39.4 to 31 Borrowing Money

[white owl]

Hi ,

I have to (ask) borrow money from my father..once again, ugh I have been doing an externship at a hospital. No pay with externship. He knows I am a hard-working sincere woman, trying to train/find work for myself. I cant stand asking him for money or anybody for that matter. I desperately need money for rent, my unemployment has exhausted its self, until they approve an extension which can take about a month. I asked how he would feel about it. Thanks for feedback.

WO

 

[white owl]

Its a given that I have no choice, but to ask. I am seeking mainly some comfort I guess. Not an easy thing for me to do.

 

[Trojina]

Its a given that I have no choice, but to ask. I am seeking mainly some comfort I guess. Not an easy thing for me to do.

Exactly. When one has no choice what else can one do. As your father he surely wants to help you if he can.

We are made to feel ashamed of asking for help sometimes as if independence were the one true goal but its a fact we all need support sometime and being able to share and receive is a way of giving and receiving love. IMO your father is one person you should be able to turn to as he will be able to turn to you when he needs you perhaps when hes older and more frail.


This is all my opinion and not addressing the reading at all but your back is against the wall (thats 39 ish) what else can you do. I see the answer as about you. You genuinely need support you aren't wrong to ask for it.

I feel the question about how he feels actually is rooted in the need to know if what you ask of him is justified or right etc etc. I think the answer says it is. If he has enough to help I truly see no reason its bad for you to ask him. I guess if hes struggling financially himself its pretty difficult, but if he has it...well what goes around comes around thats for sure

However I also see that 39 does ask you to reconsider your route to attaining your goals because its a hard and quite lonley route. 39.4 shows someone struggling against the odds and that sounds like you not him...so I think the Yi has indirectly addressed your entire situation that has led to the need to ask him for help

You aren't wrong to ask him but after this crisis has passed and hes given you the money you might consider if things are so hard for you you might take so less arduous route with more help , support etc I don't know what form that could take but its just a thought. (If the answer did address his feelings perhaps he feels you are struggling too much, that theres some easier way...)

 

[pocossin]

How would Father feel about loaning me money?
39.4 > 31

39 suggests that he will struggle with this; and 31, that he will do it anyway.

 

[patro]

4th line...
One plunged in difficulties should look for alliance, and can count on the ally since his backing is strong and reliable. The hexagram that appears 31, wherein the telepathy between the male and the female occurs...
Seek alliance.

 

[white owl]

Thank you..Trojan, Pocossion, Patro:bows:

I have never seen my father cry. He is an emotionless man. I rarley have ever seen him get angry too. He is a stern 70 yr. old man who is like a drill sergeant. He has a tendency of making me feel 2 inches tall when ever I ask for anything.

He did loan me the money. When he started his usual making me feel like an ant..I lost it and started to cry and told him how awful I feel inside when he does this too me. Than he said to me you better stop being emotional, because you are making me upset (his health could be better) so I immediately stopped and said sorry.

He called me this morning to ask when I was going to be by to pick up the check & sounded very happy. In which took a load off me of the struggle that I had been worrying about. Trojan your intuition is correct he cant understand why things are hard..he has always been that way never wanted or could accept any of his children's pains. I have rarely have ever had a deep conversation with him..its sad, but that was how he was raised, very old school.

My father has been a successful business man and an outstanding member of our community. He just got back from a luxury cruise in a mini-suite. He is retired. He is lucky that he grew up in a time where it was easier to start a business or be successful with out a college education.

Also the fact that I am 38 and am asking my dad for money is humbling for me..but perhaps that is his strategy to not create an dependent child..but geez he should know me by now and I am a grown woman.

His wife..I am also thinking that he likes to put up a little front for her sake. She is a very jealous woman and that is super sad because we could have a great relationship but she is super negative & mean(just like his mother)

sorry grandma u didnt hear me say that..I love u

I have given him two beautiful grandchildren a boy & a girl, so I guess I should focus on that if I should ever need his help again. lol

Thanks again guys :hugs:

WO