54.3 and 54.5 to 43

[blue]

I was recently rejected by a woman I fancy strongly and asked the I Ging how the future would look like and whether we would ever come together and I got 54.3. and 54.5 leading to 43. I am not certain whether 54.5 means that I should continue to hope but wait or rather let go, something I find very difficult. I feel that I messed the prospect of a deeper relationship up because I got far to demanding, following a promising kiss at the beginning - the social circumstances are rather delicate. I would like her to be my mistress and she is the friend of my wife and has a partner herself. I might want to add that we are all in our late fifties and early sixties (her partner is already 85). I love my wife dearly but our sexual relationship is not working anymore. The woman I desire to be my mistress has a partner who is 20 years older than her. I had worked out that we would be an ideal match to be together though it would have to be a secret relationship (of couse this is all highly inappropriate). It now looks that I have to give up my hopes though line 54.5 seems to suggest that their might still be a future. Any suggestions?

 

[empowers77]

My sense on this would be that ... yes, you impulsively pushed ahead into a realm of, "have you considered all the consquences of this choice"? So, naturally there is this pull-back of energy, to consider this. Thank the powers that be, that you have been given this time of consideration.

I do get that this might possibly move ahead - but if this is the choice that you & her make - there will be breakthoughs on many, many levels for all concerned ... and my sense is that this "affair" will not stay as secret as you would wish.

It could also be that this is the step for you to truly realize what you are wanting in your life and this will provide great breakthroughs for you - but would this be the long-term association/relationship?? - probably not, because it is starting out as the "concubine" energy - but somehow this is all bringing great clarity for you. Taking risks is what it is all about ...

Be prepared for great change ....

 

[willowfox]

Line 54.3 seems to be talking about you and your desire for fun and games with this other woman which you know is wrong but still you want her.

Line 54.4 suggests that she doesn't want to know.

Hex 43 says what you are attempting to do is wrong and so your passion for this other woman must be stopped, you need a real change of heart here.

 

[mirian]

Just to remind you that Hex 54 is also about not having control over a situation. You seem to believe that you have everything sorted out but that is an illusion.

 

[proserpine]

for blue on hexagram 54

Blue, I believe as has been mentioned that you must relax and not assume you have all under control--nor need you have it under control.
Whether this woman comes to you, or another, far more willing and agreeable paramour comes along, you don't have to do everything.Mattter of fact, you probably need do *nothing*.
Line 3 suggests it is not yet time--at all.
Line 5--now, suggests that when the time is right the "emperor"will 'give his daughter in marraige' (the Higher Power, God/Goddess/Universe) (whatever you believe in) will decide things in right time.
So, when the time is right, this woman will contact you or show interest, or, another more- appropriate- for- you - woman will.
In a sense, *you* are the mistress-- but of fate--you must do what you can do only, and not plot, scheme or plan.
Things will turn out OK.