24.1>2 Really scared! Should I sell, rent, or keep the faith?

[lilita]

Hello good I Ching people.

I'm in a mess. I really need help! I've really been struggling since the financial meltdown in 2008 - work has been so scarce for me. It turned out to be a good time to reassess everything in my life, so I've been through every kind of upheaval imaginable. My marriage, my career, my goals and priorities. Everything! I've been JUST holding on to my house with my fingernails.

I am now completely broke - some possible projects on the horizon but nothing concrete yet. And the mortgage is due in 3 days. I've been wondering if I should sell or rent my house that I've lived and worked in for 25 years... I LOVE where I live - my modest little cottage, my neighborhood, my community, my town, the surrounding natural environment. If sell up, it will relieve stress and pay my big debts, but I'll never be able to return here - too expensive! If I rent it, it MIGHT work (it needs lot of repairs to be rentable, and I don't have money for that either at the moment), but I'd have to go to live with my husband (we've been separated and I'm not sure I want to go back to him) in another country and risk losing my connection with my local professional community. I fear that would mean the end of my business, not to mention a return to a relationship that I've been unhappy in. The other option is for me to step on the gas of business development - which is what I've BEEN doing, cross my fingers, let the mortgage run behind a little and pray for a client who will give me a deposit SOON! Like tomorrow.

So I asked Yi... to tell me what I need to know now that will help me make a decision. I got 24.1 > 2.

RETURN! I would be so happy if return here meant that work will be returning to me - abundance and prosperity and security - once again! (I used to make a WHOLE lot of money in my business!) That I'll get my mojo back - cuz the last 6 years have broken my self-confidence big time. I do feel sometimes like I've lost my mojo.

But I also see that it could mean something about where I live... like maybe if I do sell, it won't be as hard to return as I currently believe? Or maybe returning to my relationship with my estranged husband? (I am in love with someone else now, but that relationship has been stalled too, as much as I'd love to go live with him, that's not really an option now)

And Hex2 - acceptance? or be like the mare tirelessly roaming the earth?

HELP!!!!! I would really appreciate any wisdom that you experts might be able to share.

Thank you! Lilita

 

[Trojina]

Relax. Unwind...there's less need of this and more of this

24.1 says that one returns from not far. How to interpret in the light of your question ?

Well in practise most often I find 24.1 comes up when I am about to do, or have done, something unnecessary. You think you have to take action, to make drastic change ? You think this is some great portent of things returning which might mean upheaval ? No, I don't think so. 24.1 is very gentle and quiet. No big changes, no fanfare, one just quietly resumes one's path, one's own way of life. Perhaps you will get work again, and that will happen quite gently...or maybe you will find some way you cannot yet see. It's all very low key....nothing startling

I've been wondering if I should sell or rent my house that I've lived and worked in for 25 years... I LOVE where I live - my modest little cottage, my neighborhood, my community, my town, the surrounding natural environment. If sell up, it will relieve stress and pay my big debts, but I'll never be able to return here - too expensive! If I rent it

No I don't think you need to do any of that. The answer says you may continue with your current way of life. I mean as I am not you I cannot say with total certainty that you need not sell or rent....but really this is such a gentle quiet answer to your panic ridden questions. Don't panic. I think the solution to your problems is much more simple than you imagine and doesn't involve any great upheavals.

Hexagram 2 here may show the basis of your life supported as the earth simply supports us ...while we run about panicking...

 

[Trojina]

I forgot to say that what is returned from is not too far gone....which is to say the problems are not so great that things cannot be recovered. So this is a clear answer to 'keep the faith' because Yi is saying the problems you have are not so bad that you cannot ever return from them. Even if you have to take measures to rectify things they won't be great measures. It's all manageable.

 

[lilita]

Thank you so much Trojina!

"Relax. Unwind...there's less need of this and more of this " When I read your first words I laughed! Thank you for THAT! You're probably right... I AM in panic mode. You'd think I'd be used to this by now... but the thought of foreclosure now is really terrifying to me. A few people I know, respected colleagues of mine, lost their homes in the debacle. The threat is real. But I'm not in default YET. I still have 2 more days til the payment goes past due. So I'm on the edge of my seat with worry.

Something else you said also pinged in my consciousness: "Well in practise most often I find 24.1 comes up when I am about to do, or have done, something unnecessary."

I also had a Tarot reading from a friend about this... she said the same thing: Chill out! My "outcome" card was the Hanged Man - which I read as "sacrifice", but which she read as "relax, get a different perspective". So very interesting, no? She ALSO said that I need to have faith that I am SUPPORTED by the universe (very similar to YOUR words)... that's a theme that has been much on my mind lately, as it seems the opposite is so much more true!

Also, about a week or so ago I asked Yi to give me a glimpse my financial situation... I got H14 > H32! Ironic. Or maybe the same message - don't panic. Abundance is with me always...

THANK YOU!!!! Lilita

 

[Trojina]

Remember it is better to call your creditors to make arrangements. As long as you are talking to them you are alright. I'm not sure what country you are in or what your circumstances are but there are debt charities that can advise you in the UK. You aren't in trouble as soon as you miss payments, you just need to talk to them to explain and say how much you can afford to give them and so on.

Maybe you already know all that....I'm just saying if you have debt or can't keep up mortgage repayments there are measures you can take before you need to sell. Often they will let you pay interest only for a while for example. The main thing is to keep communicating.

Yi is saying there isn't a huge problem you cannot recover from but I don't think that doesn't necessarily means 'do nothing and trust the universe' You may need to take small practical steps to manage whatever debt you have right now. Rather than live scared on the edge of your seat call the mortgage people, call debt advice centres...do whatever you need to. You probably already did but I thought I'd better mention it.

 

[lilita]

Thank you Trojina,

Yes I agree. I am not doing nothing... I've been stretched thin between my business development efforts - marketing myself - identifying prospects, sending out letters and my portfolio, calling people, networking like mad, meetings, etc, even considering jobs at a department store (which will not even cover the mortgage payment each month) - and exploring every available avenue about how to sell or rent the house (on my own, or with an agent?), getting appraisals - I've even posted it for rent on our local website and met with 2 possible renters (neither worked out). And trying to figure out where I can live if I do sell or rent! And I've been selling my stuff - all my jewelry is gone, but I'm selling my designer clothes, furniture, etc. It's all been exhausting and stressful!

What I really want to do is just WORK! I'm in the US, in California, and I'm a branding consultant and very accomplished visual identity designer - I have an amazing portfolio, designed many world-famous identites, won many awards.
But I'm not young and I'm not a tech geek - like my friend says "In marketing, if you're a boomer, you're a dinosaur bone." Double that if you're a woman.
Where I live in northern California is right at the center of the organic foods, beauty, health, wellness and sustainability movement. And technology. This is the place to be to have access to those kinds of companies and people. And that's the kind of work I want to do.

Still, I want to work and I feel like my best work is still in me. I know what I want So for me keeping the faith means trusting that I will get busy again - and that all the people I've been talking to about various projects will come through. Meanwhile, I'm trying to be practical and consider my options. And "considering" can only last so long... at some point I need to take action.

I did another IC reading... maybe you want to comment? I asked what would my life be like if I... 1) sold the house, 2) rented the house, 3) keep pursuing my desired work with high energy, let the payment go behind...

answers: 1) if I sold... 12.4.5.6>2
2) if I keep hustling for business... 2.1.2.4>54
3) if I rent... 28.2.6>33

Renting looks like the worst idea! Probably issues with tenants getting complicated?

I also asked Yi "what is the best thing for me to do now about my home?" Answer: 35.1.2.6>54

And "what do I need to know now about the bigger picture of my life path and situation?" Answer: 31.3.5.6>35.

I get this feeling that I need to continue to progress with my life's higher goals, and purpose (to help heart-centered businesses become successful brands!), exert my influence in that direction, even though I feel a little helpless right now. Am I seeing this right, or is it just wishful thinking?

I am grateful to you for taking the time to help me.

 

[Trojina]

Looking through them at a glance...I'm still keeping your 24.1 in mind, and I think your other answers support the original answer. You had 54 as relating hexagram a few times here suggesting there are things beyond your control going on that however much you 'hustle' things may go on at the usual pace or a slower pace than you'd like.

answers: 1) if I sold... 12.4.5.6>2
2) if I keep hustling for business... 2.1.2.4>54
3) if I rent... 28.2.6>33

Renting looks like the worst idea! Probably issues with tenants getting complicated?

1.You said you didn't want to sell. 24.1 said, IMO, there is no need to if you don't want to. I don't think you are going to sell....Yi knows that too and I think is just painting a picture of your thoughts of selling. Also my first thought with 2 as relating hexagram is 'there's nothing there' it returns from whence it came...that is if you sell you have no house.

2. I think the answer is beyond hustling...in fact 2.2 doesn't even have to hustle. I don't know why but I don't think energetic efforts at self promotion are working too well right now. With 2.4 there I think perhaps there are other currents in your life. We can't fast forward all the time.

3. I don't think you want to rent....if you don't want to don't.

I also asked Yi "what is the best thing for me to do now about my home?" Answer: 35.1.2.6>54

Well I'm biased....if you want to stay in it stay in it.

And "what do I need to know now about the bigger picture of my life path and situation?" Answer: 31.3.5.6>35.

Don't be too reactive (31.3) don't think you can solve everything through your efforts. I know we are told we must be endlessly proactive to resolve things but we find through the I Ching there are times when that doesn't work for us. This brings us back to you doing less panicking and more chilling. 31.5 is not a line to be pushed here and there. Focus on your work sure, but in a calm unhurried purposeful way. Try not to get too hyper and be aware the 'bigger picture' can take a lot longer to unfold than we imagine (53 yang change pattern) 54 has come up a few times and the yin pattern is 54 here so I'm not sure how much of a position you are in to direct the pace of things. It looks like things are progressing, (35 as relating) but probabaly not at the speed or in the way you envisage.


I guess I don't have many new thoughts to add. I feel you should sit tight, not panic and allow yourself a bit more time. If you enjoy your work, and it sounds like you do, take it steady, take time to think...don't be thinking you must solve everything right now. I don't think you can anyway. Also you had 2.4 in one of the answers which may indicate things are developing 'behind the scenes' so to speak...which would mean you can't directly affect things as much as you'd like now but that does not mean things aren't changing or working. They may be, it's just for now you can't see how.


It is interesting to me you used the term 'keep the faith' in your title. You already know that you are choosing between having faith and panic selling. I think you already know it's a time to keep faith when you can't tell how things will work out.

I get this feeling that I need to continue to progress with my life's higher goals, and purpose (to help heart-centered businesses become successful brands!), exert my influence in that direction, even though I feel a little helpless right now. Am I seeing this right, or is it just wishful thinking?

I think you are seeing it right.....but don't expect too much too soon. Realise in some ways you are 'on hold', not in control of how things are going and can't see how things will work out. You can still go on doing what you're doing though.

 

[lilita]

Thank you again Trojina - for all your time and effort! You are really helping me, and I can't tell you how much I appreciate it.

I'm taking a deep breath... it's difficult not to be scared and in panic mode under the circumstances. It just feels like my hair is on fire, ya know? But panic mode is NOT conducive to creativity! I'm going to take your advice because it sounds TRUE to me... I'll go on doing everything I've been doing - exploring ALL the options, and just do my best to relax into knowing that whatever happens I'm supported. And get some sleep!

Much love, Lilita

 

[lilita]

Hi Trojina, just one more thing to add... you are VERY intuitive!

"With 2.4 there I think perhaps there are other currents in your life."

"Also you had 2.4 in one of the answers which may indicate things are developing 'behind the scenes' so to speak...which would mean you can't directly affect things as much as you'd like now but that does not mean things aren't changing or working. They may be, it's just for now you can't see how."

you are RIGHT(!) when you say there are "other currents" in my life and that things are perhaps developing "behind the scenes". There IS another whole situation - that's had to be put on the back burner for now - a love situation. With someone who lives a distance from me, and who is a business colleague - I won't say "partner", but he is... sort of... sometimes. And that romance, if there even is one (it's been confusing), has been moving at glacial speed as well. Sometimes I wonder if all this has come up now to divert my attention away from him. If I created this unconciously for that purpose, it's working!!! (Do you hear THAT, universe?) Because I've been pretty intense with him too! But that's for another post sometime. For now, I'm just focused on the home situation.

Thanks again... and again...