32.1.4>11 regarding expectation For marriage

[Nala56]

Hello guys

I have asked iching in my last post( over 2 months ago), about meeting a guy after a long-distance relationship, and which way would work better for us, I asked if it is better him coming here I live to meet and I got 46.1>48 , or if it is better to travel to our homeland to meet and I got 63 unchanging.

So now he came here ti meet me and we had a great time, after he left he contacted me and everything looked good. Then I asked iching if he is going to marry me? And I got 37.6>63.

But now it has been like 10 days he hasn't contacted me after I last called him.

I asked Iching again today if I should wait for this marriage and I got 32.1.4>11

I got lots of hex 63 and now this.

Could anyone please help me with this sequences?

I am really confused and overwhelmed

Please help me interpret all these hexagrams.

I will reallybappreciate your help.

Thanks a lot in advance

 

[altair139]

all of your hexes are auspicious for marriage. However the changing line (32.1) is telling you to take it slow and let things develop gradually. Marriage is an important matter and it shouldn't be rushed.

37.6 is very good when asked for marriage. It means the feeling is mutual and sincere.

Hex 63 means you have to follow this relationship till the end if you want it to work out.

 

[Nala56]

But today after i asked him abou his feelings and he wanted to think about it during the weekend, he texted me an appologized if he hurt me and said it will be better dor both of us to have their own life...
I am foul of doubt even more tha brokenhewart
What was all these iching hexes abou for this lone time????
Could iching be changed? Even after having the same numbers over and over?
I will tprealli appreciate if some one could give me an explanation to calm me down
My heart is qbout to explode...

 

[altair139]

well it is possible for the readings to be wrong if you keep asking the same questions, or many questions in one day. Plus the readings can be incorrect depends on how well you follow the instruction suggested in the iching.

hex 63 in love reading could mean a break up, but i read in a marriage context, so maybe i misread that point.

Right now my advice is that you should cool down a bit, collect your thought then ask the Yi again tomorrow, only one question regarding this relationship.

 

[Nala56]

Thank you very much
But what should I ask?

 

[Nala56]

Thank you very much
But what should I ask?

 

[mirian]

I asked iching if he is going to marry me? And I got 37.6>63.

But now it has been like 10 days he hasn't contacted me after I last called him.

I asked Iching again today if I should wait for this marriage and I got 32.1.4>11

Hi Nala56,

Sorry to hear about your heartache, but I have just had a look at your readings and none of them were actually predicting anything like marriage at all. I know it is a bit late to say anything about your readings, but let's just take 32.1.4 >> 11 as an example:
Line 1 is very clear about someone getting a bad result by trying to push things too hard, trying to achieve things too quickly, not letting things to develop properly, at their own pace. You want too much too soon and end up with nothing.
Line 4 is about looking for things in the wrong place, it is about trying to achieve something that is not possible, or pursuing things that only exist in your imagination.

So, there is nothing wrong with the way you asked your questions. But you will have to learn how to use your readings as advice and guidance for your actions in the future.

Just to add something: readings are neither "right" nor "wrong". Readings can reflect the moment that the question is asked or even the emotional state of the person who asks. Readings can sometimes predict the future, but there isn't such a thing as right or wrong reading. :bows:

 

[altair139]

I believe that readings sometimes can be wrong because so many changing lines are suggestions or advises, and the transformed hexagram is the outcome IF you follow that suggestion. Thus the matter of right or wrong depends on how you ask the questions. A question like "How are things right now?" will more likely be correct compared to complex questions such as "How will things be if I do blah blah" or "What should I do if I want (somebody) back?".

Back to this matter, hexagram 32 is actually a very popular hexagram for marriage. It's "duration", which means a long lasting relationship.

The strong trigram Chên is above, the weak trigram Sun below. This
hexagram is the inverse of the preceding one. In the latter we have influence,
here we have union as an enduring condition. The two images are thunder
and wind, which are likewise constantly paired phenomena. The lower
trigram indicates gentleness within; the upper, movement without.

In the sphere of social relationships, the hexagram represents the institution
of marriage as the enduring union of the sexes. During courtship the young
man subordinates himself to the girl, but in marriage, which is represented by
the coming together of the eldest son and the eldest daughter, the husband is
the directing and moving force outside, while the wife, inside, is gentle and
submissive.

However, if there are changing lines, they will be deciding factors. In my method, when there's a six and a nine changing line in a hexagram, the six line prevails, which I have stated above that Nala shouldn't be rushing. But it seems that Nala did ask about his feeling out of either curiosity or impatience thus I think he got alarmed. This is where it gets rocky and hexagram 11 couldn't come about (by right if Nala just lets it go smoothly they should be still exchanging conversations like hexagram 11 is predicting). Not blaming you btw Nala because I was impatient once and my readings became bitter too ==.
This is predicted in the changing line number 1: "He who demands too much at once is acting precipitately, and because he attempts too much, he ends by succeeding in nothing."

Thank you very much
But what should I ask?

I cant really advise you on that, it's up to you. Any question is fine, but limit to one question only.

 

[kincadefoster]

IMO there are to many f**king games and rules in the dating world. Be authentic I say. You spent time with him, asked him about his feelings and he is distancing so find someone who doesn't do that.

I firmly believe the right ppl for us exist, somewhere....

 

[mirian]

The transformed hexagram is the outcome IF you follow that suggestion
Hexagram 32 is actually a very popular hexagram for marriage.

Totally disagree. It is simplistic to suggest that if you do A (main hexagram) you get B (relating hexagram).

The relationship in question did not fail because she didn't follow the advice. It failed because her readings were already showing that the relationship was not built in solid grounds: two people with different timing, one having expectations that the other couldn't meet. Her readings were a clear picture of that moment.

In the future things might change, but we cannot tell just judging by her present readings.

 

[altair139]

No the main hexagram should only be the theme of the question if there are changing lines. That's what i meant by popularity. Hex 32, as well as 8, 13, 16, 17, 19, 31, 37 usually come out in a love reading (if it looks positive). There are cases when the main hexagram looks auspicious but the changing lines are very bad thus the situation itself is bad and vice versa. In this case 32.1 seems bad but not THAT bad because if the advise is taken then hexagram 11 will come about. Also, because their relationship is built loosely, it makes more sense that the advice should be taken more closely. 32.1 is like screaming out that the relationship should be given some time to mature.
In chinese theory, karma is one of the main concepts of iching, there is cause and effect. Hence the transformed hexagram is usually an effect of a cause in the changing lines of the main hexagram.

 

[Nala56]

Ok thank you all for your very kind attention,
Today I asked last question about this relationship,
I asked Iching what if I just wait with no action? Would he be back to me and choose this relationship with me?

And I got 48.5.6>18

I just decided to do nothing and wait and see what he would do and here is my answer!

Could you kondly please interpret this for me?

Thank you very much
It will definitely make me feel more comfortable.

Thanks again

 

[Nala56]

So any advice for my new one? Please

 

[Nala56]

Sonany new opinion for my new hex? Please

 

[Nala56]

So do you have any new sign about this new hex please?

 

[Nala56]

Ok thank you all for your very kind attention,
Today I asked last question about this relationship,
I asked Iching what if I just wait with no action? Would he be back to me and choose this relationship with me?

And I got 48.5.6>18

I just decided to do nothing and wait and see what he would do and here is my answer!

Could you kondly please interpret this for me?

Thank you very much
It will definitely make me feel more comfortable.

Thanks again

 

[Nala56]

Still bo advice?
Please somebody help me
I really need it...

 

[diamanda]

Hi Nala,

If you wait without any action, 48.5.6>18
48.5 = you have pure feelings
48.6 = you are open and waiting
18 = but nothing will happen, the situation is rotten

I'm sorry for not having a more positive interpretation... Wishing you well to find somebody else, this guy doesn't seem to be right for you.

 

[ginnie]

Would he be back to me and choose this relationship with me?
And I got 48.5.6>18

Here at Online Clarity we like to point out that the second hexagram is not usually the result but the context in which the question is being asked. I wouldn't say that hexagram 18 always points to something rotten. It can also point to something that needs to be fixed or worked on. There is a need to consider the matter for three days before acting. And then after some result, there is a need to consider for another three days about what happened. I think 48.5.6 > 18 is an interesting answer and it gives you reason to hope.

 

[Nala56]

Thank you so much for all your advice,
But another thing, since I asked if I remain with no action and asked about his action,
Could that be about him? Who has pure feelings forbme? Ang about 18, is trying to fix things?

Thanks a lot again

 

[Nala56]

Thank you so much for all your advice,
But another thing, since I asked if I remain with no action and asked about for his action,
Could that be about him? Who has pure feelings forbme? Ang about 18, is trying to fix things?

Thanks a lot again

 

[Nala56]

No idea friends?...

 

[mirian]

Hi Nala,

Just a suggestion. Your reading has already been interpreted for you. So, you should now reflect on what has been said to you, rather than try to jump to conclusions, such as if this guy is trying to fix things up. Nobody has said that to you.

Also, I think it is useful to remind you that you had already hex 32 lines 1 and 4 warning very clearly that you need to let things develop and happen by themselves. I have noticed that you had two threads at the same time with the same reading, asking over and over for interpretation.

My question to you is: if you cannot even wait until people on this forum have the time to address your questions how can you possibly give this guy the time and space so much needed for any relationship to develop?

Just a thought for you reflect on.:bows:

 

[Nala56]

Thanks mirian,
But since this last hex has said a lot about timing I just wanted to know if it is me should do something or him? Since U had asked about his action, not mine...

 

[mirian]

Nala,

At this point I can only suggest that you go back to the beginning of your threads and read the interpretations again very carefully until you are actually able to absorb what has been said to you. You seem to be believe that there is something that YOU have or can do about this situation, when in fact there is nothing. You should try to exercise NOT to push or interfere on things or people. That would be good for you. Best of luck :bows: