18.1.6 changing to 11

[steve]

I consulted the oracle again regarding my relationship asking if i take the advice
show restraint, keep in touch from time to time and go about my business, be reserved and quiet and not forceful
what will be the outcome regarding this relationship, is it worth pursuing in the long run
It looks positive although its not even that i want the relationship, the way things were
It seems to me things will turn out well either way,
I think she has been looking for a real change in me and me in her because we have a spiritual connection that is difficult to explain.

Sorry for all the consultations but I am really at crossroads in my life
I have learnt allot so far on how the hex''s work as in this case decay there is a turning point bad is not always as it seems
I am not expecting the oracle to say sure she will come back as we all know life isnt like that all the time
Its just some of the results i am having seem to point to the fact we could meet again possibly on better terms

I still have another question regarding moving which i would like to do tomorrow
This site has been an amazing help to break down the questions that haunt me.
Kindest regards to all thankyou again

 

[willowfox]

Suggests that you give it a try as the eventual outcome is one of peace and harmony.

 

[gene]

Not to divulge any from Willow's testimony, just in addition, I might say, the two lines changing, one being yin, one being yang, but not in correspondence with each other, would indicate to me at least, that there is a heavy, heavy, workload involved in making any kind of inroads here. Line one and line six are at the extremes of the hexagram, and you might be at extremes in terms of the relationship with each other. Furthermore, the two lines are outside the main body of the hexagram. They are on the fringe, and as far apart from each other as possible. The essence here is to "work on what has been spoiled. " and that is your only hope to salvage this. But there is a long way to go. The first line says, "setting right what has been spoiled by the father." The father normally would be considered previous male energy. If there is something that you have done that has spoiled the relationship, that must be taken into account. But then, with the sixth line changing, it may be time to move on anyway, as the line says, "Does not serve kings and princes, sets himself higher goals." There may be something better for you out there, and for her too. As wonderful as this whole relationship thing with her may sound, it may not be the one that is right for you. After all, it seems you two are very far apart. I think this is more likely what leads to the "peace" of hexagram 11. At peace with your differences and what is changing. At peace with the fact that it has been spoiled, and move on. Nevertheless, as the commentary says on line six, "such withdrawal is only justified when we strive to realize within ourselves the higher aims of mankind." Could there be a conflict within you about the right course of action? Is she, as spiritual as she might be, really the one to aid you in your attainment of spiritual growth? I suspect only you can answer that quesiton adequately.

Gene

 

[steve]

Yes Gene I guess i have spoiled things in the relationship we both have and we are very far apart at the moment, that has been for the last couple of weeks
There is a strong bond there and she has left before. I am making the changes i need to at the moment and making progress, which i am sure if and possibly when we communicate she may really notice. I am so confused on this issue about her
She has left before then i have just heard from her agin
So i just dont know where its all going, readings i have done for myself point to her return but not at the moment so all I can do is continue with my own development I guess
I have done another reading regarding her and recieved 50.6 > 32
I dont know if this is similar

Thx

Steve

 

[gene]

Hi Steve

I don't like to comment too much on second readings, since I don't know the circumstances that would lead me to believe in any significant way that the second reading was different from the first. I do want to comment on one thing here though, not in relationship to her, but in relationship to how the I Ching is describing itself to you. The W/B commentary says, "Here the counsel is described in relationship to the Sage who imparts it. In imparting it he will be mild and pure." This is the nature of the counsel of the I Ching itself. It is mild and pure. It almost seems as if it is referring you back to the original reading, and saying, here is my answer. Jade has elements of hardness and softness. In counseling there is a time for hardness, and a time for softness. If the answer is not received in the spirit it is given, it could be that the Sage becomes a little harsher in his responses. Does this apply to you? I don't know, but you might be sure you are not just looking for a better answer, because it normally doesn't work that way.

Good Luck,
Gene

 

[gene]

To everyone

I have sometimes made the statement that in every line the I Ching talks about itself, and here is one good example. I started my weblog (genesiching@blogspot.com) with this theme in mind, and did not carry through with it, nor have I carried through with it on this website, partly because my time is so very limited, and partly because it seems often no one is interested. But I will try to impart what I can when I can.

Maybe I am crazy, but I feel that I have a lot of knowledge to impart. Some people may know everything I know and more, but many, I suspect do not. I wish to get as much out as possible, but I sense a lot of disinterest, and disrespect for what I have. It's too bad, for as hexagram 48 says, "The well is cleaned, but no one drinks from it. This is my hearts sorrow." For those few who might actually care, I want to get it out, as I am old and don't have a lot of time left, I suspect. Not that old, but anyway, the way the world is changing...

Gene

 

[diamanda]

Hi Steve,

I know this is a very old post, but do you happen to remember how 18.1.6 > 11 turned out for you and that woman?

 

[steve]

Hi Diamanda

( sorry for my abrupt reply)

We dont talk, it was a relationship i think about it often when I look back on hexagram 11 it was peace were going to find apart. It really did not turn out well as far they go ( our relationships at times hmm it was like that movie who is afraid of virginia wolf)

I have no hard feelings now, i guess at the time we both did not want to let go, going against the path, The lines howeverr may be showing part of the painful process.

Now that i think more I was racing through an 18 situation trying fix something I was obviously not capable of fixing. As you can see i had good advice from people who understood i was confused,

Steve