A FIGHT WITH MY FRIEND

[cosmictribe]

Hi. I'm new here...I had a fight with my friend. I asked the I Ching if we would be "reconciled" (become friends again) I got Hexagram #46. The first (bottom line) changed. This becomes Hexagram #11. That's seem like a "yes". I'm just checking. Plus I wouldn't object to deeper insights, if there are any.
Thanks,
-ct-

 

[cosmictribe]

Today I asked the how this reconciliation would come about. (I guess I should add that the advice I've gotten, as to how I could best facilitate this reconciliation, has consistently been that the situation would be best served if I just wait)(which I have been, and am, doing. Aside from a few letters I've sent, wherein I've apologized for my part in our dispute, I've done nothing. I have not attempted to call, or make a physical approach, or gone anywhere near where my friend was likely to be, and I've just generally kept away)
The answer I got to the aforementioned "how" question was: Hexagram #16, which changed to Hexagram #40.
Later today, I asked where my friend was "at" about all this. The answer I received was Hexagram #12, changing to Hexagram #28.
I guess what I'm hoping for, from this site, if anything, is confirmation. It would seem to me that, whether or not I can see it from here (which I can't) an end to our fight will come, is coming. Which I would be glad of.
I had given thought to just saying, "screw it", by the way. But, again, I consulted the I Ching. Before throwing in the towel, I asked, "what about if I just forget this?". That seemed to be viewed as an unwise decision. And, really, friendships, as well as other relationships, are worth some effort. Even if the only thing one can do sometimes is "wait". (Which is a harder thing for me to do than it might be for some people) Anyway, if anyone reading this feels moved to comment, I will consider, and appreciate your input.
Thanks,
-ct-

 

[dharma]

Hello Cosmictribe,

My ability to interpret the I Ching on it's own is still very weak at this time and so I generally use the Tarot as support in my efforts to understand what it's trying to say.

Basically, what I get here is that your friend has had somewhat of a shock from the dispute between you and it will take a bit of waiting on your part for the 'smoke' to clear.

Your friend will eventually get back to feeling centered and confident enough to contact you but they require a bit of time to reorient. They have a habit of taking off when things get out of hand and when they don't feel that they are in control (there is an extreme rigidity in character while emotionally they are still developing).

Bottom-line, they care enough to eventually try to work things out but it's hard for them to admit when they're in the wrong and even harder to forgive others who have wronged them.

Communication is essential but give it at least another week before you make yet another attempt. Apologies combined with reasonable time in-between allows the anger to dissolve so that communication can take place. I hope this helps.

Dharma

 

[cosmictribe]

Hi Dharma. It's kind of you to reply. And, yes, that sounds like my friend (who is a Taurus. I think (or so it seems to me) that some of them might find it hard to move from one emotional place to another, sometimes)
I have been focusing on where I was wrong. Which is as it should be, as I'm sure you'll agree. My part in things is what I see as my area of responsibility. As usual, I'll wait until I get some indication from The I Ching as to it's maybe being time again for another droopy flower or another sad clown card, or something. But a week or so sounds about right.
It's nice to hear that the caring is reciprocated. I think that part about timing the apologies pretty much confirms the I Ching's consistent message. Thanks for YOUR message. It was helpful. And just the thing I needed, and was looking and hoping for from here.
-cosmic tribe-