alarmed by such an advice: 27 (3,5) - 37

[oponopono]

hi everyone,

I have a pattern behavior regarding someone that used to be a partner. We separated one year ago, I did my best to move on and mostly feel I managed well at that, except for cyclical (very)low points in which dense feelings come back very strongly. There was a recent post about these falls after which I tried to go deeper into my regret and my sense of loss.

Today: after a couple of months without seeing each other I was aware I was going to see him today. I had a birthday gift to give to a very dear friend who happens to work with him, and I knew they would both be at this venue, so I decided to pass by and just be friendly. It turn out ok, we chatted a bit, it was nice to see he is doing ok, but I wasnt expecting his new girlfriend to be there. I think I was also nice to her and overall nobody noticed how much that rocked my world...

But I came back home very very upset. Inspired by the 48 unchanging I just allowed myself to go into all the pain and the rejection this encounter brought back to life. I spent the entire day at that and as I was starting to feel more calm, getting ready to go to bed, I asked the I Ching for an inspiring idea on how to wake up tomorrow with a sound decision that allows me to fully move on and let this story go.

I have to add that she seemed very sweet and they seemed very right for each other. That should help me to move on... nevertheless the amount of sorrow i was carrying home was undeniable. Also some guilty-shame feelings because she really didn't have a threatening presence... I really felt a strange bond to her.

... all this mixed feelings and the wish to finally turn this page lead me to ask:

what resolution can i take from tomorrow on in order to break free from the heavy feelings this story unlashes in me?
27 (3,5) 37

Im startled by the ominous feeling of the lines. From 27 i get a general sense of learning to nourish myself and from 37 accepting roles, but the lines really make me feel Im totally lost and it will take a very long time to recover my path...
what could line 3 be warning me about?


I usually dont ask questions when i am so torn as today, but I just wanted some wise guidance...
...off to sleep...

thank you!
Y*

 

[kalikari]

Hi Yoana,
My overall feeling from this hexagram is as that it is reflecting some kind of disfunctionality in your understanding of how to move through this. The question,
"what resolution can i take from tomorrow on in order to break free from the heavy feelings this story unlashes in me? "
is answered by reflecting to you the problem.
27.3 disconnecting from your power, not truly nourishing. rejecting the source.
27.5 rejecting the seeming situation, leaves you without much to eat... look for help humbly.

I just happened upon a talk today by Manly P Hall in which he was saying something to the extent of how the food that comes into our mouths is transformed into universal energy through a spontaneous process that is the motor of God. It is then transformed through our bodies back out through our mouths into words that we speak. It is these words that have the power to influence the world and transform history. He went on to say that how we choose to eat, and spend our days, and even how we use our minds (thinking positively, or negatively) is our responsibility. I guess he was saying that to not respect ourselves and nourish ourselves with love and understanding is a sort of sin against life.

Anyway, I feel that you don't need to dwell anymore on this relationship and your feelings about it. You are indulging in too much grief now. Your previous answer of 48 wasn't telling you to deepen your feelings of sadness. Bradford had said quite beautifully in that thread, "If we let them make us suffer all over again it only gets worse. This is re-sentiment or resentment."

I see 48 (the Well) as a reminder of our own intrinsic value, which can never leave us.

The relating hexagram 37 in your last reading seems to me to be answering your question. Stay surrounded by those who love you now. Good friends and family. Don't isolate yourself.
It's always a kick in the heart when the ex get's a new girlfriend. Don't be frustrated with yourself, but keep your head out of sentimentalies now... Don't relive anymore feelings of rejection. Feed yourself loving thoughts and kindness.

I hope that helps,
:bows: kalikari

 

[oponopono]

Thank you Kalikari, that is a very enlightening feedback you share. I was hoping that after a good night's sleep the answer seemed more sensical but actually it does not. But I feel calm overall and the image of them together really makes me feel my path is with someone else, if there was still some hidden surviving hope of getting back together. His presence has been in a way a source of nourishment, and I feel I must disconnect, as it is unavoidably so.
I am insecure how to proceed and afraid there might be something dysfunctional in my perception of the situation, as you also say, but given everything I don't see anything wiser than stepping back and letting time erase him fully from my memory. I guess im just scared that 27,3 tells me i wont be able to do that still for a long long time.
But hey, one day less to go... (;

yoana