40.1.3.4 Deliverance --> Peace

[trueblue]

Hi Everyone,

I recently got out of an 8 month relationship with someone I felt a strong connection with, but who had some major personal/financial issues he was working out that caused problems in the relationship. Mainly, he was slow to commit and, I suspect, was already talking to another woman just before I ended things. (I have no proof about the other woman, just a gut intuition based on a few factors).

A few weeks after we broke up I started to reconsider, and asked him if he had any interest in resuming the relationship. (Obviously I would have brought up the other woman issue at that point, and set some new boundaries/ground rules if he'd agreed). His response was "I need some time to think about that." This was about 7 week ago, and he has never answered my question. However, we have talked on the phone a few times at length but he's never brought it up again. I've done my best to move on with my life, but am completely baffled and a little upset about his radio silence on the issue. It could be that he feels uncomfortable telling me he's not interested, but we had what I thought was pretty good communication throughout the relationship, so it doesn't really make sense that he'd suddenly go silent on me like that. Also, I cannot imagine leaving someone hanging like that, it seems really cruel and I don't believe him to be a cruel person at all. We're both adults in our mid 30s.

I asked the i Ching "Paint me a picture of where X and I stand right now." It gave me 40 (Deliverance), with changing lines in the first, third, and fourth place changing to Peace. I like the vibe of this reading, it seems to suggest that I am in the process of achieving peace of mind about it, but am interested in everyone's opinion. Do you think it suggests any actions I need to take? Any thoughts about the final outcome?

Thanks!

 

[trueblue]

A few other details that might be helpful:

- I ended the relationship. He had finally agreed to be exclusive with me a few weeks before that, but I was worried he was still talking to other women. I never clarified this with him though, as I was just so sick of worrying that he had one foot out the door that I just kind of snapped/panicked and broke it off. I was also frustrated about his ongoing lack of dealing with his financial/life issues.

- I had also tried to break it off with him one other time over the winter (due to him being uncertain whether he wanted to commit), but he pursued me heavily and I let him talk me out of breaking it off at that time.

 

[trueblue]

Can anyone help?

 

[moss elk]

Hi,

So you 40 delivered/liberated yourself from the relationship with him.
But then you sort of backtracked on your own decision. (Was this out of self doubt or just plain lonliness?)
So in a way, you never really completing letting go of him.

It seems understandable to me that he didnt leap at the opportunity to reconnect with you, you Did break up with him and all. Seven weeks was PLENTY of time for him to consider your suggestion, seven Days would have been enough time. Yes, he probably had mixed feelings of kindness and resentment toward you and by not responding at all he in a way expressed both of them. (Retreat due to his own 'hurt', and 'kindness' by not saying on that phone call 'im angry at you and i dont want to continue'.) He 40'd from you also.

I think your take on the reading captured the essence of the situation.
i would suggest to consider it over and make a return to stability and peace in yourself.