A stranger hit on me on the bus, big time. 44.1

[Owlietta]

He worked really fast, started kissing my hand, got my phone number, talked to me the whole bus ride. This happened 15 minutes ago. He says he'll call me later. I am not sure I am attracted to him..?
I asked "should I talk to him?"

44. Kou / Coming to Meet
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---------- above Ch'ien The Creative, Heaven
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---------- below Sun The Gentle, Wind
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The Judgement
Coming to Meet. The maiden is powerful.
One should not marry such a maiden.

The Image
Under heaven, wind:
The image of Coming to Meet.
Thus does the prince act when disseminating his commands
And proclaiming them to the four quarters of heaven.

The Lines
[] Six at the beginning means:
It must be checked with a brake of bronze.
Perseverance brings good fortune.
If one lets it take its course, one experiences misfortune.
Even a lean pig has it in him to rage around.

1. Ch'ien / The Creative
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---------- above Ch'ien The Creative, Heaven
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---------- below Ch'ien The Creative, Heaven
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The Judgement
The Creative works sublime success,
Furthering through perseverance.

The Image
The movement of heaven is full of power.
Thus the superior man makes himself strong and untiring.

 

[moss elk]

No
No
No
No
No!

Apply the brakes!!

 

[mulberry]

NO! This is a resounding clear reading, and a negative one. It is warning you not to continue or you will experience misfortune. I assume he could be very dangerous from this reading. Don't answer his calls. Do not engage. Ignore him or act like you don't recognize him if you see him again.

Besides the I Ching delivering a resounding "no", I'm spooked by anyone who would kiss the hand of a stranger on a bus, ask for their number, and be overly flirtatious in such ways. Perhaps I am too suspicious, but that behavior makes me suspect an underlying motive that is malicious, or else mentally unhinged behavior that would not be good to be around regardless.

The reading is quite stark and makes clear that you'd best NOT return his call or further engage him in any way, or you're putting yourself at risk.

 

[Owlietta]

The i-ching never lets me down! :bows: I always get really spot-on readings, to the extent that it's often spooky.

I could tell it was a negative reading, but I'm not good enough at interpreting the i ching to see it was THAT bad! Now I definitely won't answer his calls.

 

[ginnie]

Once my computer was hacked. I threw the I Ching and got 44.1 . . . Please make sure, Owlietta, that your phone number is the only thing he walks off with!

 

[goddessliss]

OMG! Do you have trouble with boundaries in your life - why did you let this person be intimate with you and give yourself away including personal information? OMG good lesson. - Liss

 

[Owlietta]

No, I don't have trouble with boundaries, and I have lived a life nearly completely free of violence, at age 41. It was about a 30 minute bus ride. He had an airport clearance badge, and during the conversation I told him that I might be interested in working at the airport: that was his pretense for getting my number. He also asked me if I was single, etc, can we meet later?, etc. I thought the hand-kissing part was too much, but whatever. How much harm can one guy do on a bus ride?

Everyone here seems to be freaking out, which seems completely based on the reading. Agreed, I thought he was too forward, but there was nothing actually inappropriate that he did, during the 30 minute bus ride. He just hit on me.

I got a text from him and 2 missed phone calls. I will not be calling him back.

 

[blue_angel]

Hmmm, hexagram 1 creative hexagram 44 meeting. Creative meeting. Line 1- attraction and desire. (Lean pig stuggles). Lol. Um... if you head over to memorizing iching thread you can get a better idea of what these readings may refer to. The advice of line 1 seems along the lines of figuring out what YOUR expectations are. Where you are at and where you are willing to go. And then go there with care and caution.

I am curious, it seems like you had a somewhat good meeting with this man. Was he all over your hand or did he simply kiss your hand upon your departure? Either way seemed you were overwhelmed and unsure if you were interested. And yet he is obviously interested. So it seems the reading reflects the question
back to you. Are you interested or not? Figure it out, cause he's definitely interested and you don't want to lead him on. At least that's how I see it.

Now imho, since you are not interested and yet you did give him your number. You could text him back "thank you for the airport employment information, however I am not at all interested in anything else at this time. Take care".

 

[Owlietta]

Yes, I was flattered by the attention. Totally not expecting it, since I was wearing a sweatshirt & jeans & no makeup. He was okay in terms of attractiveness. I did get a creepy vibe from him, to be completely honest. He creeped me out just a little bit, which is why I consulted the i-ching and why I reported back with the results here!

BTW the pretense about employment at the airport was just to get my number. The last 15 minutes of the bus ride he was talking about getting up close & personal with me, about how we should meet, etc. That's fine, since I am a single, middle aged, woman. He didn't actually do anything inappropriate, although, I must say that he seemed like he was goal-driven to take me somewhere fast.

 

[blue_angel]

"He had an airport security badge. During the conversation I told him I might be interested in working at the airport." Then "he didn't do anything inappropriate" yet "he creeped me out". Still you gave him your number and continued a 30 minute conversation with him, giving him no idea you weren't interested, and allowed him to kiss your hand. And even though he didn't actually do anything inappropriate, you were creeped out. Sounds a little confusing. And then originally "I am not sure I am attracted to him?" But now "he was okay in attractiveness".


I wonder if he was also confused, perhaps thinking it was a mutual attraction. A simple "sorry for any
confusion, I'm not interested" if he texts or calls again should do it. I don't think a passive aggressive stance would work with him, and maybe your reading points to that. Saying something like, "take a look at yourself and what you expect. If you're interested go foward, if not be straight about nipping it in the bud. Instead of struggling with it."

 

[Owlietta]

Sorry if I explained it in a way that sounds confusing, but it really isn't.
Also, I think the reading was really clear. I asked the i ching "Should I talk to him?", and got an answer that says basically, if you do, you're screwed, literally and/or figuratively.

He can go pick up on some other woman, and I am certain that he will. The guy was very forward and not shy at all. He's just not my type and I'm not going to pick up if he tries calling me again.

 

[mulberry]

I don't think you owe him any explanation, and the I Ching made it pretty clear that you should have no communication with him at all or you'll be inviting trouble. So, just ignore him. He'll survive just fine and with his pride intact, I think!