31.2.3.5 40 Relationship

[Wairua]

Hi everyone, hope you are all well.

I moved home and things went amazingly with the new Mr X. And then it kind of all went wrong.

He didn't apologise and hasn't contacted. Although I text and he replied I haven't heard anything since. I am trying to pushing it to the back of my mind and just do me.

But I asked "What can I expect from a relationship with X" and got 31.2.3.5 40.

31 sounds great but the lines don't look good for us.

31.2 staying in place or Not connecting
31.3 influence in the thighs which I feel is sexual only and so going on brings shame
31.5 ineffective actions not from the heart

40 Is releasing.

So sadly this seems to have been an illusion. I'd appreciate a second opinion, still a novice but getting a little more confident. Thanks heaps

 

[Wairua]

Hi all an update:

Today he did apologise and explain. It still haven't gone back to him. He said he has commitment issues, which could explain not from the heart in 31.5.

But again I asked the same question and got 48.3 29 which I think is auspicious ☺ we're in the abyss and 48.3 it saddens everyone that we aren't together, I just have to be clever and know when the kings vision is clear. That unavailability might.. let him see the opportunity he's missing.

I felt it was a significant connection but I could be lost in my damaged past and repeating... its so hard to see lol. I feel a clumsy novice with my interpretation, please guide me if I'm wrong.

 

[diamanda]

Your interpretations are excellent Wairua.

What can I expect from a relationship with X, 31.2.3.5 > 40
Yes I'm afraid I'll agree, it does look like this relationship is based on sexual gratification/relief.
Hidden line 28.3 shows that his levels of interest are not great... but hidden 48.5 shows potential.

I asked the same question and got 48.3 > 29
So although his heart is not it in, there is still mutual benefit. We often underestimate the power of sexual gratification. I don't know how old you are, but the times when others are sexually interested in us does not last for a life-time. 29 shows that this is a danger you've been through before. So ok he's missing an opportunity for something more meaningful, I totally agree there. But maybe you're also missing out on an opportunity too. I guess it's a matter of negotiation - seeing what the other person has to offer, and deciding what you'd be willing to accept and what not. 'Love' is (or can start as) a matter of sexual gratification for many people, so perhaps the clarity missing is where does each of you stands exactly in such an equation.

 

[Wairua]

Thank you very much Diamanda, for the confirmation.

I must start pausing to look at the hidden lines they do give more depth and yes 48.5 I feel that potential. I think that's what scares him. I am 48 (he's 45) and yes 29 fearful of being used for my looks or figure.

I feel like time is running out I'll be a great looking spinster with a bunch of failed relationships lol I hadn't thought about present enjoyment...

Thank you again I've valued many of your postings and am really grateful for your thoughtful response.

I will get myself clear on negotiating. I've said "must be committed lol and focused on me :: always he'll probably keep running

 

[diamanda]

Wairua we're in the same age group.
Let's not start the talk of 'gorgeous spinsters' yet, we haven't said our last word have we?

I truly don't believe anyone is "scared" - it all comes down to what one wants.
If this guy just wants to play around forever, then that's that - don't take it personally.
And if you truly want someone committed, then lay down your rules too

 

[Wairua]

Wairua we're in the same age group.
Let's not start the talk of 'gorgeous spinsters' yet, we haven't said our last word have we?

I truly don't believe anyone is "scared" - it all comes down to what one wants.
If this guy just wants to play around forever, then that's that - don't take it personally.
And if you truly want someone committed, then lay down your rules too

no last words here lol

I told him I wanted commitment he offered friendship . It's easier given our conversation and you're right it comes down to wants.

I asked about his commitment and got 64.2 lol cease and desist darn it. Better focus on something practical like getting a new job.

Have a great day!