Angry former friend, has he forgiven?

[rosa17]

Hi everyone,

Please help to shed some light on this...

John is from my home town and he and I had a wonderful friendship and dated for a while. At the time, he decided he did not want commitment. I was heartbroken but accepted this. We started to date other people. I met someone whom I married. John stopped speaking to me the day I got engaged. I could not understand this as he had another partner at the time. Fast forward a few years, we start chatting on social network. My husband is fine with this as John has moved to Canada, overseas. Also, I am open with my husband about such things. About a year ago John tells me that he was hurt when I married someone else. But John has a new partner. And is happy. Then John stops speaking to me again for about a year. I feel bad as I did not realise he cared. Suddenly in the past four months John has been speaking to me all the time, non stop. Very friendly. I was wondering why the change of heart -

I get Hexagram 48 - The Well - The water of a well never disappears but never receives any great increase, and those who come and those who go can draw and enjoy the benefit. If the drawing has nearly been accomplished, but before the rope has quite reached the water the bucket is broken, this is evil.

The changing lines are

The second line, undivided, shows a well from which by a hole the water escapes and flows away to the shrimps and such small creatures among the grass, or one the water of which leaks away from a broken basket.

The fourth line, divided, shows a well, the lining of which is well laid. There will be no error.

The resulting line is The future is embodied in Hexagram 31 - Hsien (Influence): On the fulfillment of the conditions implied here, there will be a free course and success. Its advantage will depend on being firm and correct, as in marrying a young lady. There will be good fortune

Does this mean he has accepted the past and moved on and does not have a grudge anymore? Does this mean we can still be cordial friends?

I am not sure how to interpret this. Can any help me?? Please??

 

[gene]

rosa 17

Before I get into this, I am wondering about the concern you have with this. Is the present partner not acceptable to you? If the present partner is, why any concern about what is going on with a past partner? The answer you received sounds like there is a possibility of a renewed relationship. But why? What is really going on? It seems that line two would indicate that either there is a spoilage of the relationship John presently has, or a spoiling of the relationship you currently have, or both. It would appear that you still have something for John. Is this what you really want?

Then line four would indicate a repair of some kind. Likely a repair and a rekindling of your friendship. But once again, is this what you really want? I think there needs to be some definition here, and some meeting of the minds, of your mind with your mind, and then eventually probably a meeting of the minds with your marriage partner, and then a meeting of the minds with John. The lining of the well could refer to the need to have clear definitions, and clear boundaries in this matter.

Somewhere, either with John or with your present partner, there is some attraction, and some love. It would be best to clearly define where that love truly exists.

Gene

 

[wind]

Wow, Gene. What a clear and thorough answer you have given. I really understand how you interpreted the casting.

I wish you luck in this situation, Rosa. It sounds very confusing and something that pulls on the heartstrings. I wish you well in thris trial and hope you get the resolution you seek.

 

[ginnie]

Regarding the repairing of the well -- sometimes it takes a while. I wouldn't assume that the well has already been repaired or that it will be easy to repair. The well refers to our social and/or biological needs. The idea seems to be that the repair of the friendship is in progress but not yet completed.