52.1.2.6 passive aggression

[kestrelw1ngs]

52.1.2.6> 11
and
56.2.5>44

If you received these two casts for whether or not to respond to someone's passive aggressive behavior with a serious conversation, would you advise to?
The first cast was "Tell me about this situation" and the second was "Should I talk to X?"

It looks like letting it go but 56.2.5 stumps me. They could be the young helper who appeared to assist the traveler. But what is 56.5 about?

It's someone who developed feelings for me I don't return.
We share some activist spaces which is what makes it prickly. I liked going out with them but don't want a romance with them & said as much. In fact I don't want any romance til my mental health is more stable.

Many blessings

 

[Viru10]

Not so sure about the second cast but 52.1.2.6>11 seems to emphasize staying still. Line 2 is about something set in motion that can't be stopped, perhaps negative feelings about it- this actually sounds like it may refer to the other person here. They have developed feelings which they can't just put aside so it may just be a matter of waiting for them to go through the full cycle of grieving this.

Line 6 for me mostly comes up when I have to disregard others' behavior and keep them at a respectful distance. It's pretty non-confrontational IMO. I think it reaffirms letting them go through their emotions.

Line 1 pretty clearly advises not moving or taking action to fix it.

Hexagram 11 as the relating hex seems to suggest a larger flow or something that's out of your control anyway. 52.6 suggests how to deal with that, allowing others their own space, don't take their emotions personally, you're not responsible for them.

 

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I imagine these two readings like this:

"Tell me about this situation"
52.1.2.6 -- 11 :
A situation of stubbornness, which, in order to cultivate a more harmonious and balanced relationship, requires taking into account the essential and solid.

52.1: stopping and pondering all the "simple and basic little things", which may even be hidden or undeveloped, but considered step by step, can help determine a more harmonious relationship.

52.2: stop and consider the reasons for this "emotional prison"... what need is this to be stuck in "frustrations of unfulfilled expectations" instead of trying to let them pass and rest in something simpler, present and true.

52.6: Embrace your inner stillness, like the unshakable stability of a mountain to be that wide-ranging point of vision that helps center all that is real and true into a harmonious relationship and manifest always in that sense.

"should I talk to X"
56.2.5 -- 44

Talk to him, not with a "serious conversation!", but as if you were a traveler in a foreign country, and deal with him as if it were an emotionally complicated situation, in an uncertain encounter.

56.2: in this "foreign conversation" and since you are just passing through, why not at least gather your strength to maintain what is important to you, and at the same time try to have a good relationship with this "helpful friend" of yours, while share the same path.


56.5: in this "foreign conversation" why not make your status as a "traveler" clearer, and seek the objective of influencing a good stay... if "you have in your possession this certainty that he is in love with you", just like a direct and accurate arrow, perhaps you can lose it, using it instead to hunt for something you can offer (...friendship?) as goodwill on your part.....who knows, maybe there is still a place hidden with a beautiful future.

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[kestrelw1ngs]

Wow, thank you both so much. I had also cast a hexagram 6 with 3 moving lines, 6
1.4.6 earlier about them, forgot that, but it also seems to advise pumping the brakes lightly and creating friendly distance.

Which is sort of what has happened the last day. I decided not to confront them, as it would create an awkward situation (they invited me to a party where I did not know anyone else).
I went on my own, and while there, they indulged a few more "off" passive aggressive remarks & behavior, including kissing another person in front of me!
but I responded with polite firmness, did not point it out and simply gave them a wide berth.

Later in the night they came and made a sort of peace offering apologizing for an earlier remark and thanking me for coming to the party and that they hoped we could at least be friends.

It was good, I met new people and got out of my comfort zone.

You are both right I don't need to be deeply involved (56, the stranger) while they process the rejection (44, heavy emotions) but can restore harmony through offering friendship.

They seem like a person with many great qualities but emotionally immature and a different manner of carrying themself in relationship than is comfortable for me.

Wonderful interpretations, thank you both I don't know what I would do in all the silly tangles of life without the wisdom of the Yi and this forum of incredible people