Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
Good day Liss! I hope this message finds you well.
Yes. It is very nice to have a friend that has been a part of my life since I was 13! I'm 39 now and to have kept this friendship for so long and through so much is a blessing.
I am a bit freaked out by the implication that he may want more for many reasons. For starters, I am no where near ready for anyone to enter my life now. I have the kids that need me more than anyone and honestly, I am not ready to trust again.
The see-saw of his thoughts makes me have a rough go of what I am feeling inside. Just when I am determined to move on and fight for everything I can get for my babies, he throws this false hope at me and it literally rocks me to the core. Of course I want my family back and together. This is the reason we moved from NY- to be a family. Sadly, my ex does keep giving strong hints of wanting to come back. However, I have yet to see him move out and break up with his girlfriend. That would be the first step to me considering anything... and I am certainly not holding my breath for it to happen.
I suppose the right thing to do here is just take his thoughts on the situation with a grain of salt and stick to guns. As far as a relationship with him, I will not even entertain the thought as of now. I'll have to see where this path takes me.
I was super confused by so many lines and what they meant. I thank you as always. <3
I actually hate him for what he did to us all. I hate my stepmother for being stupid and tearing a family apart. Her need to say.... etc
I believe that women occupy their minds with outcomes and consequences of actions/ lack of actions. I feel that men do not concern themselves as much with ramifications or the outcome of impulse behavior.
Thanks for the insight. I do appreciate it greatly!
Meng, I would love a full on conversation about men and women... heck, about people in general. All on all, every single person has something beautiful about them.
It always surprises me why it is so easy to hate the other woman instead of accepting that it is the man's responsability.
Sure it is. Misguided anger topped with envy. What I really needed to do all along was think about was why he was faithful for all of those years. What dynamic changed between us and what part of itvwas my responsibility. That doesn't mean the punishment fit the crime... by far ot did not.
I needed to find me again. The strong, driven, flirty, intelligent, witty and enthusiastic me. He needed to do the same. He also needed to realize that when I became a full time mother, I was now wearing more than one hat. I didn't have the same availability to be spontaneous, spunky and just go out on a whim. The wall began being built.
Not going to act like these last few weeks have been sunshine and flowers. Its been difficult, trying, awkward, painful and yet I have faced it bravely. I personally am in a better state of mind.... and not because of him. He needs to find the same for himself.
I agree with godessliss that he has feelings for you and is confused what to do next (when to do it and whether to do it in the first place.)Hello friends. I have an interesting situation that shouldn't take any of my attention, but it does none the less.
I have a long time male friend that has been in touch with me for many years. In the event of my husband and I separating, as most friends do, he took up being there for me. I, myself, have sort of steered clear of not discussing the situation because honestly, I hate it being the focus of our friendship. I prefer our normal conversation where we speak of each other, offer an ear, some friendly advise and catch up with each other.
Lately, he has driven the conversation back to my divorce over and over again, even after being told I don't feel like getting into it. The worst part of it all is that he is hot and cold about it. One day he'll tell me how my husband will come back and work things out and then on another day, he'll tell me how I'm better off and this is for the best. To say the least, this friendship is emotionally mind boggling. Honestly, I'd rather not speculate on anything and just work on living my life.
While I do cherish the friendship and the insight, I have this niggling feeling in my gut that he's playing with my emotions. I asked the Yi for insight to whether my emotions were being played upon and received more confusion.
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I don't think we are born with 'rushes of thought', i believe it's a by-product of socialization; anyway it is - it's not a curse, but it does not leave the room for Dao; we can indeed control our thoughts - and our emotions from there, shut down the "mind monkey" and see where the flow takes us.Sometimes I wonder if the active mind a woman, such as ourselves, are born with, is a curse. We can't stop the rush of thoughts and "what ifs" even when we try. So what option do we have other than submerging ourselves deeper and deeper into everything around us for distraction? I wish that I could be heartless and shut down the way my ex has.... then again, I would never do that because my kids need me and I need them.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).