18.2>52

[goddessliss]

Ho hum another situation to deal with....

I've started volunteering in Emergency Services and there is a group of us in our initial training.

There's a man who helps train us who was in the police force for 25 years but is now retired - he's probably in his late 40's thereabouts. He is married.

Whilst he hasn't said anything or really done anything that one would consider inappropriate I have this feeling he has done a couple of things that could be considered inappropriate. At first I thought it was nothing but I ran it past a friend of mine who is an expolicewoman herself and she said it sounds like he's trying to gain your trust without you realising what's going on and then bam! he's got you in situation you don't want to be in and you might wonder how you got there. Which I've a feeling it's a sexual intention.

I was sexually assaulted a number of times by different men (strangers) over a period of about 5 years when I was a young teenager as I failed to read the signs back then so whilst I don't want to misread the situation I want to make sure I keep myself safe on all levels.

Certainly I could report him but as I said to another it could look very innocent and I can only imagine he's a professional manipulator to get information or take advantage of people's vulnerability so they confess to whatever crime or whatever information he was after.

All I want to do is know how to deflect his advances somehow

How can I deflect his advances

Hex 18.2>52

I'm see Hex 52 as me wanting to still the inappropriateness and Hex 18 in the corruption of the man. I understand 18 to mean working energetically to correct things rather than doing anything outwardly but line 2 specifically I'm unsure about.

 

[Tim K]

I think .2 represents exactly the opposite of

working energetically

18.2 → 52 (Keeping Still), Richmond:
The child deals with the actions of the mother. Do not be too active in this.

And I read it as: you are being overly eager to paint this man as an offender, trying to project your previous bad encounters (mom's/past mistakes) with men on him. Slow down, see what happens.
It's good to be warned and prepared so that you can turn down his possible advances .. but don't be on the offense about this.

 

[Sixth Relative]

Hi goddessliss

First of all, my solidarity with you. I know how awful this kind of situation can be.

When the question is about "how to" or asking for advice, I tend to use the text-based interpretation; focusing on the Image and then using whatever moving line as details.

In hex 18 your strategy is not to fight evil but stimulation of people's virtue. I don't see this as HIS virtue but your coallegues. Don't allow to get isolated, build a strong network of solidarity with/for you. Rise the moral standar. In hex 18's image you don't denounce the evil-doer, but you win influence in subtle ways.

Line 2 reinforces that notion: proceed with moderation, use gentle manners. James de Korne says:
A. Rectify an emotional response. Control your feelings, but don't crush them.
B. Be sensitive in the way you handle an emotional situation.


Wish you all the best

 

[loverofknowledge]

The Living I Ching translation (which is spare, but which I like) says, of this line:

18 Line 2 comment: Manage mother's poison. One cannot be firm.

Mother's "poison" could be the sexual victimization of women, in general, which does put a woman in a vulnerable position. I see the line as not making a judgment about the man, in question, but as confirming that this "poison" is present (whether it's coming from your past experiences or from the other person explicitly). The remedy is "Wind below the mountain: poison. The noble one stirs the people and nourishes virtue." (as Sixth Relative notes).
Stillness, (52) How about a still mind and heart, so that your intuition and insights will come to you, without being encumbered, and obscured, whether by wishful thinking or past traumas ?

I do not know what it means, in the Statement (Hex 18), about advancing the great stream. Maybe it means, do what it takes, so that the situation feels safe and good for you.
Maybe this cautionary advice is useful: "Before starting: three days. After starting: three days."

 

[goddessliss]

Thankyou ashteroid, Sixth Relative and lover of knowledge...it's sounds like all of you are suggesting to keep calm, bring myself a support system by maintaining my standards and it will sort itself out in that way.
This is how I read it too and one of my friends told me long ago when situations like this come along to lift our own 'vibe' and not get caught up in vortex of the rights and wrongs so that's what I'm going to work on doing.

I'm supposed to be attending training tonight but I'm going with the 3 days before and 3 days after so I've time to process and think about it before I see this man again.
When it's all said and done...it may be nothing but then again it may be something so I'd rather err on the side of caution allowing my insights and intuition to guide.

thanks very much for helping me out.

 

[radiofreewill]

Hi goddessliss,

Would you consider it a curse to be traumatized for the rest of your life?

You have sexual trauma at the hands of strangers in your background...and you are volunteering to work in the field of trauma with Emergency Services. You might be unconsciously trolling your fears here ~ which would be a genuine case of setting up bad resonance. What are the chances that you will come across a 'strange' and sexually threatening man ~ to you ~ in that environment?

The Yi is giving you the cure for an ancestral curse which it says has come down to you through the line of your mothers.

Line 2 is saying that the way you "work" this curse ~ the way that you cure it ~ is through non-action. In other words, stay Still inside and out, 52, energetically and expressively, in the face of the very triggers that in the past would reactivate your trauma...and you will be released from all the compulsions and mindshare that trauma has over your life.

If I could be your friend here, I'd advise you to consider trading out the trauma work for meditation and yoga ~ redecorate your life with harmony and balance ~ and see what kind of people that world attracts?

I hope this helps ~ many blessings!

 

[thisismybody]

I agree with everyone above. Part of our destiny as spiritual beings is to end up in situations that resemble past traumas (including traumas or similar issues from past lives) in order to heal them once and for all. Awareness and consciousness can transform the energy signature of these traumas. Once the lesson is learned, there is no need for us to repeat past trauma. Which leads me to 18.2 and the alchemy of what's hidden within the traumas you've experienced.

I recently received 18.2 and discovered a pattern of relating that has damaged some of my relationships. Not on purpose. Just out of a misguided attempt to try to receive something I thought I needed that I never received as a child. It was an "aha!" moment. I imagine full knowledge and understanding of that pattern, along with the delusion it was based on, as well as determination not to repeat past mistakes will heretofore alter my relationships and their dynamics forever.

Find out what you don't know you don't know. Then, don't be one of those people who knows her pattern but continues on despite it. Fully embrace the knowledge to make a change, even if painful or lonely. This may not apply to your life at all. You may have already done this work and the universe is just testing you to see how serious you are.

I know 18.2 is often about non-action. But, it may have nothing to do with "not doing" but of being aware in a passive way of what you've repeatedly done and not doing that. "Doing" may mean not allowing yourself to be pulled into energetic attractions that are destructive, yet oh so familiar. Those who've experienced pain or victimization often become accustomed to those feelings, their pain, as if addicted. In no way am I saying you are. I just mean, familiar smells and places keep us coming back and keep coming back to us because it's what we know. What's been passed on to us, no matter how dysfunctional or destructive, can still feel like "home." Hex 18 is about repeated patterns of a corrupt nature. Some part of this connection needs the work of 18.2. It's presence indicates you still have some work to do, even if it's just letting some of that wounding out into the light of day. Sorry if I'm far off. 48-well wishes!
:bows:

 

[goddessliss]

Thanks radiofreewill and thisismybody. It's not trauma as such it's just assisting people after floods and storms...a bit of traffic control and assisting people with food and clothing that sort of thing unless I get my chainsaw license then I'll be up the ladder cutting branches and stuff like that off the roofs of houses that have been hit.
The police and paramedics do car accidents and those sort of traumas and the fire service does fires obviously....we're just there to assist in whatever way we can at a distance.

In terms of the sexual traumas as such I moved on from them a number of years ago and to be honest I don't really have men bothering anymore as I believe one I cleared my energy of that and two I'm in my 50's. Certainly as a single woman men still 'hit' me up at times for a sexual encounter but it doesn't affect me at a traumatic level if anything it just annoys me that they think it's ok.

 

[thisismybody]

Sounds like you have nothing to worry about! :bows:

 

[goddessliss]

Sounds like you have nothing to worry about! :bows:

It's not that I'm worried, it's that I'm frustrated....I just want to be able to do this without being sexually 'harrassed' by someone. Seriously.

 

[loverofknowledge]

It is smart to trust your intuition, and heed your warning signals, I sense. And know that you can be Still and your instincts will protect you. You could just distance yourself from the person, in question, if it seems like his motives are a bit off.

 

[goddessliss]

It is smart to trust your intuition, and heed your warning signals, I sense. And know that you can be Still and your instincts will protect you. You could just distance yourself from the person, in question, if it seems like his motives are a bit off.

Except he's one of our trainers....that's why it's tricky and that's why I asked my original question.

 

[loverofknowledge]

Oh yes, more complicated. Still you will do it -- find a way to maintain boundaries and to get support, as needed.

 

[thisismybody]

It is smart to trust your intuition, and heed your warning signals, I sense. And know that you can be Still and your instincts will protect you. You could just distance yourself from the person, in question, if it seems like his motives are a bit off.

I actually wrote something like this in my first comment. I erased it because I had already bossed you enough! But 'tis great advice! I also added this:

find a way to maintain boundaries and to get support, as needed.

Dang, loverofknowledge, we're mind-melding! Way better than mind-****ing! Oops. Language.

 

[thisismybody]

Goddess,

You don't have to put up with anything like that, no matter if he's your trainer. Just another opportunity the universe has given you to sandbag the frontline.

 

[goddessliss]

Thanks guys.....I don't take anything you say as bossing me. Whenever others respond to my threads or I respond to others threads I know something helpful can be taken away from it. For me it makes me think about things mostly in a different way to my own thinking - I have to admit I'm not very 'street savy' at all.

What is sandbag the frontline??
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[Tim K]

Set up the defenses, be prepared I guess

 

[goddessliss]

Thanks ashteroid - yes being prepared is a good way to look at it without actually doing anything as the reading suggests. Haha I love your lego one and we actually have sandbags in readiness for the floods - no harm in using them for somethin' else
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[thisismybody]

Haha! Yes, just a way to say, you're an intelligent, wise woman, so use your resources to "man" the post that is your being with "fortified" boundaries. Sandbags! Not out of fear, just savvy.