40.3.5 > 28 & 18.3.5.6 > 29 - Disappointed with a friend

[BlackSwan]

So a short while ago I received some tragic news that directly affects both myself & a close friend.
I had to tell him via text as he was out of coverage & it was quite urgent that he knew.
So when he actually got the text he text back with an emoji & that he'd talk later when he got back. Which struck me as odd; sending an emoji with the seriousness of the situation? So we talked & texted back & forth over the nxt few days, I didn't bring it up as it was quite upsetting but did expect him to ask questions, ask for details, offer sympathy or compassion, I waited but he never mentioned it. Which again I thought a really odd & frankly a very cold reaction (or non reaction)

So a little under a week after telling him, some medical reports were due back soon so I asked if he'd like to know the results & he rang me very angry, shouting at me about how I worded the text! I still don't know how he could take offence; it was telling him the tests would be back soon & asking if he'd like to know, I didn't know as he hadn't mentioned it at all.
I ended up hanging up as he was being totally irrational & upsetting me. That was over a week ago, We haven't spoken since.

I'm extremely disappointed in him & frankly disgusted at him completely ignoring a serious & heartbreaking scenario that required immediate action, care & comfort. I'm actually even questioning whether I can remain friends with someone so seemingly selfish & callous.

So I asked:
How will scolding him for the emoji be received? 40.3.5 > 28
(it has really annoyed me that his only acknowledgement of it has been an emoji!)

How will texting him the details of the ongoing scenario be received? 18.3.5.6 >29


Hex 40 & line 5 sound good. but line 3 says about being with in enemies reach & 28 seems to be about a collapse.

Hex 18 - work on what has been spoilt. Line 3 & 5 speak about setting right what has been spoilt, but line 6 seems to speak of an important issue that doesn't matter to one of the parties. Hex 29 I'm never sure how to read.

Anyone care to share some input on these lines?

Also is there any significance to getting 28 & 29 in that order, about the same topic/person?

 

[rosada]

40.3.5 - 28 Scolding will not strengthen your connection.

18.3.5.6 - 29 Rather than healing the situation these lines suggest you risk creating more animosity. You should probably only attempt this is you feel strongly that he needs to know more even though he may lash out at you for telling him.

 

[BlackSwan]

Thanks Rosada!
Yes I was worried 29 was saying things continue as they are i.e. his anger & lack of caring.

I asked a follow up question:

How should I proceed with him: 17.2.3> 43

Wow!! While Line 2 (don't follow the child) & Line 3 (don't follow the mature) seem to contradict ; it seems to be speaking to me what I call my "head & heart" thoughts - My heart wants him to see the error of his ways & act as the time is passing, if not passed already, but my head is saying the time has passed, he ignored it & that is appalling, these are not the actions of a decent person, cut him out!

But both lines speak of parting ways with the inferior & 43 seems to echo that.

But does the judgement of 43 suggest maybe informing him of the disillusion of our friendship & the reason i.e. his terrible behaviour? (One must resolutely make the matter known at the court of the king. It must be announced truthfully. Danger. It is necessary to notify one's own city. )

 

[BlackSwan]

Hi all

I'm looking for a bit of help interpreting. I'm posting it here as it's about the same person/topic & I thought it may be best to keep it all together. I've asked quite a few questions but don't worry they were not asked all together! They were asked at different times over the past few weeks but I'll post them in the order they were asked.
Obviously I'm interested in what the readings say, but I'm also very interested in what they say combined as a whole & what picture they paint of the situation.
So here it goes!

So we haven't spoken in 3 weeks now. How he acted, or rather what he refused to address just doesn't sit right with me, & he is stubborn as a mule & absolute hates admitting when he's in the wrong; so neither of us has budged in making contact.
He's had a friend staying with him for about 4 weks & I think that has been a distraction for him for taking responsibility for any of this, or for contacting me. He is also planning on going travelling for the summer with this friend who is staying with him, although the last time we spoke they hadn't set a date when they were taking off.

Before all of this kicked off he had in fact offered myself & my daughter his apartment to stay in while he was away travelling as we were in the midst of a very nerve wracking housing crisis. We were meant to stay there from July when my daughter finishes up school for the summer. We no longer need it now but he doesn't know that cause we haven't spoken since.
Just last week I sent a picture/status message to the group of friends I message on Whatsapp (which includes him) just stating I would be offline for the nxt while, to contact me by phone. He knows the only reason I would be completely offline for a length of time would be because I had to move (not by choice) out of my home of almost 9yrs. He read the message but that's it.

I have to admit it's been getting me down the past few weeks anytime I think of it. I still think he owes me an apology & he also needs to man up & take responsibility for his actions (& lack of action!) & words and also show a some empathy for what's gone on. But it also makes me sad. For example I had some amazing news recently & my best friend wasn't/isn't there to share it with, makes me very, very sad.

So onto the questions:

Will he ever rectify his uncaring ways to me? 8.2.4 > 47

Will he try rekindle our friendship? 15.1.2.4.5.6 > 1

What are his feelings towards me right now? 2.3.4.6 > 56

What can I do to bring happiness between us? 19.1.4 > 40

What is the effect of my Whatsapp message on him? 60.3 > 5

Will he make contact before he goes travelling? 7.5.6 > 59

Give me a picture of what he thinks about me right now? 5.1.6 >57

What is the outcome of me contacting him? 41.3 > 26

Who or what is the 3rd wheel in the reading 41.3? 26.4> 14

How does he see me? 49.1.2.3.5.6 > 64

Give me a picture of how it will play out between us? 29.1 > 60

What is the best course of action for resolution with him? 2.3 > 15

Will he ask if we are coming to stay in his apartment? 55.5 > 49


I've just realised I've asked about his feelings 3 times over the past few weeks - doh! Some of those reading are pretty yikes! Some with lots of changing lines, & some reoccurant Hex's.


What does anyone think on the individual castings and/or as a whole? Will we ever salvage our friendship?

 

[BlackSwan]

Hi all

I'm looking for a bit of help interpreting. I'm posting it here as it's about the same person/topic & I thought it may be best to keep it all together. I've asked quite a few questions but don't worry they were not asked all together! They were asked at different times over the past few weeks but I'll post them in the order they were asked.
Obviously I'm interested in what the readings say, but I'm also very interested in what they say combined as a whole & what picture they paint of the situation.
So here it goes!

So we haven't spoken in 3 weeks now. How he acted, or rather what he refused to address just doesn't sit right with me, & he is stubborn as a mule & absolute hates admitting when he's in the wrong; so neither of us has budged in making contact.
He's had a friend staying with him for about 4 weks & I think that has been a distraction for him for taking responsibility for any of this, or for contacting me. He is also planning on going travelling for the summer with this friend who is staying with him, although the last time we spoke they hadn't set a date when they were taking off.

Before all of this kicked off he had in fact offered myself & my daughter his apartment to stay in while he was away travelling as we were in the midst of a very nerve wracking housing crisis. We were meant to stay there from July when my daughter finishes up school for the summer. We no longer need it now but he doesn't know that cause we haven't spoken since.
Just last week I sent a picture/status message to the group of friends I message on Whatsapp (which includes him) just stating I would be offline for the nxt while, to contact me by phone. He knows the only reason I would be completely offline for a length of time would be because I had to move (not by choice) out of my home of almost 9yrs. He read the message but that's it.

I have to admit it's been getting me down the past few weeks anytime I think of it. I still think he owes me an apology & he also needs to man up & take responsibility for his actions (& lack of action!) & words and also show a some empathy for what's gone on. But it also makes me sad. For example I had some amazing news recently & my best friend wasn't/isn't there to share it with, makes me very, very sad.

So onto the questions:

Will he ever rectify his uncaring ways to me? 8.2.4 > 47

Will he try rekindle our friendship? 15.1.2.4.5.6 > 1

What are his feelings towards me right now? 2.3.4.6 > 56

What can I do to bring happiness between us? 19.1.4 > 40

What is the effect of my Whatsapp message on him? 60.3 > 5

Will he make contact before he goes travelling? 7.5.6 > 59

Give me a picture of what he thinks about me right now? 5.1.6 >57

What is the outcome of me contacting him? 41.3 > 26

Who or what is the 3rd wheel in the reading 41.3? 26.4> 14

How does he see me? 49.1.2.3.5.6 > 64

Give me a picture of how it will play out between us? 29.1 > 60

What is the best course of action for resolution with him? 2.3 > 15

Will he ask if we are coming to stay in his apartment? 55.5 > 49


I've just realised I've asked about his feelings 3 times over the past few weeks!
Some of those reading are pretty yikes! Some with lots of changing lines, & some reoccurant Hex's.


What does anyone think on the individual castings and/or as a whole? Will we ever salvage our friendship?

 

[diamanda]

Newbie sorry to say this, but I think that, on top of his normally nasty behaviour to you, he's also now found a new woman It's there in quite a few of your readings, but especially 41.3 > 26 and 26.4 > 14.

 

[BlackSwan]

Thanks Diamanda! Yes I had read that about 41.3. Originally I had thought that line might have spoken about his friend that has been staying with him & whom he will be travelling with. It had felt like the minute he arrived I had been replaced.
Then I thought the 26.4 (in reference to the 41.3) had spoken about his bullish ways & that they needed to be restrained or stopped in order to have peace.

 

[diamanda]

Yes I totally see what you mean about his friend. Btw, is this really a friend only? Is there any chance that your guy is bi? I'm saying this because of the combination 26.4 > 14 (and this reading is also why I thought of another woman). Once I was head over heels about a particular guy, and out of curiosity I had asked "how would you describe my feelings and intentions towards this guy?", and the answer was 26.4 > 14. I definitely wanted to be with him officially, domesticate him and keep him at home with me, lol. Ok I know that each cast can mean different things on different occasions, but because your question here was about "who is that 3rd wheel", well, it sounds like a love affair to me. While the readings about the situation between you don't look that great... Of course there's a chance he'll come back to you eventually, in the same dangerous and limited way he always has (Give me a picture of how it will play out between us? 29.1 > 60).

 

[BlackSwan]

No he's not bi, lol. Actually the more I think about it the 3rd wheel probably is this guy staying with him. I wonder is he in his ear, because if myself & my daughter come to stay in my friends apartment before they go travelling he was told by my friend that he would have to find somewhere else to stay temporarily, as these arrangements had been made before they had made any travel plans or his plan to come to live with my him for a while. I wonder is this guy trying to stop us getting in the way of his free ride & possibly the lads trip they have planned.
Of course I can't really judge as I've never met this guy, but the reason I suspect this is because my friend has a tendency to cling to the wrong people the past few years. He's lost alot of his old friends along the way & I've seen some of these new "friends" take advantage of him for their own gain, agree with him when he's being difficult to get what they want out of him...one even stole his car! It's sad to say he doesn't have many true friends left

Looking back at that long list of questions I've realised the backdrop to all of the questions really was whether to contact him or not.
(or who would be the first to do it) Whether my silence towards him spoke more than words or whether letting him know that I miss my best friend but also standing my ground as I still think his behaviour was not acceptable. I know people grieve in different ways but lashing out & ignoring what happened is no way to deal with anything.

I'm fed up thinking about all this & being sad about it so I asked one more final question:

How should I proceed with this whole situation? 14.5 >1


This seems to echo my wanting to release what I really think. Either the auspicious part is we regain our friendship or it's about me saying my truth, putting it out there