8.3.4 ->31

[tali]

Hi and thanks for stopping by!

Well, I'm lost.I'm looking to improve my love life and sex live as well,
as it non-existent at the moment

I've been thru many stressful events lately. And now quite lonely

I'm not a standard beauty, but I was told I'm quite attractive I'm though
thinking of plastic surgeries to improve my looks...
I also have all kind of complexes and insecurities about my looks that hold me back, definitely..I'm quite shy as well.

I'm attracting guys but somehow not the one I would like to attract.

So I asked:
"how can i become more appealing to yonger men?"

got 8.3.4.->31 ??


I'm quite new to I ching and I'd appreciate any insights...I read thru this forum, but could not find quite an appropriate answer

 

[edge]

I always find Lise's interpretations of the i ching particularly good in matters of love, this is what she says:
8.3: Be severe in what you accept and what not. One rotten apple can spoil a whole basket, so throw it out. If that is not possible, then leave yourself. You have just one life, don’t waste it.

8.4: Hold with what life brings to you. Your people, beliefs, even your hobby, but don't lose yourself in it. You yourself, your personal strength and wits and standards, are the base of giving support.

31: People need contact, and it is a very good and beautiful thing. Enjoy it. But ..
Evaluate influences very severely, even those who seem innocent or beautiful. Remember Snowwhite's apple? She looked at the beautiful apple, instead of the person who offered it.
Usually people do not want to hurt, they influence with the best intentions. They just don't realize how much self-interest these intentions contain. So be careful. A nice kiss can in the long term turn out to be a nasty bite. Don’t blame the one who did it, just never do anything that does not agree with yourself.
The trigrams say so: inside the mountain, which is you as autonomous individual, and outside the lake, the exchange. The contact can only be real and good if your individuality is the base of it.

to me all of this seems to be encouraging you to develop your personal strength, individuality and sense of worth, to be yourself and proud of it, and not to accept anyone who doesn't truly suit you.
Hope that helps,
E

 

[tali]

OMG, thanks!

u have no idea how true this is....

I could not resist and ak a question about my estranged ex, after all I feel so lonely.

Is he over me?

18.5 -->16

What does 18.5 mean in this context....Who's father does Yi talk about?

 

[tali]

Can someone help me with
18.5 -> 16 please?

The question was is my estranged ex over me?I read that generally yes/no questions are hard to interpret, but may be someone has some insight about this line?

It may be relevant to say that my ex thought that my father made me such that noone is good enouh for me...
So does it mean he(ex) does not want to correct my father's neglect/abuse of me?

 

[maremaria]

Is he over me?

18.5 -->16

Hi,

Could you check again the answer you got because 18.5 changes to 57

 

[tali]

Yes, sorry!

18.5 ->57

 

[ginnie]

18.5 > 57. Maybe it means he's still thinking about you.

The thing is, tali, life becomes so much easier when you ask from your own point of view, not from his point of view. It is only really helpful to ask about what the other person is thinking when the other person is a child or an incapable individual.

By the way, speaking of incapable individuals, when you got 8.3 in response to an earlier question, that person in question is not right for you. If you stick around with him and his group, your reputation will be damaged later on. Life gets really lonely sometimes, but a mistake like that can make a woman severely unhappy for a very long time. . . .

The #1 influence in our future happiness is who we choose to associate with, Tali. Starting right now, choose well.