37.2.4.6/43

[anonymouse]

Well recently I keep getting readings that don't supprt any route I think about taking! Very stuck atm. I tell Iching "You make me feel like there's no hope and I have no say." Iching says 11.3. So I say back "What say do I have in having a good life?" 37.2.4.6/43. So I have a say about my home life. Currently on a trial separation from my partner to see if we want to make it work. No kids. So no family of my own. I want a family and a happy marraige. So I have a say in how I build a family? But Iching doesn't say to go back to my partner. Pls help!

 

[redoleander]

37.2.4.6 > 43 could be specifically about a family or it could simply be about you, your current home, and your inner circle/life. Line 2 is maybe about showing up and attending to daily life without seeking a specific outcome, Line 4 enriching yourself, your environment, and possibly others as well when you have the opportunity, Line 6 being honest, ethical, open for what comes in. 37/43 together do seem to describe the background of these decisions you're making; it mostly sounds as if acceptance is being called for.

11.3 communicates, to me, something they talk about a lot in 12 Step programs which is "living life on life's terms." It doesn't exactly mean we have no control because we have a lot of choice over our own actions, but when our thoughts and actions become entirely focused on controlling or changing things we don't have much of a say in, then things can feel really futile and desperate. It might not be so much that you don't have choice but that what you can control right now has more to do with the present and identifying the most aligned, straightforward, and sustaining actions/activities rather than setting into motion grand plans for the future. There will be other times, I'm sure, for that... perhaps there's actually some luck for you in this that's you'd otherwise miss if you didn't surrender to the simplicity of the current moment. It's kind of like getting struck with a great insight while washing the dishes or something; we need that grounded, mundane stuff to even access everything else. Maybe that's just more pronounced than usual?

These really don't feel like bad readings although when you have a pending decision or things are in limbo it can be really tough. Maybe simplifying for a bit will free you of some worry in unexpected ways.

 

[anonymouse]

It might not be so much that you don't have choice but that what you can control right now has more to do with the present and identifying the most aligned, straightforward, and sustaining actions/activities rather than setting into motion grand plans for the future.

Thanks reoleander! Things can feel like you said futile and desperate. This part about focusing on sustaining actions and activiites is something I will try to hold on to bc forcing new plans isn't working. Maybe 37 is me as the house right now.