45.6 how to connect

[empresssha]

My question was: Advice for me to get closer to X?

Answer: 45.6 changing to 12
Gathering changing to Blocked

X is somebody I work with and speak to in passing but my heart craves a deeper connection with him and it seems like this feeling is mutual but for a whole long list of reasons I'm finding it hard to talk to him the way I would with someone I didn't have such a strong attraction to.

I also heard recently that X has a girlfriend and I technically have a boyfriend (but we see so little of eachother it feels like I'm single) and the company we work for don't allow romantic relationships between co workers.

Is this line advising me to properly break up with my partner and process my emotions before I can connect eith someone new? We have been going through a horrible break up process for 8 months but every now and again I get false hopes for us being together again.

Is it telling me I don't have a chance with X because he has a girlfriend and I need to just accept that the connection is what it is and can't be more and let myself be sad about that for a bit?

Or is it telling me to be more emotionally open with X? Maybe if I wasn't trying to hide my feelings for him he would feel comfortable talking to me more and we could develop more of a friendship. I previously asked "how should I be with X?" And received 52.3.6 (LOL because I am hiding my feels and can't tell if Yi is advising for or against)

It is it just reflecting the situation: it's blocked from developing further right now but i want to gather together with him and be friends?
Is 52.3.6 just reflecting that I'm hiding my feels rather than advising? I'm relatively new to I Ching and I feel like I haven't learnt it's language enough to get this

I know this probably seems a stupid question and sorry it's so long but I would be so grateful if anyone can help

Also does anyone know how do I view my old posts please?

Thank you

 

[lucid-a-fly]

Hi empresssha, I just joined the community today and saw your post. I could share some of my thoughts: I think this reading is a bit tricky. The changing hexagram 12 is describing your current situation and the reason (the cause) for your questioning, an impasse between two of you. There is almost no communication between you guys. You probably don't feel good because he seems to be a good person for you. (Hexagram 12 often suggests the great departs) The IChing gives you the advice (and shows the root problem for this impasse), hexagram 45 line 6. Line 6 usually means you are going beyond your ruling position to reach something and wether it will be auspicious depends on your intentions. You are obviously seen as in a higher position. But you probably feel alone. It is telling you that he is misunderstanding your intentions. Based on your descriptions, I think he is misunderstanding your intentions as he may see you as someone who doesn't take relationships seriously. He probably thinks that you believe you can have him no matter what (he does have a girlfriend, and you want to flirt with him). He may think you are desperate for relationships because you seem to not be able to part with your current boyfriend. You are in a comfortable situation. And that will influence how people perceive your actions. However, I think Iching is telling you if you really want it, you can still try to make a connection with him as he seems to like you. But in order for you to make the connection, he will have to understand your sincerity. And that may mean you need to evaluate your actions in the past (not just separate with your current boyfriend) and be alone for a while, and wait to see what you really want and also if he will separate with his girlfriend. Maybe you just want a friend. And he doesn't understand yet. But don't try too hard.

 

[SeeBeauty]

My thought is that this response is speaking more to your relationship with yourself than it is to your relationship with anyone else. I would ask you: do you trust yourself? deep down? do you trust that you will make the best decisions and best "moves" to align with your highest self? A fact of life, sometimes so frustrating, is that real progress sometimes takes much longer than we want it to. My advice, considering this reading, is that you walk away from both potentials, work on your own peace of mind, and see what comes from that process. Magnetize a higher frequency through self-knowledge and self-care.

 

[marybluesky]

Hello empresssha! I think your interpretation is correct.

Advice for me to get closer to X? 45.6 changing to 12
You should find a way to come together (45) by breaking through the Block/Non-communication (12)...
45.6: " Lamentation and deep sighing, with tears from the eyes and dribbling from the nose. No blame." By mourning for your past relationship until you're over it- the unsolved emotional issues may be the cause of blockage.

Good Luck!