54 unchanging

[daianasa]

some days ago I posted couple of questions in regards to my ex-partner.
We were together for almost 6 year, and separated in a hurtful way.
I asked today: "respectfully, what does Yi recommend me to do with my x?"
I got 54 unchanging.
I read the posts about the powerlessness, I read what Hillary writes: "men and women alike who receive this hexagram find themselves drawn through changes that are quite beyond their control. Perhaps they feel dwarfed by the powers surrounding them, or 'out of the loop'", I read that Hexagram 54 is bad, negative, and I totally understand that this is my case now.
i.e. yes I have these negative feelings, I became the "second" woman. and 54 is a very accurate description of how I am now.
However, my question was what I should do?
I interpret this that I should do nothing, just accept the separation and try to move on. But shouldn't there be a changing line and a resulting hexagram to point the way, towards where (or how) to move on?
Does the Yi tell me I am doomed to feel unhappy after such a negative period in my life for ever? (i.e. for very long?)

Any help in furthering my understanding is highly appreciated:bows::bows::bows:

 

[dragona]

Hello, I think that your understanding of hex 54 is good but when you ask what you shoud do about the situation/person that is or should be in your past (but still in your mind )

you neglect to see that no changing lines are saying that it is as it is for this situation and certainly not that you are doomed to be unhappy with somebody else...for that you need to ask another question , perhaps What is the best way for me to get over this situation of hex 54?

Take care :bows

 

[steve]

Hi there

I feel for you I have been there, it doesnt make sense now but the yi is basicaly confirming your own thoughts and saying yes you are right, so now you have clarity on this issue, it is time for the next step, maybe just ask what will make me feel better for now. You asked about this situation not what is next.
I pretty much agree with dragona, 54 to me is quite a powerful hex I find it quite straight forward especially in relation to relationships. So at least you are not wondering what does this mean? One door opens and another one closes, personally I would focus on me now and its a time you can really think about you as the yi is saying you dont control this situation but there are other things you do. The problem is no matter we can't change how people treat us but we can change how we react to it I really believe that. There are millions of people out there looking for love on both sexes so keep that in mind also. You feel like crap now but it does get better its like being sick you can either try and get well or wallow in it, so really the quicker you work out what makes you happy the sooner you will feel better.

But maybe ask the Yi haha

Chin up soldier

Steve

 

[daianasa]

Thank you for your reply, it makes sense. Also the question you propose is meaningful and appropriate. I regret, that I have not waited and had, just 15 minutes before reading your reply, asked a more selfcentered and "needy" question (in the sense I desperately need some reassurance now)
"Will I be again in love relationship that is mutual, strong and rewarding?" (aren't I selfish and insecure...)
Anyway I got 63.2 -- 5, which I understood after reading the posts, that I should sit back and wait, (7 months maybe) and be patient... and it will come. I read: "don't lose your dignity by chasing after your dignity, just wait and the things you deserve will come to you, because they belong to you."
All I need to do now is nurture my patience, which is not my most known virtue...
It is just that I hurt for the past 6 months so deeply that I long for some light at the end of the tunnel.
I hope the 7 (I read a time scale thread on 63.2) means months in my case (days is not possible) and not years, because then It will be too long...
Thank you again

 

[steve]

Hey

That makes sense that line , its like if you want something with substance then be patient, People always go on the rebound and regret it later I think thats what the yi is getting at. My goodness some of the women I dated after breakups what was I doing
Right now you need to make yourself happy not use someone as a crutch that wont work either.

Steve

 

[daianasa]

Thank you Steve for your reply as well.
See we can get very shortsighted when in pain, I didn't pause to think and therefore to ask WHAT will make me better, I assumed, it should be a new (good) relationship, and that's why I asked on this, as I replied to dragona above.
But maybe you are right, I will wait for some days and I should then ask, what would make me better now?

thanks again

 

[dragona]

"No regrets, they don`t work"
btw, I know a little someone who just recently asked that "selfish and insecure question" http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?t=13852 ... and recently gotten 54 unchangable and something you wrote (since no Hillary`s book) helped me to understand my 54. So thank YOU. :bows:

I would say that 63.2 into 5 says that one cycle is over and you should consolidate, travel without wail on that carriage of yours and wait for the wind to return it back again.
Perhaps there is something to think about when it comes to the image of that lost weil...as it represents a man in your life, do you preceive the relationship as an shield, man as a protector in life prehaps? Kinda fits with Gui Mei, the younger sister, someone seeking to come into the light but her possition unables her to do so. Maybe this is an opportunity for you to shine on your own as you smile from the open carriage
Gotten all inspired now

 

[daianasa]

Dear Dragona
Thank you very much for your inspirations...
they give me food for thought.
Actually I am not the younger sister in life (I have no brothers and sisters) I mean I am the one with a lot of light shining on her... have accomplished a lot - don't mean to sound arrogant, but is a very long story.
Anyway thank you very much for all your time:bows::bows: