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I have already posted that I am conversing with a new guy via the internet, met on the personals. BTW, if u have not seen the movie Must Love Dogs, I highly recommend it, very funny, especially if you have ever done the internet personal thing.

Anyway, of course with the internet you can never be sure of exactly who you are talking to, and I have some trust issues anyway. I have gotten those lines a couple of times recently that indicate problems or as Karcher says, ghosts from the past. I think it is referring to my lacking trust because of the things I have been through.

So I have been talking to this guy, he seems amazing, and he always has a logical explanation for anything I find questionable. I decided I was basically just going to go with the flow here and see what happens. Follow where this leads, just dont do anything that would be dangerous until I am more sure. But no harm just talking to him. He is supposed to be in Thailand on business for the next 3 weeks, so I have some time.

Yet, today I felt those doubts creeping in again, to try and clear things up for myself I asked yi, what should I do about x? 9.5

All of the interpretations I have talk about mutual support, binding relationships and firm ties. This seems to say go forward, maybe baby steps, hex 9 usually indicating small, gradual gain. Do any of you have anything else or any comments on what this is telling me? I really like this guy and want to believe he is who he says he is. But I was married for 8 years to a man who would not know the truth if it bit him in the butt. Trust is a difficult thing in the best circumstances, but when you have been burned really bad, its doubly hard.

Anyway, as always, any help or comments greatly appreciated.
 
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was also wondering what significance that it changes from power of the small to power of the great. The resulting hex is always difficult for me to interpret, never sure if it represents the current state, future state, possible outcome or just my own desire.
 
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also asked what should do about my doubts about x? 59.2.5.6

I'm not sure about this answer, line 2 talks of dissolving obstacles, line 5 of dispeling misunderstanding and line 6 of getting away from danger. line 6 worries me as it talks about protecting yourself and your kin (like maybe my daughter?), but I dont see how this reading fits with the 9.5 and lines 5 and 6 of 59 seem a bit contradictory. could line 6 be a reflection of my own concerns rather than an actual warning?
 

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Hope this 9.5 help?

"also asked what should do about my doubts about x? 59.2.5.6"

The whole thing means time has come to clear all your doubts and confusions that cloud your life so far. Good luck!
 
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Thanks. For some reason my link to Lises site was not working earlier. Hers is actually the most fitting of all I think. Will have to think on it. And yes, I can see that in the 59 reading. Just not sure how to go about it. I dont want to scare him off. On the one hand there is nothing wrong with asking a few questions about someone you are just meeting to be sure they are not scamming you, but on the other hand, I do not want him to think I am one of those women who will question every move he makes. How do you find the balance between the two?
 

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Seeker,

There are those who are undoubtedly going to say that what follows is too Machiavellian. However, life is that way
Forget all the usual self-help advice about relationships. Most of it is not based on reality. The truth is that if you want to win...you have to know how to play well:

There's a book called 'The 48 Laws of Power'. Read it and re-read it until you internalize the advice given there. A few "laws" seem partcularly appropriate in your case...(but I suggest you read the entire book.) I honestly do believe that following them will help you:

Law 16: USE ABSENCE TO INCREASE RESPECT AND HONOR
"Too much circulation makes the price go down. The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you seem...Create value through scarcity"

This is an old trick that women used to use. It works. In other words, don't throw yourself at anyone. Hold back and make yourself scarce.

Law 8: MAKE OTHER PEOPLE COME TO YOU
"When you force the other person to act, you are the one in control."

In other words, make these men come to you. When they do, you will have the upper hand. If they don't...don't run after them, it will weaken your position.

If you don't trust men easily then use this one to ferret out information:

Law 21: PLAY A SUCKER TO CATCH A SUCKER

If you do this, someone with bad intentions will be less cautious and therefore more easily spotted. In the case of this man you're asking about here...don't ask him anything. If he's a liar, all he will do is lie. If he's honest, he'll think you're paranoid. You lose either way. Just sit back, watch, wait...and keep your mouth shut. He will reveal who he is over time.

Law 34: ACT LIKE A QUEEN TO BE TREATED LIKE ONE

This is self-explanatory I think. Act like you deserve the best and you will get it. Never settle for less. I once had a man ask me to dinner on a Saturday night and then call me to cancel one hour before the date. He said that something had come up and that he couldn't make it. He asked to move the date to Sunday. He did not volunteer what that "something" was. My response was brief and to the point: "I don't think so. Goodbye". Why? Because that's not the way you treat a queen now is it? Let him go find some other sucker to treat that way.

Finally,

Law 35, MASTER THE ART OF TIMING

"Never seem to be in a hurry - hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time."

I think this is one of the most important ones. When you appear to be in a hurry, you look weak. Also, if it doesn't feel right to make a move...DON'T. Watch and wait. The right time will present itself.
 

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Clarissa, i like the maxims you put forward.
It is very true, indeed.

In Chinese, the popular "rule of actions" prescribed in I Ching is summarised into these four simple characters:

(1)淨 (2)靜 (3)精 (4)微
 

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Yl,

I wasn't able to see the characters. What are they and what do they mean?

As for the maxims...yes, they do indeed work, if followed religiously.
 

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