24.2.4 > 54 How will my situation with X evolve ?

[Amau65]

Hello everyone !

After starting a relationship with a girl, she stopped suddenly because she decided it was better for her to stay alone for the time being. It happened very suddenly because everything was going well, her attitude didn't really suggest that she'd tell me, even though she'd told me she wanted to take things slowly, everything was developing quietly. There must have been an event that made her question everything (she assures me that it's not because of her ex in himself, but it seems that her separation with this person after 5 years of relationship a few months ago hasn't healed).

I asked how the situation would evolve and here's the yi's answer: 24.2.4 > 54

I interpret this in the simplest of ways as saying that I'm not in a position where I decide, I'm in a lower position (54). But hexagram 24 speaks of a return.

Do you think that 54 speaks of another person being involved? Or does it speak of a situation of inferiority?

24.2 speaks of a peaceful return
24.4 talks about not listening too much to those around you and making up your own mind. However, the return speaks of solitude, or perhaps of working on oneself while waiting on my side. It also speaks of a supportive friend (I'm thinking of my psychologist, who's always good advice), but even with her help I have to go it alone.


Nevertheless, the fact that the yi gives me hexagram 24 seems to be an answer that supports the idea of her return.

What is your opinion ?

Thanks for help

Amau

 

[rosada]

Unfortunately I see these hexagrams as saying the relationship 24. Returns to square one. 54. Says it comes in second.

 

[Amau65]

Unfortunately I see these hexagrams as saying the relationship 24. Returns to square one. 54. Says it comes in second.

CAN you please explain ? I am not sure to understand.

 

[rosada]

24. Return describes a time when it is appropriate to go back to a state of balance, to go back to where you were before the relationship started to fall apart, to go back to being “just friends”.
54. The Marrying Maiden describes a person without power or influence who must wait in line or follow a preordained path As in waiting in line for your friend to see if she ever gets over her ex and even then to see if she even wants to begin a new relationship.
So perhaps tell her you understand and that the two of you can go back to being friends and then take things very slow as 54 is about progressing “one step at a time”.

 

[rosada]

I think it’s interesting to look at the sequence of 53 to 54 to 55:
53. I’m seeing 53. as demonstrating Gradual Progress by first describing in the lower trigram a tragic marriage which culminates with the husband going off to war and wife not raising the child - can’t get much worse than that. Then the next trigram, the upper trigram, describes the next marriage as being quite an improvement and by line 6 it’s a veritable marriage made in heaven. So a great demonstration of Gradual Progress. But then this doesn’t lead immediately to 55 and being at the peak. No, next we have The Marrying Maiden which I think fits here because now we have spelled out the whole path - like it expands and goes into detail on what makes gradual progress happen. Like the IC saying “53. Gradual Progress is when at first you don’t succeed and 54 shows how how you just have to try, try again.” And then finally we come to 55 and reaching the peak. I think it’s so interesting that 55.1 seems to be the best line in the whole hexagram. Like 55.1 is saying, “Ok, you’ve arrived. This is as good as it gets.” And then the lines after that are all about where do we go from here.

Interesting how 54.6 describes the marriage ritual but notes there is no feeling and 55 seems to build on that in saying this is not the time for a mourning ritual either.
I’m not making any specific point here, just sharing. Maybe good for a memory aide.

 

[Amau65]

Thank you for those advices. Help me a lot