Even if you were to re-connect with him, you would want to come from a position of strength and knowing what you want. You sound like a lovely person. You deserve to give yourself some closure and to know you have choices.
 

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See, I told you that he would respond and that you can still win this man if you want to.

The 3 lines that you got are all okay, they suggest that after a period of standstill, a new chance for reunion blossoms once again, the 3 years of stagnation are ending, and therefore this affair has certainly not ended between him and you. While Hex 29 suggests there are bound to be some problems ahead but as you already know what they are, so they won't surprise you but the best thing here is that if you truly want to be with him again, despite what happened, then you will be successful, nothing can stop you.
 

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Dear bamboo and willowfox,

Thank you very much for your advice. I am agree with you. I think that I feel stronger now, after these three years. That's the reason why I have written about my situation. It is as if I wanted to explode and just sharing my thoughts is like a breath of fresh air! For me, it's a big step after a long period of isolation.

Now I feel stronger but it doesn't mean I want to come back with him. The first and most important thing is feeling good with myself. I'm starting to feel like that.

Things are fine now and I am happy to have sent him that message. But I think I must, firt of all, concentrate on working on myself, just to become healthier and stronger. After that, things will be easier but I do not want to hurry.

Thank you very very much for your help! I have really appreciated.
 

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good thoughts there! you live apart from him, so you have opportunity to take walks yourself, eat foods that bring strength, love your work, etc. You have a lot to offer and you also really seem to like this man, so the next time you arrange to meet, you might be on a stronger footing...use yur time with him to get clear about who he is, what he has to offer, and how that relates to who you are and what you want. maybe you will want to pursue it, or maybe you will decide he isnt for you, after all. have strong boundaries and hold your core sacred. You have choices. you are strong.
 

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Thanks a lot again, bamboo!

That's the right thing. I am very grateful to you. It is very nice being supported by people like you. It helps me a lot to see things more clear.

Have a very nice day!
 

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