61.2.6 >3 transfer jobs to get a fresh start. Good idea?

[thisismybody]

Hey folks,

I moved to my current location for a relationship. It fell apart. But I ended up in a soulmate sort of career, the plant I work at being here. The company I work for has other plants across the south. I love my job and where I work. But sometimes I wonder if I should relocate because I'm not from here and my ex ended up with the only friends I had. I currently only have a few friends in a town 30 mins away and with the guys I work with. Which is fine. I enjoy my own company. It's not friend I'm looking for. Just maybe unsure if I should plant roots here. Thought about buying land and building a house in the future. I've recently thought about whether or not I should relocate, as this place is her hometown. She knows everyone. Her family is from here. My job is enough to stay. But eventually I'll want to meet someone new and make roots. I'm a homey type. I'd love to root where I belong. I'm not so sure about romantic prospects here as its a very small town. The area has people but it's very conservative and oppressive. I actually like it here, because I can be happy pretty much anywhere and I like small towns because I don't care for loads of people shoved into one area or long drives that aren't joy rides. I like space and the country, so it fits me in a way. But being gay here is like being the ugly duckling among swans or the swan among ducks!

The reading gives me pause about moving because of line 6. Lots of pregnancy abortion readings have 3 as a primary and relating hex. What do y'all think?

 

[solivini]

Hey there. Do you mind giving us the exact question? Was it, "Do I stay and make roots here?" Or was it more along the lines of, "what should I do?"

At first glance, I feel that the reading says that your inner truth is just beginning. At line 2 you have someone who calls to you to share. At line 6 you have someone who is doing far too much "crowing" or a boastful personality with no real backing. That's my take on it. But I feel that with the proper question we could have more insight.

Also, for what it's worth, I live in the south, and I happen to live in an extremely gay friendly area that is filled with love and light. Despite the hateful attitudes of some, there are far more open attitudes than closed ones, so perhaps you just havent found anyone who shares your sentiments just yet.

 

[loverofknowledge]

Hi, this reading makes a lot of sense to me, based on your needs and life situation. You wish to follow your inner truth. The challenge is that you are surrounded, in your conservative town, by "pigs" and "fish" who have their own ways of living, which are not yours, exactly.
Yes,you can stay where you are, but is that where you will ultimately feel at home and flourish?
Line 2: this line beautifully depicts your desire for a soul mate and for emotional ease and intimacy in your life: a nice domestic situation, with children (or the equivalent: young things to care for), and somebody who hears your song and reciprocates your heart's desire.
Line 6: I guess the translation can be either "crow" or sometimes "white horse". A white horse represents idealism, perhaps. If your idealism pushes too high, outside of reality, be ready for a crash. A warning.
Instead, following your inner truth, make a new beginning (hexagram 3) and hexagram 61 advises to cross the great stream. I take this all as a yes,-- at least make a start towards a move (to check it out- you can always change your mind). Don't put off your inner truth.


Hexagram 61: Confidence Within
Statement: Confidence within: Pigs. Fish. Fortune. Advance across the great river. Gainful purity

Line 2 comment: A calling crane in the shade: its young are at peace. I have a good wine goblet. I will share its excellence with you.
Line 6 comment: The sound of a white horse rising to heaven: pure misfortune.
The image Wind above the lake: inner truth. The noble one discusses the law and grants reprieve from execution.

 

[thisismybody]

Hey solivini,

The question was, I'm thinking about transferring to make a move. Is this an idea I should pursue?

Maybe that will help. Thanks for taking a look. ��

Loverofknowledge,

That was really insightful. I really, really like your view of line 2. Line 6 is what gives me pause. As if I might regret the move or go beyond my means in seeking "home." Hex 3 makes a new beginning, but it's difficult. There's something veiled in the reading I have yet to put my finger on. Following my inner truth is key. Discerning it, as the situation presently stands, is the issue.

Line 6 makes me think if I were to move, I'd be doing more than I have to to have line 2. Maybe now is not the time to make the move or think about it, but allow things to unfold and see if I get that real feeling of "now it's time."

 

[thisismybody]

But the Yi perfectly reflected back my desires in line 2 as you saw them. Thank you.

 

[loverofknowledge]

But the Yi perfectly reflected back my desires in line 2 as you saw them. Thank you.

Hi thisismybody,
Obviously, you know what's best for you. Follow your inner guidance. I get a strong hit on this reading, for some reason. Line 6: when sincerity has reached its pinnacle, there's a warning not to go further. The white horse (included in one reading of the line) elsewhere indicates purity. That says to me: be careful that your sincerity of intention is grounded by practicalities.The reading seems to suggest that, while you are at the beginning stages of this plan, it is one that could satisfy your heart --- so explore it.
Maybe the white horse symbol (see living iching translation-- it follows tradition) will prompt you to realize what it is that is baffling you, about this reading, and the situation.
have you some other reason to stay where you are, besides that you like your job (which, in any case, you would not have to give up if you moved, right?)? Any unfinished business there? Like with your ex?

 

[thisismybody]

My job is my career. Yes, potentially I could transfer, but how much I'd like it or be happy is the unknown. I'm very happy with my current job. Things may change at my plant in the next 5 years due to decommissioning activities. I may have to move. Who knows.

I also may have unfinished business with my ex. I saw her a few days ago. She's very angry with me for leaving her and ending our friendship. And for ignoring her. She won't admit it to me because confrontation and so called negative feelings are difficult for her to cope with. I'm the opposite. Love and let live. I've seen worse type. Interestingly, I had been pretty closed to her and then, out of the blue I had a dream about her last week in which she said "I love you" and I said it back, and could not stop thinking about her. I've done readings I havent shared that suggest something changing for us. She went to this shamanic retreat over the weekend. Like I said, I could not stop thinking about her. I felt this overwhelming love. I did some soul searching. I left her because she's closed hearted to me and keeps a distance. She was sweet yet always had to be in control. I moved for more balance and equality, as I tried for in our first relationship, and she balked. Both time. (she's a widow.) Said I needed to be patient. I wanted to work out things but she said she had to think about it. She waited too long, in my mind, so I said, friends. She said she couldn't move past the past because I had yelled at her and she didn't want it to happen again. Shit. Long story. Anyway, I felt I had to leave.

So I asked about her feelings this past weekend, as I could not stop thinking about her, and got. 61.2.5>27.

I have to post another thread to follow up on that and another reading I got. She has a child that I adore. We love each other.

Anyway, I asked the transfer question because sometimes I wonder if I should start fresh. But I feel a sense of soul longing here that I wish I didn't. Like an attachment that keeps me bound but is frustrating the living shit out if me. Some days and, actually, since I started feeling those feelings again.) Mostly, because I am helpless to change things between us. She resists me. So that's why I pulled away. I pulled away, hoping she'd let go of her ego and get in touch, but she never did--just seemed to get really angry that I hadn't reached out. So I did because of this weekend and those feelings. I smoothed it over, but...a whole ball of wax. There's deep love there, but a 50.3 scenario. She's so sure I'm wrong and that I need to change or bend that nothing changes. Except that I feel the need to withdraw.

I kind of have to surrender. I've let her know that I'm here. She knows id like to be in her child's life. But I will not not be met in the Middle. And she, as it stands, will not meet me. And frankly, if I could be happy and do what she wants, I would. But I don't want to be dominated and I'm not happy living the relationship on her terms. So I don't. I do want 61.2. She doesn't see that she's doing this. She says I just want my way. I say, no I want us BOTH to get what we want and need.

The struggle is real! But life is a blessing. In light of this, maybe 61.6 is not meant to go beyond 61.5. Maybe we'll never meet in the middle, and maybe I will move. Eventually. 61.6 still gives me pause. There is the ideal and there's the reality. 61.6 as ideal, as our too high expectation??? 61.5 and 61.2 as the muck and bloody details of life with attachments and struggles???

 

[thisismybody]

(Sorry this is such a long post.) I just had a realization. It's about the child. I more than adore him. We are connected. There's a beautiful, fated story about how my ex and I ended up together. I knew her for years. We shared the same best friend. I knew her as a friend acquaintance before she married her late spouse. A soul group of connections and friends that has fallen apart since his death and because she and I got together. And many were weird about it. By fated I mean, I had a premonition about a death close to me 2 weeks before he died.

Anyhow, the child. When she and I first started talking as closer friends after her spouse left this dimension, I had a dream about the child being in the center of us and there was an energetic link between all of us. Around that time, she dreamt we were in a boat and I was leading her to a blue house ( with a red door I think). She always wanted a blue house. I knew then that we'd end up in a relationship. When he died, I also had that same feeling. The boat dream sealed it for me.

The child...again...I now think that line 6 is about him. I don't want to leave him. I want to see him grow up even if she and I are apart. When I asked this question, I wasn't sure if he and I would be able to connect. She's been strange. She's very "go with the flow." While at the same time telling me she doesn't trust me and not letting me in her house. Hih?? I'm more, let me know so I can make choices. I let her know I'd like to be in his life. It's iffy. I'm hopeful. But I've also been wary of keeping the connection because I'm in love with her and I've been "moving on."

So that tells me a lot.

Thank you, loverofknowledge! You were right about line 6 and the hard hit of this reading. Maybe I am impatient. But maybe I just want to center my life around worthy commitments. To be continued...

 

[loverofknowledge]

Hi, worthy commitments are worthwhile!!! The dream premonitions and images are significant. Could the white horse be your imagination? However fated, you do have mundane choices to make in order to build a life of worthy commitments and intimacy.

Thank you, now I understand your complex feelings much better. It sounds like your relationship is still unfinished. Given where you both are, you know what you're dealing with, right? Is it for sure that the relationship with your ex is over? If so , would it really work to stay close to her child? Must some white horse or another fall down so that you can move on? Or is there a real possibility of going back to your ex? Even on her terms, knowing the limitations ? Once you gain clarity, take a compassionate but clear look at your life and what you deeply want. It may be a risk, but take whatever action is best. You need not be stuck.

 

[thisismybody]

Ah, white horse as imagination. I like that. Yes, I can see how this applies. Yesterday, I had some serious insight into how I've been foolish and have only seen my way, wanting her to let go of things before she was ready. I think we were fated to meet, as in some unfinished business and lessons to work out. But fatedness to meet does not mean fatedness to be together. Perhaps we have finished it or are on the brink of wrap up? I'm not sure. It may be difficult to be in her child's life if our connection is meant to end. Truly, I am open and receptive to all of it. Any outcome. I love her so much and let her know that yesterday. I've had a bit of clarity. But I am fully ready to accept any outcome. I feel invigorated and inspired to accept life through the will of surrender. I believe, and this has been a serious struggle in the past, God knows better than we do. We're wise to offer it up for the best of all possible and meant outcomes.

The only possibility of us returning is if she opens up to the possibility of a future. It isn't impossible, because I would, but she may be ready to move on and not feel as I feel. I'm open and ok with that. I can only control my actions and choices. She's got her own path. I respect and honor it and her. I hurt her in the past and she wasn't ready to open her heart to me. I'm no longer capable of accepting "punishment." So it's really a case of whether she's willing to reach a compromise. In the past I've felt like she's stubborn and resists. So I left.

Alas, the simplest step, and I took it, was to let her know my heart. I asked that she not respond to it then by text. If I don't hear from her, I will know to move on.

As far as the move, I think line 6 speaks to my overreacting and often making impetuous decisions because I can't see a way out or can't force the outcome I want. My own control issues. I will listen to my heart and let life unfold as it should. I'll make those bigger than life changing decisions when I reach each choice point. I think the reading reflects it like this:

61 - inner compass: follow your inner truth, your intuition (you know where you belong and when it's time to make a move. You can't go wrong following your true north).

61.2 - the most important choices you will make will inevitably involve those few souls around which your inner compass uses as landmarks. Fulfill what's written when you hear their call and cross paths. A true call. Responding to calls from the higher self, God, Angels, dreaming emissary, another soul.

61.6 - do not escape or run from those truths around which your life revolves. Making choices from your ego, from a desire for control, will bring misfortune and cause you to over shoot the mark. Or false call. Missing the mark. Hitting the bullseye but the wrong target? Responding to call of the ego, competition, insecurity, complexes and fears.

She, and whether we're together or not or whether I can see the boy or not, cannot be the reason I stay or go. My own inner truth, and my response to the true calls I actually hear within, should dictate those choices. This is what the reading has come to mean to me.

Thank you so much, loverofknowledge, for helping me work it out.

 

[loverofknowledge]

Hi, your reasoning makes a lot of sense.
Like I said, I was getting strong hits on this reading.
I admit that I'm a little bit biased, in one way. Whenever I've left constraining circumstances , I've later wished I had done it sooner. So, when I heard you speak of certain narrow attitudes, where you are, my initial impulse was to sense that the iching might be saying to you, Why wait? Your heart is calling. Move.
As you have now described more of all that is involved, however, I see your situation with more nuance, and your earlier relationship is an important part of it.
Hexagram 3: it is the Beginning of something. what's that new beginning? Still wondering about that.

 

[thisismybody]

Hey, yeah, I figured you were biased. I understand. I don't feel the calling to move. I more felt like running from my feelings of having no control and to provoke a response.

I actually really like it here and do not feel constrained. It's funny actually. I used to feel oppressed, but now find I like being the Unique one. I've made friends at work with men who are very conservative. The hunting kind. Trump voting kind. It's in some ways comforting because of where I grew up, despite that we aren't outside of work. (Because, in an effort to be honest not arrogant in any way, I'm considered to be attractive and effeminate in most places and especially the industry I work in.) it's cliquish so harder to make outside friends. I only mentioned it because of a worry that I will have trouble finding a partner in the future because the absence of lesbians here. But I can't fear that. I've firsthand experienced that the universe or God places us in unlikely situations, like the narrow streets of 38.2, in order for us to meet who we must.

And there's no opportunities yet surfaced to transfer. I'm still in training and got super lucky to have the trainer I have. I was once in the military and had the opposite experience. Though mind sets here seem like it'd be a wasteland for me, it's been the opposite--fertile land of opportunity for me to succeed in my vocation. I'm a power plant operator, like I said, and I'm in the best area in the country for this type of work and training.

I took the 3 relating to be what would happen if I moved without proper provocation or calling. Difficulty at the beginning and a sort of abortion of plans. 3 has always come up for me in work related questions that would prove uneventful or difficult depending on the changing lines.

I wonder what you need to hear since you got a strong hit??

 

[loverofknowledge]

My strong hit: 3 means do go forward tho it will be difficult at first. It will be fruitful. And your happiness is worthwhile, not to be postponed. Also I felt clear , intuitively, that there's something unresolved that is keeping you where you are. Now I understand, the relationship is the thing I was sensing as being a little bit unresolved, and the thing to go forward with may not be an actual move but some other thing in support of your inner truth. Following my inner truth is a big theme of mine, so that's the bias, but the hit quality of my sense of it is actually an unbiased, intuitive quality, when I feel the hexagrams land for me decisively and clearly. Also on bias, I used to give people's bigotry too much the benefit of the doubt, rather than speaking out. That's not your issue but it's partly why I tend to encourage people to seek their fulfillment rather than feeling estranged. Hope that explains.

 

[loverofknowledge]

P.S. it makes sense to me tho that you can feel at home in such a community, just as it can be lonely among people more liberal or aligned with your values. It really all depends.

 

[thisismybody]

Also I felt clear , intuitively, that there's something unresolved that is keeping you where you are. Now I understand, the relationship is the thing I was sensing as being a little bit unresolved, and the thing to go forward with may not be an actual move but some other thing in support of your inner truth.

I feel this same intuitive hit, as you describe. Something will be resolved when the time comes to resolve it. I feel like I'm growing in leaps and bounds, spiritually and on a personal level as well as in my career. I'm definitely a bit of a unicorn here. I've embraced my Tao in this situation. Which is, fully establishing my independence of spirit--a sort of hexagram 48 experience and becoming/seeing myself through 27.6, if that makes sense.

I will say, because my values and beliefs about the world are so vastly different that the community's, I am sensitive and more aware of my surroundings and how much of myself I expose. Like small doses of truth because these people tend to spit out what tastes a bit exotic. I like the way you think. I look forward to reading your views in threads, so thank you so much for taking the time to read a bit about my life and caring about it as if it was your own...sort of. Heehee