Advices needed

[usilser]

I need your advice about the steps I should take to find somebody to get married (I asked for one more time for more clarification). I don't want to waste any more time. I tried to interpret my casts but I would like to read your interpretations too.

How could I find someone to get married?
52,1 to 22 ->
The line confuses me. It doesn't show action. I should rest my toes. I should just rest and concentrate on how to make me beautiful and improve my manners ?

Then I asked:

If I refrain from action, will a man come into my life to get married?
32, 1,2,5, to 49 ->
Line 1, Don't expect a long lasting relationship so quickly.
Line 2, Regret is gone.
Line 5, The woman controls her emotions, the man decides.
Hex 49 Radical change "

the superior man sets the calendar in order and makes the seasons clear"(Wilhelm)​

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A man will come, I shouldn't expect too much from the beginning, I won't be sad anymore, I should restraint myself not be pushy leave the man to decide and everything will change radically or then I will check the calendar so as to arrange a date for the wedding (hex 49)?

At the end I asked Yi...

Yi, Do you see me married in the future?
29, 2,5, to 2 ->
Line 2, A dangerous situation with only small gains
Line 5,

A dangerous situation which is under control, or my emotions should be under control.
Hex 2 The female is compliant, receptive and she perseveres.
I guess this is how I will manage to get married.

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[redblue]

In my opinion all three answers are a kind suggestion:

"Stop to worry about, you are craving for this too much!"

Almost all the lines are pointing to the same concept: let the things to unfold naturally and don't constantly crave for an instant, almost "magical" solution. Things will come when their time will be.

At the same time, of course, probability law is a friend or an enemy, more people you will meet and more chances you will have to meet someone important in your life.

But don't go outside just to meet someone otherwise you will take the first met like "the one", just live and the right things will happen.

Hugs!

 

[rosada]

52.1 Stop trying to make things happen -
22. it's causing you to become lost in fantasies.

32.1 Refraining from action will save you from plunging into a commitment too quickly.
32.2 It will enable you to become more focused on where you are and who/what you need in your life now, rather than being stuck in some childhood dream-man fantasy.
32.5 By being true to yourself and developing your talents you will come to know yourself better and thus be better able to create a successful partnership.
32.6 You are restless and wanting to jump into what you imagine would be a new life but you can't just cut off the past and start over. Appreciate everything that is good about your life as it is right now.
49. New people will then come into your life who are much more suitable for you - but you may find you come to know yourself and love your single life so much that your ideas of what you want in a partner dramatically change!

29.2 Small steps can be taken to improve your situation.
29.5 Then there is nothing more you need to do.
2. Anything is possible but at this point no plan is in action.

All in all My reading is pretty much the same as redblue's, I just wanted to sort it out line by line. I think the main idea here is that your wishing to meet a suitable husband is distracting you from putting your attention on what you should be focusing on right in front of you. Like maybe you should put more effort into your own interests and hobbies because then you will not only enjoy your current circumstances/life more but also this way you are more likely to meet someone who shares these interests and thus is more compatible to be a partner - but first you need to really find out what your own passion is.
An example of what I'm trying to say here might be a person who dabbles in Astrology. She decides to really get into it and take a class. She meets a friend in the class! Are they soul mates? Could be but wait a minute, maybe she discovers after taking the class isn't all that interested in astrology after all. So continue with the friendship or continue to find her passion? You see, there are lots of steps.. But the main point is to take the next reasonable small step - 29.2 - which would be for you to put more energy into making your life as it is now the best life it can possibly be.

 

[rosada]

Further thoughts...
Considering how 32.1 leads to 22. Perhaps rather than meaning "Stop trying to make this happen - you are getting lost in fantasies", this line may be saying you are expecting results too soon and that you actually need to put more energy into this to make the dream become solid reality. But that doesn't necessarily mean doing anything, could mean just changing one's attitude or expectations. I still think 52 calls for calm and quiet.

Also the last question you asked which ultimately resulted in hex 2 ( the hexagram that describes infinite potential that needs clear direction in order to manifest) could be saying you need to develop your fantasy, your goal, what you are looking for in a partner before the Universe can manifest it.

Maybe need to do more consciously to implant the idea of what you want your unconscious to connect you with? Like make a list of all the qualities you admire in a man, put up pictures on your mirror of movie stars whose physical type appeals to you, hang out with friends who are in happy relationships, watch romantic comedies that end well. (these could be the small steps recommended in line 29.2)

So now I revise my reading to mean "Keep looking, but while there is no need to actually DO more, there are small steps you can take to both improve your life as it is right now that will also help to attract and recognize a suitable partner - such as being clear about what you think you want in a husband and at the same time pursuing the things and interests that you want while you are single."

 

[redblue]

Amazing insight rosada

 

[diamanda]

How could I find someone to get married?
52.1 > 22
Don't concentrate on stability - concentrate on beauty.
Get a pedicure, pamper yourself, concentrate on your beauty.
Concentrating on your own beauty is a great confidence boost.
Fixating on getting married is a very unattractive characteristic.

If I refrain from action, will a man come into my life to get married?
32.1.2.5 > 49
If you totally refrain from action, then even if a man appears he will again disappear.
You asked this question because you took the previous one to mean 'do nothing'.
I don't believe it meant 'do nothing' - it meant concentrate on beauty instead of stability.

Do you see me married in the future?
29.2.5 > 2
The way things stand right now, no, don't expect much.

 

[rosada]

Just want to add a bit of encouragement here. I have had experiences where the I Ching's negative readings have given me the kick I've to look at situations with more clarity and as a result to be able to make necessary changes and turn failure into success. For example I had invited some friends over for a gathering but I hadn't put much thought into it. The I Ching predicted the event would be a pointless flop. This spurred me to to get motivated and the party was ultimately a grand success.

 

[diamanda]

Well said Rosada, totally agree. The readings can show if we can influence the situation or not, and if yes how.

Usilser I believe you can have success if you change your actions.