a date that went skewiff

[goddessliss]

Good morning,

I met a guy through online dating and we weren't supposed to go on a date until next week as he was tied up with other things(mainly his children). I thought damn it! as the anticipation can build it into something more than it should be.
Then suddenly the Universe provided the moment this morning and we met for breakfast.
He did not seem in a hurry to go although he did want to go and see his young sons performance at school. So everything was going well and 2 hours passed very quickly and he talked about seeing each other again and then said I don't really have to go to my son's thing and we could keep this date going and have lunch.
Then out of the blue he suddenly ended the date and said he didn't feel the girl/boy thing happening btw us but we could hang out together again if I wanted.
I said sure and we went ouf seperate ways.
I then sent him a msge and said I was a bit disappointed and would prefer to not have any further contact and it's all good, just prefer to let it go. And he replied saying ok no problems although you were beautiful company this morning.

I seem to keep meeting guys who can't make up their mind one way or the other However, I wanted to ask about this guy because it was a lovely date and he just suddenly seemed end the date so abruptly.

What is the potential Michael will change his mind

Hex 39.2.3.5>7

LIne 2 - I'm not really sure what happened about his sudden ending the date
Line 3 - Don't pursue this in my mind I will never find the answer
Line 5 - Possibly someone else coming in



I would appreciate any insight to help me through this process and quite possibly the further learning I need to do.

Liss xx

 

[icastes]

Goddess of the soap operas! 39 is all complications and failure. There is no way, and 7 simply means that he is frivolous and unstable. Duh! You are going about this all in the wrong way. Didn't your mother or some other wise woman teach you what you have to do?

 

[goddessliss]

Thks icastes, actually I think my love life is pretty hilarious. After a couple of hours of thinking on things I definitely realise he is frivolous and unstable.
Fortunately no mother figure to speak of - I have been on my own, bringing myself up so to speak, for a very long time. have fun
Melissa xx

 

[chingching]

how unsettling, to have a date end on that note. Just seems like you are meant to experience everything about love and human relations. I was confused at the way you phrased the question though, due to the fact he said there was no 'boy/girl thing'...is that how he phrased it? because if so thats an immediate cross against his name. 39.5 I have always experienced as someone coming in, could be him could be someone else. I have experienced 7 with a certain kind of energy and agressiveness (although I read alot about it being about getting organised etc.).

There is still another eclipse to come, nothing is very stable at the moment. I almost lost my job this morning!

I like Lise's commentary on 39.5

Do not fear to get stuck, it is always at such moments that someone comes to your aid because there is an opening, like a gap in the market.

Maybe the purpose of him coming in was simply to create a gap in your love market. ( And now a whole militia of men will come marching in...????)

 

[icastes]

Here's the basic rules: First, make a list of what you want in a man, e.g., what level of income, what kind of profession, what age, status, etc.. That is the most important thing. Second, you must do your research to find where such men are. I have no idea what that means where you are. I can't help you about that. Third, be prepared to give sex with the techniques of professional courtesan. Then, you must campaign. Go to the places where such men, but not at bars and restaurants, but parties, funerals, and weddings are very good. Everything from the local food store to the courts to the library. Mingle. Always dress well, prepared to meet someone, all the time. Don't meet just one man. Meet as many as you can, and be as open-minded as you can within the parameters of what you want. Use your charm. Do not fall into the trap of being unconsciously attracted to someone who looks like you, i.e., the facial structure. If you do that, you'll generally find that the attraction is there, but he that doesn't mean he is like you. (You can read up on that on my anti-blog at http://icastes.wordpress.com/2011/0...-rules-of-attraction-in-21st-century-america/) For years now, I have seen that the women who truly campaign for a man and not leave it to chance are all happily married today, including my favorite gold diggers who married multimillionaires and one who married a billionaire. It takes diligence, planning, and perseverance. I should point out that one New York woman wrote a book about how she couldn't understand why she couldn't find a man. She had the perfect one in mind, and when she met such a man it was always a disaster. She was in her 20s. So she decided to go out with any man who asked her for a year, except those who immediately tried to grope her or was an obvious drug addict. She dated men as old as 70 and as young as 19 of any profession and of any economic level. For almost a year, she didn't find anyone. She slept with a few, not all. Then, towards the end of the year, he met and fell in love with man who was totally not her type. He was about 50, divorced, with two children, and he was a playwright. It all worked out well. I only mention this approach as an alternative. However, the lesson for both is that you have to have a plan and follow it with fierce determination and persistence. Get a date a week no matter what.

 

[cris]

(...) Go to the places where such men, but not at bars and restaurants, but parties, funerals, and weddings are very good. (...)

This reminded me of 'Fight Club'. How about support groups?

Joking aside, thanks for the pragmatic suggestions. I think they are extremely sound. And I totally agree over the principle that often the relationship pearl is hiding in an unappealing oyster - my best relationships have been with men I initially did not bother looking at twice.

 

[icastes]

We tend to ask the Yijing about what is going to happen or what luck is at work. But that Yijing is more about how we must deal with the situation. In Goddess's case, there is nothing but trouble. But 39 says that you can't go forward and you can't go backward. That is what it is be obstructed. So, what to do? Well, with this hexagram, you must wait and have self-discipline. You must improve yourself. You must go to elders for advise. A development in the southwest might yield something. 7, the army or the masses, requires exceptional care. You must plan and handle decisions with determination, which, if done with virtue and perseverance, may yield honors and titles. If you constantly stray from the right path, then you are bound to repeat the mistakes of the past and to never overcome bad fortune. Reading the hexagrams without giving thought to proper behavior really doesn't do anything.

 

[goddessliss]

Thankyou chingching - yes I have had a lot of experiences over the past 12 months or more that have helped me learn and process things and whilst I appreciate it so very much I am a bit over the anticipation of meeting 'mr right' only for it to turn out to be 'mr very wrong'.
And icastes thankyou for your advice and I hope others take the time to read and perhaps apply to their own lives if its apt.

However, sick of all the unknowns in my life I finally went and got my Tarot read by someone I have been to many times over the past near 10 years but have not had the need to for quite some time.

So one of the things she told me was that the interstate truck driver was the man I would next have a serious, committed relationship to, but right now is not the right time for us as I still have a bit more past stuff and patterns to let go of and he has whatever he needs to get sorted.
I never take readers word as concrete but my intuition tells me she is spot on.

So damn my frustration at having to wait but she did help me sort out a bit of my confusion and as Yi says, stay on your correct path.

xx

 

[hopex]

ever read THE RULES or Getting to I do? i dont get the casting except that
there is an obstacle (still in love with his ex probably) and that you should
mobilise your forces and allies for this love mission.
this kind of thing happens when kissibg frogs

 

[goddessliss]

I still haven't met anyone of significance now near 2 years later and but I think it's really funny as I sure as hell don't even remember who this guy is/was

 

[newlife123]

Line read is 39.3:
.
He is not to blame. He did give you a chance and you did something or said something to turn him off. You are a victim of your psychological inadequacies.
.
Hex 7: right now.
.
Seems like you don't want examine your beliefs and why they are failing you but prefer to cast blame on others when you can't figure something out. I don't think Michael will be changing his mind and you probably didn't need to tell him to stop contacting you since he probably wouldn't anyways.
.
You might be running a Rahu or Mangal period right now so you better check.

 

[goddessliss]

Line read is 39.3:
.
He is not to blame. He did give you a chance and you did something or said something to turn him off. You are a victim of your psychological inadequacies.
.
Hex 7: right now.
.
Seems like you don't want examine your beliefs and why they are failing you but prefer to cast blame on others when you can't figure something out. I don't think Michael will be changing his mind and you probably didn't need to tell him to stop contacting you since he probably wouldn't anyways.
.
You might be running a Rahu or Mangal period right now so you better check.

Oh dear newlife123 this thread is about 2 years old and you couldn't be further from the truth in terms of me blaming others.
What exactly do you mean by psychological inadequacies, I've never heard that expression?

Liss

 

[newlife123]

That's how I read the hexes. Blame the I Ching.

 

[Trojina]

goddess tried to pm you but you don't accept pms ?

 

[goddessliss]

Hi trojan Huh? Yeah I do - will have a look.

 

[goddessliss]

Oh you're probably in lala sleep land now - anyway it's sorted now. - Liss