35.4.5>20 - Contact with ex-love

[dancing flame]

Another relationship issue.

I inadvertently sent an email to my ex-boyfriend, it was meant to go to a friend of the same name. I haven't been in touch with this ex for many years and hadn't particularly wanted to hear from him - it'd been a bad break up and ex behaved despicably.

Ex replied excited to hear from me and wanting us to meet up. I politely said ok in a reserved way but wasn't too excited about the prospect. Haven't heard back from ex as he'd know by my tone that I'm changed, got my strength and self-esteem back and not willing to play into the old dysfunctional patterns again.

I asked Yi, 'Why this renewed contact with ex?' got 35.4.5 changing to 20.

I think Yi has confirmed my reservations but it would be great to hear what other people think. Are angry ghosts and hungry memories (Karcher line 4) things within myself that I need to deal with, or is it about his decietful nature? I do recognise of course that the outer reality is always reflecting something inside oneself.

Thanks

 

[Trojina]

Another relationship issue.

I inadvertently sent an email to my ex-boyfriend, it was meant to go to a friend of the same name. I haven't been in touch with this ex for many years and hadn't particularly wanted to hear from him - it'd been a bad break up and ex behaved despicably.

Ex replied excited to hear from me and wanting us to meet up. I politely said ok in a reserved way but wasn't too excited about the prospect. Haven't heard back from ex as he'd know by my tone that I'm changed, got my strength and self-esteem back and not willing to play into the old dysfunctional patterns again.

I asked Yi, 'Why this renewed contact with ex?' got 35.4.5 changing to 20.

I think Yi has confirmed my reservations but it would be great to hear what other people think. Are angry ghosts and hungry memories (Karcher line 4) things within myself that I need to deal with, or is it about his decietful nature? I do recognise of course that the outer reality is always reflecting something inside oneself.

Thanks

eh ? The reason he renewed contact with you is because you emailed him accidentally so he thinks you were renewing contact with him.

 

[willowfox]

'Why this renewed contact with ex?' got 35.4.5 changing to 20.

I think that you are reading too much into this accident with the email. Line 35.4 is telling you to back off this guy as he will only bring trouble in his wake, while line 35.5 says don't concern yourself when you stay far away from him and don't contact him again.
Hex 20 says if you feel that you should see him make sure that you are standing a 1000 miles away.

 

[dancing flame]

I was interested in knowing as I felt that it wasn't just coincidence that I sent him the email. Thought there must have been some subconscious need to contact him.

Strangely enough, I moved to the town where I live a year ago and driving down the road last summer, just after I'd moved, I thought I saw him. I couldn't believe it as I never expected to see him in this area. Then 3 weeks ago I was out early one morning and saw him on my local high street on the other side of the road, he didn't see me. It was a shock to realise he might live so close to me. Then I accidently sent the email 2 weeks later, so I felt there had to be a reason why that happened and that some part of me must have wanted contact, even though the conscious part of me would rather not have him in my life - or maybe I was picking up on his energy.

I agree, assuming he's not changed, he'd be bad news and I'd rather close the door for good on that one, plus I have no real desire to see him again and no nostalgic feelings about our time together.

I'm deleting his details from my contacts list today so there' no possibility of accidental emails again.

 

[my_key]

'Why this renewed contact with ex?' got 35.4.5 changing to 20.

I get the feeling from what has been written here that the relationship did not end as it might have. The synchronicities look like they were leading you towards bringing this person back onto your radar screen. The Yi is saying that this is your chance to close the relationship on your terms, take the opportunity to demonstrate how you have changed and grown. By maturely acting to address any issues you still have, this will dispel the "old ghosts". Handled in the right way, this will be a positive experience for you both.
Take Care
Mike

 

[dancing flame]

Thanks my_key, that's exactly as I see it. I don't want him back in my life in anyway but the situation was never resolved so it would be good to meet one last time to clear the air and put the final peices to rest.

Appreciate all of your advice.

Blessings