43.4>5 2 Related Questions, Same Reading Twice In A Row!!!

[dancing white ferret]

A twofer! Has anyone else had this happen before? I asked 2 related questions and got the same exact answer for each! After a very uh... disappointing experience, with my now ex boyfriend, I have reached a point where I no longer have any lingering desire to rekindle what we had. Or, didn't have, I should say. Been there for a while now, maybe a couple months. I have wondered if we could be friends, and hope we can, but after the hurt he has caused me in our relationship I have my reservations, and I still have some unresolved anger with him. I can't help but wonder if a friendship would just be inviting a continuation of the same hurtful behavior, and maybe would just be a reminder to me of all these things I'd rather forget. Part of me wants to just go with the flow on this, and just see how or if a friendship develops, and another part of me just wants to be done with it altogether. So I am just hoping to gain some perspective on this.

I asked the Yi,

"What do I need to do to move past all these negative feelings about my X?"

"What should I consider about having a friendship with X?"

and I got 43.4>5 on both of these.

Is it saying to follow the path of least resistance here? That doesn't sound like a good idea to me. Must be missing something. And I haven't received any advice about this so there are no opinions to ignore... At least not that I remember. Anyone know what the Yi is getting at here... I think you all will. I have a feeling it is one of those staring me right in the face and I'm not seeing it, like when you're running around looking for say, your keys, and their right there 6 inches away from the spot you usually leave them.

I'm not quite sure how this line fits with this situation, which is really frustrating me since it has come up twice ...................................................... . There. I'd feel a lot better if that was his head I was banging into the wall . Ha! I despise you X boyfriend! . Take that too! Might have to change my name to Wicked Evil Ferret:demon:. Thanks in advance as always:bows:... And here are the ferret pics of the day for those of you who have become fond of these...
Nonviolently yours,
:bowsWF:bows:

 

[dancing white ferret]

Somebody outside the context of the forum has pointed out to me that "surrender" is Yi's message. Oh, yes, surrender... That I need to stop fighting fate and move on. Yes, clearly. I suppose that would be the path of least resistance... Huh, well I guess it does fit... Once I am moved on the 1rst that will be much easier. For now, I will just have to do my best.
Thanks
DWF

 

[dancing white ferret]

Insights are of course still welcome. Especially "how to's" for surrendering to fate.

 

[cris]

Hard line DWF. My interpretation: the X is a pain in the ass, do not rely on any of his words but just look at his actions (43.4). And don't do anything (5). My very personal addition, to be taken with a huge benefit of inventory: no point in trying being friends with someone who has hurt you... move on.

All the best as usual

 

[anemos]

maybe you can find some answers here.

http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?t=10322

Hope it helps

 

[dancing white ferret]

Thanks Anemos, that was a very helpful thread. Don't know how I missed that one when I was searching...
And thank you too Cris. Your interpretation is on point as usual. I'm not going to make any hard and fast decisions about the potential friendship right now. And I have certainly had those same thoughts about the friendship myself... It wasn't my intention to make a decision, but I feel like, with all your help and the Yi's sage advice, I have a much better perspective on things. The ex is definitely a pain... and hasn't been very honest with me, so it doesn't surprise me that the Yi mentions distrust in words. And his actions are contradictory, so it is hard to make heads or tails of his behavior. It is difficult to see things as they really are right now because we are living together still. I think the Yi is suggesting not to concern myself with it, focus on moving on. Perhaps that is why the Yi is suggesting I don't do anything. If we are meant to be friends we will be, so I will just trust that it will work out as it should...
Thanks Everyone:bows:
DWF