21: 1+4 ->23 let go?

[shelbymustang]

Hi everyone, I hope you are all well.

Big shifts in my life at the moment, old ways, old patterns, old thoughts and feelings falling away, determination to free myself from my past and start afresh.

But I can't quite decide whether I should let go of a certain person...it's possible he is one of those strange ones who arrive for a short part of life's journey and who unwittingly teach you a lot...I'm a sentimental soft hearted lady and its true I did wonder if perhaps this had some magical romantic potential...

So I asked "Please help me know what the right thing to do about A is."
and received 21: 1+4 -> 23

In a nutshell I'm thinking that it's time to bite the bullet and let go...?

I also asked "What does my heart say about A?" 58: 4 -> 60
My heart is restraining itself because he's not the man who can give me what I most want.

"What does my head say about A?" 31: 2,3+4 -> 29
It's time for me to really be ME, to stand up but to do it gracefully...with ease..not forceful...not be influenced by him or feelings of needing him to be "the one".
So stop pursuing this situation, pull back and be independent, be who I truly am, quit trying to impress him, chill out, do your own thing.

I'm in danger of landing myself in the type of mindset and situation which I've been in before which has wrecked my head and my heart. Time to grow up and stop this in its tracks before it's too late.

I figure that if I really need to ask these questions then, y'know things are probably not right...my heart knows.

What do you all think of my takes on these 3 readings? Advice gratefully received, because it's difficult when emotions get tangled up isn't it?

love and best wishes
Shelby

 

[shelbymustang]

...just had a thought...could this biting through and stripping be a message to me regarding biting through this infatuation and stripping things back to a simple easy going platonic exchange? He's a cool funny intelligent guy, it's just that I'd rather not have any emotional entanglements.

 

[ace]

"Please help me know what the right thing to do about A is."

ans. 21: 1+4 -> 23

"Big shifts in my life at the moment, old ways, old patterns, old thoughts and feelings falling away, determination to free myself from my past and start afresh." I think this is important to your answer.

I think the first line is acknowledging that "old ways, old patterns, old thoughts and feelings" are controlling how you are responding, and thus might be creating the challenges. The second line is showing you how to allow "old ways, old patterns, old thoughts and feelings (fall) away, (so I can use) determination to free myself from my past and (I can ) start afresh".

This is LISE 21.4 "Only when one goes to the bottom of things, one finds the causes of trouble. Nobody likes to go there, finding problems which are difficult to solve. But it is the only way to make things work really good." This process will allow you to cut to the core of the issues or yourself (figuratively of course) so you can use "determination to free myself from my past and start afresh".

Work on yourself and the process you outlined above ("Big shifts in my life ..."), and the issues with A will become clear.

 

[shelbymustang]

Ace you are indeed ace!

Of course! you're so right, I'm just going to have to surrender to the whole process and see how the dust settles. My whole life is changing - very very intense treatment for PTSD over half my life is being sifted through with the finest of fine toothed combs and then released and reprocessed. It is sheer hell and only for the brave or the stupid!

So I can hardly expect to have a clear overview on anything let alone an isolated situation.

I think I'm just panicking in case somehow my life path depends on making the right call on this one situation...that's daft when I look at it from a different perspective.
One grain of sand in an entire desert.

I just need to push everything to the side and get on with healing on a grand scale.

Thank you so much you lovely person xx