50.2 - 56 Is there something else?

[ClavdiaChauchat]

Hi all, and happy new year!

So, this time, as many other times, I needed Yi to understand how to best handle with someone I recently met for professional reasons.

I'm a private teacher and a guy (we're both young workers) contacted me because he needs private lessons. We begun and I've got to say he's particularly nice when we're together. A lot of attentions. We just met twice and I'm looking forward to see him again. In this first two times, we spent some time together after the lesson (first time, we drank something at his apartment with his mates, second times, since I was hungry, he offered me to dinner at his place, but as he didn't have nothing, we then go out for a restaurant which was closed, so we didn't eat in the end cause it was late).

But, let's see what Yi says. The first cast regards the 36. I personally received it as UC two months ago (we didn't meet yet with the guy), asking "where is the person I'll be with (romantically intended)?", he's hidden but he's there! Good to know.

After the firs meeting, I asked Yi "what is he going to do next?", Answer: "36.1 - 15". Well, about my behavior as well toward him, I received 36. We are both hidden, cause we firstly meet for professional reasons, feelings are maybe hidden? Is this all? In the 36.1 he's hiding, but he has a scope. Some people talks badly about him (when I was at his apartment, I met the mates as weel, with whom we spent the night. Really nice both of them. With one in particular there was a lot to laugh about. About this mate, they said he has a girlfriend. The guy to whom I'm teaching, probably does not have one). I received the 15 again about him, asking "What do I represent for this person?", "15.2 - 46". Modesty inside and outside. But then, 46, a movement: I don't want to misunderstand his intensions. Is this "being nice" something uninterested? Or is there a scope?
Wendsday we met. I came in his room: he had put a candle on and two biscuits on our table (..... Well, I was sure he intends to create a romantic atmosphere!). At the end of the lesson, I made a joke asking "why Did u put this candle and those biscuits?!", he answered that the candle it was meant for a bad smell in the house (he also said, they have put many of them in the rest of the apartment), and about the biscuits, he answered that the mate usually steals them so he wanted to hide them! (he then gave me one of them "cause they are really good). Towards the end of the lesson, I noticed he was extremely tired and I asked " should we stop? ", his answer"no, I'd go forward for the whole night". Don't know...
He's really super cute... I asked Yi how to interpret these signals.. 55.1.4 - 15. 15 again. I like the lines.. But all this seems to be contrasting with other casts.

So, I asked : "what's the nature of this (like, professional one, friendship)?. Answer: 42.4 - 25. Well, the 42 itself is positive. The line? Who's the mediator and why? It could be me. Perhaps I'm just a teacher who mediates between the subject and he? 25 I see it as something innocent, so.. A professional relation, that's all.

But the one who's really confusing and scaring me a lot is about the pot

What does he feel about me? 50.2 - 56.
That 56..it surely means, loneliness. But again, envy people. I do not envy him! But it could be, he feel I'm a pot full of things he can take (like, he learns from me, I have things he can use to learn), and that he can use for his own business (56). Maybe the ones who envy him, are the mates, like, one of them could like me (? Don't know..) and envying him, which on his side sees me just as a source of knowledge!

Got to say, it will be hard teaching him in this this. I mean, if I like him, so it will be necessary to me to understand what this situation looks like, as I'll need to decide of to go further. I'm maintaining myself professional, he's definitely the one who's seeking confidence: something new to me. I'm not like that with "students", but since this is something unofficial and we're both young, I can understand.

Thank you all for helping me in reading this!

Clavdia

 

[ClavdiaChauchat]

Any perspective or insight? Thank you very much

 

[Matali]

Dear Claudia,
My hypothesis : There are contrasts in these lines - 55.1.4 are two different lines, two kinds of relation.... There is a relationship that lasts 10 days (10 days are symbolic, it means it's not meant to last but "It's not a mistake").
Line 4 is - from my point of view - the right person compatible.... And 15 is integrity, modesty... So,
it's up to you to see how things will evolve

 

[ClavdiaChauchat]

Dear Claudia,
My hypothesis : There are contrasts in these lines - 55.1.4 are two different lines, two kinds of relation.... There is a relationship that lasts 10 days (10 days are symbolic, it means it's not meant to last but "It's not a mistake").
Line 4 is - from my point of view - the right person compatible.... And 15 is integrity, modesty... So,
it's up to you to see how things will evolve

Hi matali, and thank you!
Actually, I read this hex as one of the positive ones. Much more than the others. I'd interpret the 10 days as "mandatory" duration, if there won't be a second chancing line. But there's a second line.. So, maybe, these signals are signaling something which will evolve slowly! Others insights are appreciated!

 

[rosada]

First I will comment that it is very common for love to flow between a teacher and a student. Indeed, it has been said that it is the love that carries the learning and so for there to be a special feeling between the two of you is only natural. However, this puts a heavy responsibility on both of you to not take advantage of the situation. You've come together for you to teach and he to learn. 50.2 encourages you to appreciate the pleasant circumstances but 56 reminds you to assume you will be moving on.

I think this reading is saying don't assume he's wants a long term relationship - it may be he's just trying to be teacher's pet!

 

[ClavdiaChauchat]

First I will comment that it is very common for love to flow between a teacher and a student. Indeed, it has been said that it is the love that carries the learning and so for there to be a special feeling between the two of you is only natural. However, this puts a heavy responsibility on both of you to not take advantage of the situation. You've come together for you to teach and he to learn. 50.2 encourages you to appreciate the pleasant circumstances but 56 reminds you to assume you will be moving on.

I think this reading is saying don't assume he's wants a long term relationship - it may be he's just trying to be teacher's pet!

Hi Rosada and thank you for your answer.

Yes, it's pretty common. But, as a teacher, I do not usually seek so much confidence with students, but in this case was pretty spontaneous. Yes, we both have a responsability in this. But I have to point out, that I'm teaching him a language, he's a beginner and he regularly pays me. He wants to learn not because he has to, but because he works with many people who speak this language and he'd like to speak it as well. No other profit in this. I wouldn't see any reason for him to be the "teacher's pet". He does not receive notes or something...that's the reason why I'm still confused about this. Because, converting this thing in "something else" wouldn't be so compromising. But of course, it's not and it has not be something automatic or given.

Moreover: I don't think I like him as a student, like, in the relationship "teacher and pupil", I'm much more attracted from his personality, also because we're the same age (approx, I'm younger).

 

[rosada]

Okay, but as a response to your question, "Is there something else?' or "What does he see in me?" I think getting 50, 2 The Caldron, is emphasizing that there is some sort of important work going on here, a spiritual calling that has the potential for great success, but also that it is very important to stay focused, and thus avoid harm.
Perhaps this is simply saying he recognizes and values your worth!

 

[ClavdiaChauchat]

Okay, but as a response to your question, "Is there something else?' or "What does he see in me?" I think getting 50, 2 The Caldron, is emphasizing that there is some sort of important work going on here, a spiritual calling that has the potential for great success, but also that it is very important to stay focused, and thus avoid harm.
Perhaps this is simply saying he recognizes and values your worth!

Thank you! There are good elements cooking (learning process) and maybe, about the 56 (second hex), I thought it could be saying I'm an unknown territory for him, or even that the subject we're studying is something unknown to him. Both, I think. Could it be that? There's the exploring element in 56,which make me think it could be about getting to know the other while cooking new stuffs (somewhere I read this is like -ting=camping stuff and the traveller who get to know new people). With the excuse of learning, I get to know this new person? He's new to my city, since he has found a job here one year ago approx. In any case, we met only twice, so I'm surely an unknown territory.. And what's interesting is that he found me on a website for private teachers and he precisely asked for presence-lessons, which I'm not used to since we have Covid, but as both of us do not have it, I accepted. I also got the idea, he feels alone since he works a lot, he can't go out that much and meet new people.

 

[rosada]

Ah! So 56 could be saying that he particularly values you because he is a stranger in a strange land!

 

[ClavdiaChauchat]

Ah! So 56 could be saying that he particularly values you because he is a stranger in a strange land!

Hi Rosada and thank you.

Unfortunately, I've got a "bad news" : I decided to stop tutoring him. Today we met, I was so excited about it. We had the lesson. Then he told he had invited a friend of him and of the mates at his place. They wanted to stay home and drink there. I replied "cool", he asked what I'd have done tonight, and I replied I didn't have any plan. He said:"if you want to come here later, you can", but it sounded like a circunstancial invitation to me (just because I replied "I'll be doing nothing), not something sincere. Moreover, he suggested to come back there later, and it would have meant to drive home and then drive to his place again. So, I came back home, wrote him a message saying we couldn't go on in this. I let him understand the reason, not specifying that I like him. He has understood and written: "you've got my number, if you change your mind, tell me, or for anything else tell me".

Actually, before telling him this, I did a cast and asked "what should I do?": 41.1.6 - 7. Don't know if I did it right, but I feel better now.

 

[rosada]

I think of 7.The Army as being about focusing on your specific Area of Responsibility - like a boots-on-the-ground Sargent rather than a distant authority figure like a General. So put that together with 41. Decrease and I think you were being advised to Decrease your area of Responsibility!

 

[ClavdiaChauchat]

I think of 7.The Army as being about focusing on your specific Area of Responsibility - like a boots-on-the-ground Sargent rather than a distant authority figure like a General. So put that together with 41. Decrease and I think you were being advised to Decrease your area of Responsibility!

I see your point and I absolutely agree. This would mean to go on with the lessons. But I focused on the 1st line of 41: we have an inferior actor and a superior actor. The inferior one gives help to the superior one. But the powerful man has to think how not to hurt the inferior one. I read the superior one as Me giving lessons, and the inferior one as Me feeling something for the guy. So, by accepting these feelings, I'd hurt me. That's why I think I should refuse what the delicate, inferior part has to give.

Of course, one could say, that doesn't mean to cut everything from the base. And indeed in line 6 there's "no personal advantage in this"... But still, I think I did it right.