37.4 > 13 and reassurance

[titania]

I just put in an application for a new apartment. It was a stressful process, lots of forms to fill out and a big deposit to fork over. It will be a big change too: a new environment, a different culture, needing a roommate after living alone for years. Still, I thought I'd feel relief once I'd finally taken the plunge. Instead, I'm full of fear, stress, and doubt.

I asked the I Ching what I need to know now that I've committed to this apartment and received 37.4 > 13. I checked the Clarity archives for this reading and noticed an odd coincidence. In one case, the questioner had a pretty good life and good friends but still felt they were too lazy and lethargic. In another, the questioner had given a good presentation to their local school board, but still felt sad and uncomfortable about the whole thing. Both had gotten this reading when they had no real reason to feel bad or inadequate but did anyway.

I'd like to think the I Ching is saying that my own fears about fitting into this new community, making new friends, and attracting a good roommate, are illusory too, but I know how easy it is to read into the response what I want to hear, instead of hearing what the reading has to say. I still feel like I'm really not up to all this, and I don't want to miss any insight the I Ching may be offering.

 

[willowfox]

what I need to know now that I've committed to this apartment and received 37.4 > 13

I don't see anything untoward here, line 37.4 is saying that you are now the boss of your apartment, look after it, and becareful with your money and then everything will be really good, thus you will have no cause for fear. And Hex 13 suggests that you get yourself a roommate to share the expenses, so all looks good, as you are in a win win situation.

 

[titania]

Thank you, Willowfox. Those are all good things to keep in mind. I was thinking the roommate was connected to 37 because we'll be sharing a home, but 13 really more appropriate to that kind of relationship, isn't it?

 

[Trojina]

I asked the I Ching what I need to know now that I've committed to this apartment and received 37.4 > 13. I checked the Clarity archives for this reading and noticed an odd coincidence. In one case, the questioner had a pretty good life and good friends but still felt they were too lazy and lethargic. In another, the questioner had given a good presentation to their local school board, but still felt sad and uncomfortable about the whole thing. Both had gotten this reading when they had no real reason to feel bad or inadequate but did anyway.

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I think you hit on something there, I've had that experience with 37.4 too. Not feeling secure at all. Anyhow for your question I think it a good omen, reassuring, but it is strange how it turns up when theres alot of insecurity around the question.

 

[rosada]

From Wilhelm:
37.4, "Well being prevails when expenditures and income are soundly balanced."
13, "The superior man organizes the clans and makes distinctions between things."

This reads to me like the I Ching is emphasizing the importance of clearly defined rights and responsibilities. Be clear at the outset with any roommate exactly what your agreement is, who pays for what and who's an outsider and who's a member of the clan? Would you be comfortable if a roommate invited friends over, even allowed them to spend the night? If these issues are addressed it sounds like the whole experience could be very successful.
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[titania]

Trojan,
Thank you for the added reassurance. More synchronicity: in one of those threads I was talking about, I was really struck by something you wrote:

"You have to bear in mind frenetic activity is used by many as a socially approved method of escapism - from the self, from thinking, from feeling, from all sorts of things."

"Frenetic activity" would a good title for my past few weeks. At first, I didn't have a choice. I had a lot to take care of in a short period of time. But when the external stuff started slowing down, I didn't. I even found myself looking for reasons to keep being frenetic. A form of escapism for sure, and an addictive one at that.

Rosada,
"Well being prevails when expenditures and income are soundly balanced."
My main reason for doing a share is to make that balance more sound, so that's incredibly apt.

Thank you for your suggestions. You're right, clarifying the ground rules at the beginning can save a lot of wear and tear down the road.

 

[rosada]

I think its interesting, titania, that you have brought these lines to our attention while we are discussing THE MARRYING MAIDEN over on Exploring divination - Memorizing the I Ching. 37.4 > 13 appears to be another way of describing that situation where one is really the "treasure of the house," but you still have all these other people - landlords, room mates - tromping through with their own attitudes and agendas and somehow one must navigate. I actually got this visual of a person - you I assume - sitting quietly reading and all about her ghosts and sea captains and all sorts of characters on totally different wave lengths went wafting through the living room. I wonder if this means you may find the right room mate is some one is in a whole different world, that is, not necessarily your personal friend, yet still a responsible house mate.