14.5.6>43 do it girl, dont do it giirl...

[deekristen]

Hello everyone,
I am a bit confused here cuz the situation is weird on my part. I have a huge crush on my manager and he is about 12-14 years older than me, and he is an important, top guy for the company. It is really fun to talk to him and we ha a lot of things in commonlike the things we do in our social lifes (i know it cuz we talked about them).
Anyways i asked about his feelings to e, i know it is weird to ask this but still i wanted some answer, it looks quiet nice to me but i couldnt get if it was in a "oh you work so hard, i love that" kind of manner or something more intimate.
the answer is 14.5.6 going to 43..
Thanks a lot.

 

[icastes]

It seems to me that 14 refers to the richness and substance of this man rather than any real love for you. This crush is dangerous, because the resultant hexagram 43 is very bad for love. It makes it all one-sided with one trying much too hard. It seems to me that these hexagrams indicate that if you go ahead and attempt to get this man into bed that you will hurt your career and job. It would end up that way even if you were successful in establishing intimacy with him. Thus, I would advise you to get a crush on someone else. The Yijing always advises to stay within the proper bounds of decorum and behavior, and nowadays getting involved with the boss is not considered proper. Your overzealousness must be overcome by being resolute in proper behavior.

 

[chingching]

I can see here great valueing, so in terms of your question he values you a lot, but wether thats platonic or romantic, well intuitively I get the platonic vibe, also because of the way you describe him its as though you dont see yourself as an equal, nor as subordinate either, I mean you seem to revere him quite a bit and IME that often leads to putting people up on a pedestal...which actually creates distance instyead of intimicay.

That just a little of my POV. In terms of yi, it does show a strong and valued bond.

Even a single passion still lurking in the heart has the power to obscure reason.

Wilhelm, text on the judegement of 43.

If yi is actually talking about you then maybe your feelings are obsuring your objectivity. If it is in fact talking about his feelings (generally doesnt work , but can...) then maybe the opposite is true, there is a part of him with passion that wants to break through perhaps.

14 is great for relationships of all kinds. A bond that is good to have. It is also called 'noble presence' by ewald, which rings true to me when I think of how you described this man.

14.5

Six in the fifth place means:
He whose truth is accessible, yet dignified,
Has good fortune.

the interaction between you is honest and dignified. There are no games between you, just sincere exchange.

14.6

Nine at the top means:
He is blessed by heaven.
Good fortune.
Nothing that does not further.

only good can come of this.

The advice from yi that I'm gleaning here is to maintain your integrity and self-posession and leave the rest up to heaven. And then there will be breakthrough.

I know I have meandered from your question...I went with the flow, hope it was of interest to you anyway.

 

[deekristen]

Thank you very much, the support means a lot for me and of course your advice too. You are very right and i know that's the right thing to do, to do nothing
Thanks again...