49.1 to 31 How to act to get the best outcome when seeing ex later today!!!

[kforchange]

Hello all,
So my recent ex is coming over later to get his things and to help me with my things. I still love him and feel that he didn't give us a chance but I have been guided to let things lie so I have done just that. I asked today how i should act around him to get the best outcome and i got 49. 1 changing to 31 I understand 49 to be quite obvious as I have packed up what was our home and I have gotten rid of quite a lot of stuff that I no longer want or really need, I'm trying to lighten my load, and in my attitude I am still trying hard to not hold on to something (him) that doesn't serve me (or want to be with me) so the hidden possibility of both being 44 and the change to 31 has me confused, perhaps this is down to my own deep desires.

I'd really appreciate further insight.
Many thanks

 

[radiofreewill]

Hi kforchange,

This may be too late to help you before you meet the ex, but it might be interesting to look at after the fact?

"How to act to get the best outcome when seeing ex later today?"
49.1 to 31 ~ Through magnetism not force.

Here's Kari Hohne's "Essential i-Ching" on hexagram 49.1:

Line 1 Fastened and bound = in the hide of a yellow cow. Changes to (31) Influence/Wooing. Although the situation is going through a transformation, you are in the early stages and the time is not appropriate to act. Someone can be operating in fear and still [be] in the chrysalis stage where they do not open to you. Rather than force their change, approach the situation in the way you get more bees with honey. You may need to win someone’s confidence before the change can take place.

Please let us know how it went?

All best!

 

[kforchange]

Thank you Radiofreewill, (great name!)
I went in to the meeting softly and unchallenging, I just wanted to get through it without conflict, as this has been the mode of the latter part of our relationship. I was left with a lot of confusion when he ended the relationship and I have wanted some clarity but really needed to get to that without triggering defence from him. So, you mentioning fear resonates with the situation, I think he has been (and maybe still is) responding from a place of fear. I felt comfortable asking him what he had told others regarding our break up , many of his friends and family are sad and ask after me often. I felt this would be a good way to hear his explanation more honestly than if I asked him directly. His explanation was honestly what he believes but unsatisfactory. I feel his reasoning does not take in to account his contribution to the problem. I suppose I want to know, is, if and when to let go of the idea of our relationship. Thank you so much for your insight, I have just downloaded Kari Hohne's "Essential i-Ching, so thanks for that too.

Many thanks!!