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What is an 'FWB' house'? 'Fancy Wife's Boyfriend's house'? It's not helpful when people use acronyms many of is don't know, or have to guess at.my FWB house
You've already crossed this particular 'FWB River' and you now have the rest of your own journey that needs your attention. Or ... you can keep looking back in anger and longing at this 'already-crossed-over' river and not get any further in your own journey.What do I need to know ... Hexagram 63 unchanging
You've already crossed this particular 'FWB River' and you now have the rest of your own journey that needs your attention. Or ... you can keep looking back in anger and longing at this 'already-crossed-over' river and not get any further in your own journey.
It's not uncommon for us to get stuck like this, (been there, done that) but like any useful recovery program, a good first step is to recognize that we're stuck
Yes fair enough 63 unchanging or maybe me turning up today pushed them across the river....What do I need to know about the Nature or their relationship 63 unchanging
Either that their relationship is over, or (because you bring yourself into the question, what do I need to know) that your relationship is over and don't look back.
What response can I expect from her re my message 55.5 > 49
It sounds like a positive response. 49 - maybe she'll tell you that he's got another new girlfriend, or, despite her positive response she might be competitive with you (49 shows two sisters fighting with each other).
I may be mistaken, but it seemed to me that the response is about 'what (you) need to know' and maybe one aspect of this is that you shouldn't get caught up in the details (the life) of a river you've already crossed.The question wasn't about Me and Him but this 'other' woman and Him .... I view our FWB as totally over and recognise it ....
When we were spending time together he said he'd split with someone about 6 months ago, hence why he didn't want to start a new relationship with me or so he said.
Now if this is a new relationship and/or they've just reunited, they certainly weren't looking like much was going on, considering when I was hanging out with him he would always follow me around and want me to be as close as possible to him.
What do I need to know about the Nature or their relationship Hexagram 63 unchanging
They're just feeling their way for now....
Now if this is a new relationship and/or they've just reunited, they certainly weren't looking like much was going on, considering when I was hanging out with him he would always follow me around and want me to be as close as possible to him.
About an hour after I left I sent her a message telling her he and I had just had a tentative relationship but were no longer and apologising and explaining that I thought it was just friends of his staying otherwise I wouldn't have come in.
What response can I expect from her re my message Hex 55.5>49 - Well that sounds good. Wonder if we'll actually become friends of sorts because we're both yoga teachers as it turns out.
or maybe me turning up today pushed them across the river
Oh okay hahaha - I don't know why she'd get like that except that I'm probably 15 years younger than she is BUT to me she was quite beautiful.
I didn't say you'll be competitive, she might get competitive towards you, who knows why (or she'll inform you of a new girlfriend of this Don Juan).
What makes you say becalm's former FWB friend is a 'Don Juan'? And do you mean that in a good way, e.g. he's her FSM - 'former stud muffin'? And since becalm was the other half of this FFWB - former friends with benefits relationship, does that make her a Don Juanita? - or maybe a black widow who's still lurking around?she'll inform you of a new girlfriend of this Don Juan
I felt they were friends that knew each other very well and were very comfortable with each other but nothing more than that. The reason I was a bit curious is that she said she was staying there for a few days and yet she only lives about 20 minutes away. We've just gone into serious lockdown so maybe she's just staying there to keep him company because I know he suffers from depression but that's just wild guessing. She did seem a little perplexed about who exactly I was.You are asking about the nature of their relationship and seem to have a reasonably clear answer in 63uc; this is something that's either 'done', complete or settled. This isn't something about to gain a whole new lease of life or something that's mid completion or that's mid -drama. That would probably be why you got quite a non intense vibe when you went in. Perhaps it's all fine with them, they're okay with each other, they've settled into a groove or they may actually be done with one another but not in a 'this is it I will never see you again' kind of a way but far more like 'this is as far as we go together'. I've often had 63uc for decisions already taken, things already put in place and when asking about relationship potential Yi is usually saying here 'this is it, this is what it is'. And of course this can be good news or not. If one wants much more than there already is then 63uc isn't so great but if one is abundantly happy with things as they are that's good
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I don't feel much has changed between them. Who knows they may think it has but there's a distinct lack of drama here IMO.
You texted her so you already know her ? 55.5 looks like a generous response possibly. Also I get the sense this is an answer that may go beyond the bounds of the question. It may refer to some kind of fullfilment for you in the situaiton.
We've just gone into serious lockdown
Victoria's had perpetual lockdown but most of the other states in Australia have had mediocre lockdowns. NSW, where I live, has just gone into a state lockdown for 7 days. Sydney has the most serious rules.Didn't know that, will check out the news from Australia. Here in the UK the clubs are open, masks optional, party time.....except not quite.
When becalm has more than 1 partners, I'll call her Don Juanita.What makes you say becalm's former FWB friend is a 'Don Juan'? And do you mean that in a good way, e.g. he's her FSM - 'former stud muffin'? And since becalm was the other half of this FFWB - former friends with benefits relationship, does that make her a Don Juanita? - or maybe a black widow who's still lurking around?
Initially I just misunderstood your response but then I realised what you meant.I may be mistaken, but it seemed to me that the response is about 'what (you) need to know' and maybe one aspect of this is that you shouldn't get caught up in the details (the life) of a river you've already crossed.
I can imagine the Yi or a diviner telling you, 'what you need to know about their relationship, is that you don't need to know about the details of their relationship'.
But if my interpretive shoe doesn't fit, you need not wear it.
However ... when you go into so much detail about the 'clues' of their relationship - and you leave messages for this 'other' women and then ask the Yi how your message will be received - 'over' is not the word which springs to mind to describe what's going on here.
But then again, maybe you're just asking all this out of curiosity .... in which case, can you just ask your former FWB friend what's up between him and this woman?
That seems like a better approach, instead of having people like me mucking up an interpretation of your reading.
I am curious then; does your use of the terms 'Don Juan' and 'Dona Juanita' carry any moral judgment, or any other kind of judgment? Or are these just your words for people whom have had more than one sexual partner in their lifetime? (I prefer the terms 'stud muffin' and 'babe' but potato, potato.)When becalm has more than 1 partners, I'll call her Don Juanita.
Okay, so all this is about your concern for your sisters' well being, just telling her that your former FWB is not to be trusted; and that there was/is no hint of jealousy or envy, or meddling on your part. I wasn't picking up on that, but thanks for clarifying this.Actually the real reason I messaged her was watching another woman's back and trying to find a way to do that. I could ask him but I don't trust he'd be honest.
Or ... maybe what you are being told is they have 'already crossed the river' - which is a term I've never though of to describe having had sex, but I think it works. And now comes the next step - as is most often the case: they'll either have to care for one another and for the relationship, or not ....the Nature or their relationship Hexagram 63 unchanging
I get it. Without any evidence, and not having been there, and despite the Yi saying nothing of the sort, your calling becalm's former FWB (which itself defines a loose, noncomitted relationship) the female version of a whore. I wonder what that makes his current and former FWBs? As Don Juan once said, it takes two to tango.If you don't know what Don Juan means, look it up ....
Okay, so all this is about your concern for your sisters' well being, just telling her that your former FWB is not to be trusted; and that there was/is no hint of jealousy or envy, or meddling on your part. I wasn't picking up on that, but thanks for clarifying this.
No. I'm saying those are some of the ways I'd describe what I thought was going on, based on what becalm was saying about the situation. You know, if it walks like a duck and quacks like duck .... but obviously I was wrong and there are no jealous, envious ducks involved here - only a male ex-FWB who turns out to be a whoring don Juan (or that's what some of the interpretations are implying).So are you making out there is jealousy, envy or meddling then ?
I wasn't responding to 'previous threads' but to this one.Previous thread/s on this relationship give background and IMO some cause to ask about the woman.
Well, a valuable lesson and a good piece of advice for becalm. Maybe that's what the Yi's responses are talking about here: that becalm needs to stop being a FWB! Or a FFWB - a 'former' ....This is one reason FWB is rarely of any benefit, it's more like subtle theft.
And I wasn't responding to 'previous threads' but to this one.
Maybe that's what the Yi's responses are talking about: becalm needs to stop being a FWB! Or a FFWB - a 'former' ...
What do I need to know about the Nature or their relationship Hexagram 63 unchanging
I offered an interpretation that I felt was about Becalm's relationship with the situation, and Becalm acknowledged this when she said " ... initially I just misunderstood your response but then I realized what you meant ..."The question is specifically about 'their' relationship
What you need to know about the nature of their relationship is that they are comfortable in each others company and that while things may be in the process of being worked out between them neither of them is ready for a full break yet.What do I need to know about the Nature or their relationship Hexagram 63 unchanging
They're just feeling their way for now.....
The response you can expect with regards to your message will be one that allows you, or even forces you, to see things differently. It may even be harshly worded, or worded in a way you were not expecting. Whatever it contains, it'll be an eye opener that will direct you towards a new, clear and definite course of action.What response can I expect from her re my message Hex 55.5>49 - Well that sounds good. Wonder if we'll actually become friends of sorts because we're both yoga teachers as it turns out.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
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+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).