32.2.5 relationship

[luciliuz]

Hi friends,
I've been reading many threads about this combination,
but I feel I'm losing the point..

The background is an on off relationship with someone, married,
who likes to play cat an mouse with me, and it goes on and off since 3 years.
Oh, I know I must let it go, probably not ready yet, I put a distance, he comes back sweeter,
takes me in again, that's the circle.
In the last months things changed, I've been leaving most of the time in another city,
and the fact I was faraway allowed him to be more gentle, loving, 'present',
when I was coming back as when I wasn't there.
Now I'm back in town, and suddenly he's retreating himself, pretty obvious, isn't it?
I was hoping we'd found a trusting way between us but I was probably wrong.
I should take advantage of it, this is the occasion to let it go once for all,
but the fact is I'm struggling waiting for a sign, this thing of restrain myself to contact him is resulting hard,
and sometimes to force themselves is not the best thing to do...

so I asked how should I behave,

32.2.5>31
line 2 seems to refear to fears, mine or his.. or both?
line 5 seems to suggest I should be the 'woman', let him do the man.. not make any move, I guess.

I'd like to ask you if you have any insight, when something is about oursrselves it's very easy to lose the whole picture,
thanks a lot,

Lucia

 

[ginnie]

You have cast the hexagram of an enduring relationship, one that lasts through thick and thin. Line 2 says that you are satisfied; regrets vanish. It is a line of great success in long-term relationships. Line 5 says that that a woman needs to be constant, while a man might have other priorities, especially of a public nature. Your hexagram 31 as the relating hexagram indicates that you and he influence one another very strongly. It is difficult to see, from the reading, where this relationship is going wrong from your point of view. Is it always an internet relationship, for example?

 

[luciliuz]

Thanks Ginnie,
it is actually, more than physical. he likes to makes me feel his 'presence' online most of the time,
I'm amazed from your intuition. We see each other rarely compared the time we spend online,
it doesn't make the connection less strong, on the contrary. But it's something that leaves me
with a sense of frustration, incompleteness.

 

[ginnie]

All relationships are imperfect. Just look at him. He is married and yet he seeks to impress you online with his 'presence.' So there must be something missing in his marriage, don't you think? Why isn't he busy impressing his wife with his presence?

I think you and he need each other strongly and so, the relationship will continue. Try to focus on what you are getting from the relationship, not what is missing.

 

[luciliuz]

I'll do it Ginnie,
and thanks for your enlightening point view,
Lucia

 

[long yi]

起卦时间：2014年10月24日17时24分
神煞：天乙—丑未　福星—申　日禄—巳　羊刃—午　驿马—寅　桃花—酉　华盖—辰
干支：甲午年　甲戌月　戊辰日　辛酉时
旬空：辰巳　　申酉　　戌亥　　子丑

六神　 伏神 　　　震宫：雷风恒　　　　　　　　　　兑宫：泽山咸
　　　　　　　　　【本　卦】　　　　　　　　　　　【变　卦】
朱雀　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　妻财庚戌土　应　　　▅▅　▅▅　妻财丁未土　应
青龙　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　官鬼庚申金　　×→　 ▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼丁酉金　　
玄武　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　子孙庚午火　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　父母丁亥水　　
白虎　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼辛酉金　世　　　▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼丙申金　世
滕蛇　兄弟庚寅木　▅▅▅▅▅　父母辛亥水　　○→　▅▅　▅▅　子孙丙午火　　
勾陈　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　妻财辛丑土　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　妻财丙辰土　

Line 32.3 is you and Line 32.6 is him.
You two have verbal disagreement.

32.3 officer you metal means: You think of him, but you know he is not there for you in a partnership (you metal sits empty under the house of marriage).

32.6 female line xu earth: He thinks of you or another female, but also know that you or the other female is not part of his spousal relationship (xu earth is empty under the house of spouse).

This is the month of xu earth = house of partnership. Thus despite all these, he is still with you here and there.

32.2 is the relationship hai water.. Hai water is also empty under the house of spouse. The relationship is not working. Hidden behind the 32.2 line is a third party yin wood, this person is the move, on the way out.

I do not know whether this is his or your relationship.

32.2 changes into a child line and I do not know whether a child or children is involved. This child is connected to the female at 31.6

32.5 changes into 31.5 officer shen metal to you metal. There may be one man or a second man in this picture. Moving further away with no confidence in his relationship.

31 means a sexual relationship (opposite attracts). 31.6 and 31.1 are both female lines which set the boundary of the hexagram. The man with no faith in a partnership, the child, the failing relationship are within the hexagram.

Sugar coated conversation is not going to help. Since both party know what is going on. The hexagram does not provide a clear answer what the female querent is supposed to do.

Second hexagram is 15.6 to 52 (casted today)

起卦时间：2014年10月28日05时35分
神煞：天乙—卯巳　福星—卯　日禄—亥　羊刃—子　驿马—寅　桃花—酉　华盖—辰
干支：甲午年　甲戌月　壬申日　癸卯时
旬空：辰巳　　申酉　　戌亥　　辰巳

六神　 伏神 　　　兑宫：地山谦　15　　　　　　　　　艮宫：艮为山（六冲）52
　　　　　　　　　【本　卦】　　　　　　　　　　　【变　卦】
白虎　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　兄弟癸酉金　　×→　▅▅▅▅▅　妻财丙寅木　世
滕蛇　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　子孙癸亥水　世　　　▅▅　▅▅　子孙丙子水　　
勾陈　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母癸丑土　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母丙戌土　　
朱雀　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟丙申金　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟丙申金　应
青龙　妻财丁卯木　▅▅　▅▅　官鬼丙午火　应　　　▅▅　▅▅　官鬼丙午火　　
玄武　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母丙辰土　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母丙辰土

Concerning the 15.6 to 52 hexagram.

Hexagram 15 means the man has many female friends (1 yang line and 5 yin line).

15.5 means you (hai water, empty element) who does not have control over him (wu fire) at 15.2.
There is a female hidden behind 15.2 probably him.

15.6 shows that a third party (man) runnning towards another female who wants to leave a relationship.
52 is a six strike hexagram. This means the relationship has failed, will fail.

 

[luciliuz]

起卦时间：2014年10月24日17时24分
神煞：天乙—丑未　福星—申　日禄—巳　羊刃—午　驿马—寅　桃花—酉　华盖—辰
干支：甲午年　甲戌月　戊辰日　辛酉时
旬空：辰巳　　申酉　　戌亥　　子丑

六神　 伏神 　　　震宫：雷风恒　　　　　　　　　　兑宫：泽山咸
　　　　　　　　　【本　卦】　　　　　　　　　　　【变　卦】
朱雀　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　妻财庚戌土　应　　　▅▅　▅▅　妻财丁未土　应
青龙　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　官鬼庚申金　　×→　 ▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼丁酉金　　
玄武　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　子孙庚午火　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　父母丁亥水　　
白虎　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼辛酉金　世　　　▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼丙申金　世
滕蛇　兄弟庚寅木　▅▅▅▅▅　父母辛亥水　　○→　▅▅　▅▅　子孙丙午火　　
勾陈　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　妻财辛丑土　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　妻财丙辰土　

Line 32.3 is you and Line 32.6 is him.
You two have verbal disagreement.

32.3 officer you metal means: You think of him, but you know he is not there for you in a partnership (you metal sits empty under the house of marriage).

32.6 female line xu earth: He thinks of you or another female, but also know that you or the other female is not part of his spousal relationship (xu earth is empty under the house of spouse).

This is the month of xu earth = house of partnership. Thus despite all these, he is still with you here and there.

32.2 is the relationship hai water.. Hai water is also empty under the house of spouse. The relationship is not working. Hidden behind the 32.2 line is a third party yin wood, this person is the move, on the way out.

I do not know whether this is his or your relationship.

32.2 changes into a child line and I do not know whether a child or children is involved. This child is connected to the female at 31.6

32.5 changes into 31.5 officer shen metal to you metal. There may be one man or a second man in this picture. Moving further away with no confidence in his relationship.

31 means a sexual relationship (opposite attracts). 31.6 and 31.1 are both female lines which set the boundary of the hexagram. The man with no faith in a partnership, the child, the failing relationship are within the hexagram.

Sugar coated conversation is not going to help. Since both party know what is going on. The hexagram does not provide a clear answer what the female querent is supposed to do.

Second hexagram is 15.6 to 52 (casted today)

起卦时间：2014年10月28日05时35分
神煞：天乙—卯巳　福星—卯　日禄—亥　羊刃—子　驿马—寅　桃花—酉　华盖—辰
干支：甲午年　甲戌月　壬申日　癸卯时
旬空：辰巳　　申酉　　戌亥　　辰巳

六神　 伏神 　　　兑宫：地山谦　15　　　　　　　　　艮宫：艮为山（六冲）52
　　　　　　　　　【本　卦】　　　　　　　　　　　【变　卦】
白虎　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　兄弟癸酉金　　×→　▅▅▅▅▅　妻财丙寅木　世
滕蛇　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　子孙癸亥水　世　　　▅▅　▅▅　子孙丙子水　　
勾陈　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母癸丑土　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母丙戌土　　
朱雀　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟丙申金　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟丙申金　应
青龙　妻财丁卯木　▅▅　▅▅　官鬼丙午火　应　　　▅▅　▅▅　官鬼丙午火　　
玄武　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母丙辰土　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母丙辰土

Concerning the 15.6 to 52 hexagram.

Hexagram 15 means the man has many female friends (1 yang line and 5 yin line).

15.5 means you (hai water, empty element) who does not have control over him (wu fire) at 15.2.
There is a female hidden behind 15.2 probably him.

15.6 shows that a third party (man) runnning towards another female who wants to leave a relationship.
52 is a six strike hexagram. This means the relationship has failed, will fail.

I see your reply only now,
many thanks long yi,
Lucia