35.3 to 56 about a difficult romantic situation

[millicano]

I truly hope someone can give me som clarity to this 35.3 -56 answer to the
"What is the general status of X intetions with me.." question..
The background story is
We work on the same company but different city and department.. He knew me from somewhere before but I dont reckon seeing him at any time,,
We were on a company trip to Lissabon that lasted 3 days..
the two of us had really fun on that trip, even on a level that is not suitable because he Is married..
We didnt swift phone numbers, but for a couple of days ago he took contact with me thru FB..
I truly fell for the guy and that why I really need to know what His intentions are towards me/us..
But at the same time... He is involved somewhere else..
I'd be grateful for some feedback and help..

 

[millicano]

*LOL*.. absolutely not but I wasnt the one whos married... and I didnt force him to do anything... not even thru FB... that is his choice and I do think people in general are quite intelligent and dont disturb that doesnt need any disturbance....
What happend, happend and lets NOT stir the pot if one doesnt need to.... we are never gonna meet again at work so he doesnt have to be my frien anywhere... *LOL*

This question was on the subject "what is he after".... not What I really want would happen and so forth..
My mantra is "clean the closet of everything that can give rememberance and move on"

So... is that guy stupid or..? does he really want to stir the pot and disturb a lot of things for him self...

 

[millicano]

AND PLEASE...!!! i truly dont need any moralisatizing here... ... thanks a lot in advance...

 

[millicano]

and to newlife123.... nowaday's we have phones.Letters, email and other magical www things to contact people we want to... but it is still a choice one must take to make that step... so I dont see FB as a minor way to get in touch... an easy one perhaps...

 

[millicano]

newlife123 erased his comment... why..?, only he knows.... because only one knows why one do sertain things the way one do....
so please...
someone who can give me clarity to what i need to know from this aswer from ICHING..

 

[millicano]

according to LiSe
35. The Gift

Advance
The marquis of Kang benefits of a gift of horses to breed a multitude, mating them three times a day

" Prosperity does not arrive by itself, it visits the people with the right attitude. The one who always carries along arrows is probably the only one who comes home from a walk with a rabbit for dinner. The lord of Kang grasped the opportunity of a gift to breed a meadow full of horses. The first one who sees a gap in the market builds up the multinational.
Grasp the small chances, do not wait for the big one to arrive, stay alert with eyes and ears and hands ready, and a quiver filled with arrows. "

maybe he wants to have the tools , arrows(contact) to act in the future when and if the time is right and if he wants to do so..

6 at 3: All consent. Regrets disappear.
The positivism in one's own heart is the condition for prosperity. Things, animals, people, heaven, they all love the one who has good fortune living in his heart, and they all will cooperate. One's own good luck creates good luck.

He wants to keep the door open to have contact easily when and if the time arrives...

Hexagram 56

Itinerant troops

Itinerant
Small expansion
A determination about wandering is auspicious

In every country, even far away from home, one finds the same universal rules. Human rules can differ fundamentally, but the voice of the gods is everywhere the same.
Who hears these voices can speak all languages on earth, he will find safety and a home wherever he is. God and Allah and Manitou and Buddha all come from the same source, only the names are different. So speak and behave from out this source, and accept the human rules as being part of the local landscape. Adapt to them with extra care, to make up for being unfamiliar with them.
In every unknown and new situation, behave like being in a strange country.


Maybe he is in a "no'mansland"...

9 at 3: The troops burn their lodgings, lose their boy-servants. Determination danger.
When a dangerous task has to be accomplished, it is better to burn one’s ships. Fear is strong, but without a refuge it is easier to cope with. When troops start marching to the war, they remove their camp, so the decision is definite.

he knows he has to leave a clean plate if he wants to move on....a choice he has to make and that he knows he has to take and is a definitive one.. whatever his choice might be..

enlight me with your knowledge and experience, friends...

 

[millicano]

according to LiSe
35. The Gift

Advance
The marquis of Kang benefits of a gift of horses to breed a multitude, mating them three times a day

" Prosperity does not arrive by itself, it visits the people with the right attitude. The one who always carries along arrows is probably the only one who comes home from a walk with a rabbit for dinner. The lord of Kang grasped the opportunity of a gift to breed a meadow full of horses. The first one who sees a gap in the market builds up the multinational.
Grasp the small chances, do not wait for the big one to arrive, stay alert with eyes and ears and hands ready, and a quiver filled with arrows. "

maybe he wants to have the tools , arrows(contact) to act in the future when and if the time is right and if he wants to do so..

6 at 3: All consent. Regrets disappear.
The positivism in one's own heart is the condition for prosperity. Things, animals, people, heaven, they all love the one who has good fortune living in his heart, and they all will cooperate. One's own good luck creates good luck.

He wants to keep the door open to have contact easily when and if the time arrives...

Hexagram 56

Itinerant troops

Itinerant
Small expansion
A determination about wandering is auspicious

In every country, even far away from home, one finds the same universal rules. Human rules can differ fundamentally, but the voice of the gods is everywhere the same.
Who hears these voices can speak all languages on earth, he will find safety and a home wherever he is. God and Allah and Manitou and Buddha all come from the same source, only the names are different. So speak and behave from out this source, and accept the human rules as being part of the local landscape. Adapt to them with extra care, to make up for being unfamiliar with them.
In every unknown and new situation, behave like being in a strange country.


Maybe he is in a "no'mansland"...

9 at 3: The troops burn their lodgings, lose their boy-servants. Determination danger.
When a dangerous task has to be accomplished, it is better to burn one’s ships. Fear is strong, but without a refuge it is easier to cope with. When troops start marching to the war, they remove their camp, so the decision is definite.

he knows he has to leave a clean plate if he wants to move on....a choice he has to make and that he knows he has to take and is a definitive one.. whatever his choice might be..

enlight me with your knowledge and experience, friends...

 

[millicano]

thanks for all the help...

 

[long yi]

出生时间：年　性别：女　起卦方式：直接指定
起卦时间：2013年06月10日19时41分
起卦农历：癸巳年五月初三日戌时
神煞：天乙—酉亥　福星—酉　日禄—午　羊刃—巳　驿马—巳　桃花—子　华盖—未
干支：癸巳年　戊午月　丁未日　庚戌时
旬空：午未　　子丑　　寅卯　　寅卯


六神　 伏神 　　　乾宫：火地晋（游魂）　　　　　离宫：火山旅（六合）
　　　　　　　　　【本　卦】　　　　　　　　　　　【变　卦】
青龙　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼己巳火　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼己巳火　　
玄武　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母己未土　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母己未土　　
白虎　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟己酉金　世　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟己酉金　应
滕蛇　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　妻财乙卯木　　×→　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟丙申金　　
勾陈　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　官鬼乙巳火　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　官鬼丙午火　　
朱雀　子孙甲子水　▅▅　▅▅　父母乙未土　应　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母丙辰土　世

1. It would not work. Upper trigram is 56 is Li fire and lower trigram is ken earth. The ken earth is fueled by the fire above. 體生用，婚難成. This relationship will not result in marriage.
2. You are not present in hexagram 56.
3. Line 1 of 35 is him. He is in a relationship (parent line), possibility with children (child hidden line).
4. Line 6 of hexagram 56, is movement star is si fire. He is leaving.

 

[millicano]

my question was about the "general status of X intentions with me"

He is already married with children...... so this is a reminder "oh no girl... he will never marry you.."
He is leaving something/someone/ a situation... well Its not me he is leaving, because I never had Him... ..?



so he is like every other guy and does things without knowing why he does things... and eventually wind up getting somewhere without even having a clue how that could happen..

 

[millicano]

I suppose I am one of those few people who always thinks twice before action ... or making a decision of "no action"...
If i do something or choose not to, I have an Agenda with that choice...
I always try to "look outside the box" in most of the decitions I do in my life...
Every choice and action has a domino effect.... in my life and sometimes in someone elses...
I know what the reason Is for every step I take... or every step I choose, not to take..
but thats me..
Im puzzled over other peoples (in this case Mr X) agenda with things... If they have any at all..
When the trip was over, things that happen on that trip,stayed on that trip and was over... never to speak about .. ever..
It was a silent deal... and the time for "forgetting" had arrived....
but what part of that deal did he not understand..!
He contacted me regardless of the silent deal and thats why my question came up....




he contacted me

 

[heylise]

Maybe he is hex-56-ing - wandering around in new territory outside the borders of his family? And what he is doing there... well, the marquis of Kang was mating horses. To me it sounds like quite naughty humor of the YiJing.

 

[meng]

so he is like every other guy and does things without knowing why he does things... and eventually wind up getting somewhere without even having a clue how that could happen..

I had this discussion with my gemini twin niece just last night. She wants back into the marriage, he's getting his cake and eating it, as she put it. She's matured and is ready to settle down again. He's enjoying his freedom with benefits. She asks questions, he can't answer them. She rephrases the question, he plays dumb as a rock. She demands an answer, he rides off on his Harley.

Most guys have a built in anti-drama-deafening system. Making a relationship a 'thing' is threatening to his sense of independence. And if a guy is too soft, most women aren't attracted to him. Most men wish to avoid confrontation (52). Most men dread talking about "us". What us?? There's you and me and we do stuff together.

If you discover a sure way to fix that, I hope you will share it. It would be your gift to man/womankind.

 

[rodaki]

hi millicano,

I really think you're overthinking this . . obviously he's not fully committed to his marriage but that doesn't have to mean that he's looking for another commitment (!)
My first thought reading Yi's answer about his intentions is that he intends to meet/mate again and again (35), sure why not, there's nothing stopping him (line 3) if he can get away with it (56)


(I hope that wasn't too cynical :bag:, I don't mean to hurt your feelings, cause if I understand correct, you do have feelings for him - you might wanna consider though, whether his present life situation has any space for any feelings for you . .)

 

[millicano]

thank You all for the help.... and I am sure you are all on the right track here and I will keep You posted about the outcome/happenings on this "harley'man" issue... *lol* ... if not only because its elighting to see how one is guided and my outcome might help someone else in a similar situation to read the "help one Is getting....