4.6>7 outcome of interaction with X.

[paradise1]

Hello everyone,

I am seeking help in trying to understand 4.6 changing to 7 when consulting I ching for " outcome of changing event's in my immediate for interaction with my X girlfriend ".

I am not sure if 4.6 is telling me to not waste my time acting like a fool or what???

I am more confused with the ending hex 7, is it telling me I should be strong in the situation?

Background; we lived together for 3 years and broke up 4 months ago over her 16 year old daughter who was acting like a wild child much to my disapproval. I moved out.

We have seen each other recently for drinks, a sleep over, etc. these meetings have always been at my asking in which she has never refused. However she had not initiated any of the like.

I would greatly appreciate someones help to interpret this reading.

Thank you

Paradise

 

[radiofreewill]

Hi Paradise,

“Outcome of changing event’s in my immediate for interaction with my X girlfriend?”
4.6 to 7 ~ You’ve become the bad guy.

While the daughter’s folly is certainly problematic, overly strong discipline (line 6) has its consequences, too. In your case, it looks like your high demand, line-in-the-sand approach may have driven the mother to defend her daughter from you?

So, while your ex-girlfriend may still have feelings for you ~ your continued contact makes it seem that way ~ she’s decided to put up a wall between you and her daughter ~ because she knows how both of you feel about each other ~ it’s War!

I think that as long as you and the daughter are at odds with each other, then your relationship with the girlfriend/mother will remain in a stalemate.

What would you like to see happen?

All Best

 

[paradise1]

Radio,

thank you for your observation, greatly appreciated!

You are spot on with your opinion and it seems like a war although it doesn't need to be that way. I offered to sit down with the young girl and try to work things out and the mother will not support this. I have been nothing but loving, kind and gifting to this girl only for her to ignore me, refusal to engage in conversation, disrespectful and curse at me.

I really think the problem stems from the mother and the girl is a byproduct of how she has been raised. Which is even a bigger problem when I think who I got involved with.

Actions speak louder than words so as I sit back and observe I am thinking maybe this wasn't the best choice I made 3 years ago.

To answer your question "what I would like to see happen" would be for everyone to get along however I am at loss if communications have been denied.

I do love this woman and could see the rest of my life with her but considering the current scenario it's not looking promising.

Your thoughts?

Paradise

 

[paradise1]

4.6>7 outcome with interaction with X

Radio,

thank you for your observation, greatly appreciated!

You are spot on with your opinion and it seems like a war although it doesn't need to be that way. I offered to sit down with the young girl and try to work things out and the mother will not support this. I have been nothing but loving, kind and gifting to this girl only for her to ignore me, refusal to engage in conversation, disrespectful and curse at me.

I really think the problem stems from the mother and the girl is a byproduct of how she has been raised. Which is even a bigger problem when I think who I got involved with.

Actions speak louder than words so as I sit back and observe I am thinking maybe this wasn't the best choice I made 3 years ago.

To answer your question "what I would like to see happen" would be for everyone to get along however I am at loss if communications have been denied.

I do love this woman and could see the rest of my life with her but considering the current scenario it's not looking promising.

Your thoughts?

Paradise

 

[radiofreewill]

Thank you, Paradise, for your reply!

I think you’re in one of the really hard spots in life to be in ~ the boyfriend of a single-mother with a willful 16-year old daughter who views you as the enemy ~ my heart goes out to you!

There’s lots of suffering potential there, all the way around, wouldn’t you say?

“What I would like to see happen would be for everyone to get along…”

It’s just my opinion, but anytime you put your ‘happiness’ in the hands of other people, you’ve boarded the Titanic. Further, all attempts to negotiate your happiness with those others will only amount to rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic ~ as you continue to plow into the ice fields.

So, I see the real problem here not as “How to deal with this relationship-wrecking child?” but more one of resolving the bigger question of “What is happiness to me, really?”

I can make two good book recommendations to you:

“The Untethered Soul” by Dr. Michael Singer ~ #1 NYT Bestseller

“Loving What Is” by Byron Katie ~ she’s helped millions of people

And, lastly, I’m a big believer in the power of therapy ~ consider finding a therapist who does ‘family systems’ work, and explore your situation one-on-one with them? You’ll gain a greater perspective and deeper understanding of the problem, at the least, but you might also discover a winning strategy that turns your situation around, as well?

Any successful outcome for you is going to involve practicing good self-care along the way.

I wish you all the best!

 

[paradise1]

Radio,

Thanks again for your astute guidance, greatly appreciated.

I have sought counseling with the psychologist asking me in the end, what are you getting out of this?

I have begged the mother to get psychological help and beyond one session she didn't think it was beneficial....

Thank you for the reading recommendation as I will certainly choose to peruse.

The situation is clearly in my hands to rectify if at all possible, so at the risk of sounding like an "out of sorts person" I i think I should move on with my life and chaulk it up to experience.

Fyi... I am a successful business owner and my colleges who know about this are starting to ask what the he'll I am doing...a little embarrassing to say the least...

Thanks again

Paradise

 

[paradise1]

Radio,

Thanks again for your astute guida8nce, greatly appreciated.

I have sought counseling with the psychologist asking me in the end, what are you getting out of this?

I have begged the mother to get psychological help and beyond one session she didn't think it was beneficial....

Thank you for the reading recommendation as I will certainly choose to peruse.

The situation is clearly in my hands to rectify if at all possible, so at the risk of sounding like an "out of sorts person" I i think I should move on with my life and chaulk it up to experience.

Fyi... I am a successful business owner and my colleges who know about this are starting to ask what the he'll I am doing...a little embarrassing to say the least...

Thanks again

Paradise