51.1.2-40

[usilser]

I asked a question and I would appreciate your help as I try to learn how could I interpret time in Iching.
'For how long will I be single without a partner?'
51.1.2 - 40
I feel socked and fear after my last breakup but I shouldn't worry about. Relief. The answer seems auspicious, doesn't it? The thing is when will I have a partner...

 

[diamanda]

For how long will I be single without a partner?
51.1.2 > 40
This cast sounds like your ex might come back to you for sexual relief. So, how long you will be single depends on if you avoid this mine-bomb. Or, you might meet someone new who is of a similar disposition as your ex (a manipulating nasty piece of work, unfit for a relationship). If you meet someone new of this description, again you'll have to avoid him and run in the opposite direction. Educate yourself so as to be able to recognise destructive people who use you. You finding a partner (I mean a real, decent partner) depends on you learning to avoid this no-win scenario.

 

[usilser]

To be honest my biggest fear is my ex to come back. However, I don't hope because I know that he has already decided for us. He insisted that we are not compatible and we can't communicate. Really, I don't believe that he will come back.

If somebody new come to me and he is like my ex it seems then that I attract men like him. Thank you for the advice to educate myself to be able to recognize this kind of men and run far away! I haven't got time to waste. But.. why do you believe that he will be a manipulative nasty partner?

Also, about sexual relief... I asked if there is hope to have sex with sb: 50.2.3.4.5.6 to 8
How can I interpret so many changing lines?

 

[diamanda]

The reason I said that you might meet another similar guy again is because the cast seems to describe your ex. So, if it's not him who comes back, it will be someone else with similar behaviour. Have a look at your ex's behaviour:

July: He ended your relationship.
August: You two got back together.
September: You were arguing again and he gave you mixed signals.
October: You were in crisis again and he gave you vague hope for family together.
November: He asked you to move to his city and move in with him.
December: He broke up with you again and told you a load of manipulating BS.
January: All of a sudden he decided that "you two are too different".

Can you see how all the above is shock-tactics and manipulation?
About the phrase "we are too different", when it's said after months of being together - it's a very common fake excuse, by the way.

51.1 instills fear, but then you laugh it off.
51.2 a loss, but a temporary one.
Hidden line 16.2, someone who is decided half the day, then undecided the rest of the day.
I've interpreted 40 as sexual relief because this is a relationship question.

Can you see how your ex instilled fear in you, left you then came back? Can you see how unstable he was? And yet, instead of running for the hills, you persisted. You're very right that it's not good for you to waste time. Let me know your thoughts on this.

if there is hope to have sex with sb: 50.2.3.4.5.6 > 8
Even without looking at the cast, the answer is yes, of course there's hope to have sex with somebody. It's very easy, if you only want sex and nothing else. The cast says that your best bet for sex (but only sex, nothing else), is with someone who is a chef and lives nearby

 

[diamanda]

PS

If somebody new come to me and he is like my ex it seems then that I attract men like him.

Sadly there are too many of that predatory scum around. And yes, they seem to target people who don't know their game.

 

[usilser]

July: He ended your relationship.
August: You two got back together.
September: You were arguing again and he gave you mixed signals.
October: You were in crisis again and he gave you vague hope for family together.
November: He asked you to move to his city and move in with him.
December: He broke up with you again and told you a load of manipulating BS.
January: All of a sudden he decided that "you two are too different".​

Can you see how your ex instilled fear in you, left you then came back? Can you see how unstable he was? And yet, instead of running for the hills, you persisted. You're very right that it's not good for you to waste time. ​

Diamanda, the reason of the second breakup was the same as the first time (no communication / we are different). I was the one who insisted for second chance I persisted and we ended up as before. If I hadn't persisted I am sure that he wouldn't come back and that's why I believe he won't come back because I don't pursue him anymore.

if there is hope to have sex with sb: 50.2.3.4.5.6 > 8

Even without looking at the cast, the answer is yes, of course there's hope to have sex with somebody. It's very easy, if you only want sex and nothing else. The cast says that your best bet for sex (but only sex, nothing else), is with someone who is a chef and lives nearby​

No, I don't want only sex... I want a relationship with sex... No hope?

 

[usilser]

Ok, I asked if I will have a relationship with sex: 22.4-30
I have received a lot of times before this line for my ex as he is the prince on the white horse literally. (he has a white big motorcycle)

 

[diamanda]

Diamanda, the reason of the second breakup was the same as the first time (no communication / we are different). I was the one who insisted for second chance I persisted and we ended up as before. If I hadn't persisted I am sure that he wouldn't come back and that's why I believe he won't come back because I don't pursue him anymore.

Please don't blame yourself, you were heavily played. I'm not so sure that he wouldn't have come back. Please note that 'coming back', in the case of such characters, means 'coming back for more of the same madness'. And, didn't you recently say he tried to hoover you back through a friend of his?

No, I don't want only sex... I want a relationship with sex... No hope?

Your question was about sex.
You already asked about a new relationship, and the answer drew your attention to this nasty type of man.

I'm 100% certain that if you don't learn their tactics you'll become a victim of similar abuse again. If you're ok with this type of abusive relationship, then 51.1.2 > 40 assures you that it will happen within the next few months.

 

[usilser]

Perhaps you are right and the answers are referred to my ex especially with the answer 22.4-30

 

[usilser]

I wish I could manipulate and control this kind of men

 

[diamanda]

Ok, I asked if I will have a relationship with sex: 22.4-30
I have received a lot of times before this line for my ex as he is the prince on the white horse literally. (he has a white big motorcycle)

A relationship with sex?
If it's a relationship, it includes sex by default!

22.4 > 30 is someone who tells beautiful lies and only looks after their own self interest.
If it's not your ex, it will be someone similar.

You can't manipulate and control this type of men... People are either born manipulators, or they're not. You don't sound like a manipulator, so it's just impossible. All you can do is protect yourself from them by staying away.

 

[usilser]

Thank you diamanda, you are always so helpful.