28 to 58 relationship help, different countries

[ememmm]

Earlier this year I visited South korea, I met a guy there and we started an amazing relationship, It was the first time i felt so close to another individual, I met his entire family besides his mother and we all really liked eachtoher, unfortunatly i had to come back to the u.s for 5 months, and planned to move back in november, I am moving back november 12th of this year. when i came back saldy his education got in the way, in korea college is very important to the famly and he would often study 12 hour days, so he cut off communication with me completely, it broke my heart but I understood, a few weeks ago I messaged his friend and his friend told me that my ex Han missed me a lot but was very busy and had no time to even call him. after accepting that our relationship was over it kind of sparked a new hope in me, feeling lost I asked the I ching, will my ex ever open up communication with me again or when i go back to korea

I got I ching hexagarm 28 test of faith lines 1 and 3 changing into hexagram 58 joyusness

can anyone give me a sound interpretation of this I would really appreciate it I am in a tough spot right now emotionally. and I need some guidance.

 

[gnar]

Well, let me give it a shot.

Line 1 -- This to me, if I had to ask your question myself, is about very fragile things. If I had to do something, I better be really careful. As if my life depended on it. I would do it whole heatedly, and carefully. This mean, I won't take any chances, and before proceeding, inquire if the facts tell me I'm not driving straight into a wall.

Line 3 -- This is about being placed in a position that's near to a breaking point. Or me taking on a burden that could probably cause everything to fall apart. I better take some of this load off, and ask for help before things become ugly.

So, if I were the one to have your concern, I would be thinking about what the other person is contributing to the situation. If I was you, I'd say, "I've contributed to him by respecting his decision to focus on his studies". But then again, at line 3, I'd think, if I keep on waiting for him like this, I might not make it through with a well intact heart.

So before I break, I'd ask the ex. And demand an honest answer. If he can't give me an honest answer, then he's not thinking of my situation or is too focused on his own, or doesn't know my situation. So, I'd tell him, "I want to have a relationship with you, and if you'd make me wait, that would be hard for me. Do you think we could still be a normal couple even with your studies?" I'd seriously need him to show me that he really cares.

But then again, whatever the answer might be, the question will come back to me. I'd say, "Can I live with this [answer here]?"

Or something like that.