15 uc - what's going on with this person

[Lodestar]

I've met someone in a social setting and I find them very invasive. They ask me personal questions and I find myself answering them because they catch me on the hop. They have in no way earned my trust or the right to be so questioning as I hardly know them.

I asked what's the best approach to this person when they first appeared and I got:
5.2.3.5-24

From this I understand that I need to relax but remain alert and a bit on guard.

What is our connection? 61.2.6-8

Then after a particularly annoying encounter I asked what is going on with this person??..as they seem to be pursuing a connection with me. I got 15uc

Thankyou.

 

[precision grace]

They probably just have a different way of relating to you - perhaps they assume intimacy much sooner and with much less to go on, as compared with you. 15 uc to me indicates someone standing in their truth. Are you standing in yours?

 

[Lodestar]

Thanks for your reply precision grace.

Emm if I was to stand in my truth I would have told this person none of their questions were any of their damn business. When I caught what was going on, I did turn it back on them in a jokey way, but really I would have liked to be much more direct and say 'who the hell are you to be asking?' So I'm aware of my truth, but trying to be diplomatic about it.

I can see how you would get that from 15uc, but it's ironic, as what I pick up from them is a level of hypocracy. In one breath they accuse me of one thing and in the next breath and they reveal they are doing the same themselves, but on a much more extensive level and seem completely unaware of the irony. I wonder could 15uc point to them being 'limited'. Also my first impression was of someone with a very warm smile, but how somehow I felt completely unmoved by it, a flatness inside, so different from the energy genuine smiles inspire.

Emm...if they are assuming intimacy, then they can tell me all about themselves if that's what they want, I don't mind, but it's quite a different thing, to be nosey and pushy into my privacy.

Well I can only go on my gut and my gut is rarely wrong, though I will remain open to being proven wrong, but it will have to be 'proven' by my experiencing something different.

I still appreciate the feedback giving me an angle to consider. Thank you.

 

[diamanda]

Hi Lodestar,

I asked what's the best approach to this person when they first appeared and I got:
5.2.3.5 > 24
From this I understand that I need to relax but remain alert and a bit on guard.
I think you're spot on in your interpretation.
There's definitely danger there, but totally manageable.

What is our connection? 61.2.6 > 8
It's quite odd that you got 61.2, and 8, for a person you dislike.
There is definitely some benefit for you in this connection.
61.6 says that this person is perhaps a bit of a drama-queen.
8 suggests that you'll keep meeting them in social settings.

what is going on with this person?? 15 unchanging
Not much, and in any case this person doesn't seem able to harm you.
Most probably that's just what they're like (very 'limited' as you put it, by the sound of it).

If a jokey manner doesn't work, you can try letting them know in a firm and serious but calm manner (eg "I do strongly believe that x is my own business"). If that doesn't work either then for sure proceed to the 'who the hell are you to be asking?' strategy (but it doesn't sound likely that things will get to that point).

 

[Lodestar]

Thanks Diamanda, it was as you described above. They couldn't really harm me, but had I been softer I saw how they could have a few times, had I remained open to them. Here's to trusting instinct with a bit of iChing help!