Argument with my sister 23-46

[yxeli]

Hi all,

Last night I went with my eldest sister (age 40) to an event that her friends (band mates, curators, artists) organised in their gallery space here in Dublin. My sister is more of a socialite then an artist, and she plays in a band with other artists. I have been to a million of these openings, and i always found the whole thing quite a networky, false type of an affair. For along time, i thought that i should enjoy these events, and tried to change my personality to fit with the high art crowd, but over the past year, the facade of it all has really made me dislike the entire thing. But i have never talked about it openly, i just kinda smile, drink the free wine and duck out asap. I have always slightly cringed at how much of my sisters time is wrapped up in her reputation. And last night was a classic example.

It was time for us to leave, and I happened to politely interrupt a conversation she was having with a woman to ask her when she was planning on driving back into the city centre.My sister didn't say anything to me at the time, but as I got into the car to head home with her, the tirade started rolling.

"do you not know who I was talking to?" my sister said.
"no?"
"that's a very famous writer that hangs out with Irvine welsh! How could you embarrass me like that?"
(at this point I started feeling very embarrassed for her)
I said to her "what is it with you and trying to get in with an in crowd? When you started goin out with your boyfriend, all you could talk about was how he masters music for very famous musicians, do you know what you sound like? A fifteen year old groupie!"
I then hastily jumped out of the car.

Haha.

I have to say I felt quite proud of myself for standing up to her. All of my friends are "not good enough" in her eyes, everything I do gets a snide remark, (especially if I talk about the I Ching) so for me, telling her like it is was quite the step up.

I asked yi about this and got 23,2,3,6 to 46.

I quite like the feeling of this combination, stripping things down to eventually push upward. Please let me know if my interpretation is way off!

Thanks,

Yx

 

[dragona]

Hi, must be something in the air with overbearing sisters....I see the cast as also telling you to strip away the unwanted gatherings, affairs that are making you feel out of place but keep in mind the family bond and work on it in other areas and in different settings.
And I Wish us both good luck with that.

 

[Trojina]

Hi all,

Last night I went with my eldest sister (age 40) to an event that her friends (band mates, curators, artists) organised in their gallery space here in Dublin. My sister is more of a socialite then an artist, and she plays in a band with other artists. I have been to a million of these openings, and i always found the whole thing quite a networky, false type of an affair. For along time, i thought that i should enjoy these events, and tried to change my personality to fit with the high art crowd, but over the past year, the facade of it all has really made me dislike the entire thing. But i have never talked about it openly, i just kinda smile, drink the free wine and duck out asap. I have always slightly cringed at how much of my sisters time is wrapped up in her reputation. And last night was a classic example.

It was time for us to leave, and I happened to politely interrupt a conversation she was having with a woman to ask her when she was planning on driving back into the city centre.My sister didn't say anything to me at the time, but as I got into the car to head home with her, the tirade started rolling.

"do you not know who I was talking to?" my sister said.
"no?"
"that's a very famous writer that hangs out with Irvine welsh! How could you embarrass me like that?"
(at this point I started feeling very embarrassed for her)
I said to her "what is it with you and trying to get in with an in crowd? When you started goin out with your boyfriend, all you could talk about was how he masters music for very famous musicians, do you know what you sound like? A fifteen year old groupie!"
I then hastily jumped out of the car.

Haha.

I have to say I felt quite proud of myself for standing up to her. All of my friends are "not good enough" in her eyes, everything I do gets a snide remark, (especially if I talk about the I Ching) so for me, telling her like it is was quite the step up.

I asked yi about this and got 23,2,3,6 to 46.

I quite like the feeling of this combination, stripping things down to eventually push upward. Please let me know if my interpretation is way off!

Thanks,

Yx

You are already pushing upward, growing beyond. In that process you have to do some necessary shedding. You did it ! Well done ! It looks like a pretty fundamental change between you though (23.6) that is its likley this marks the beginning of a whole new way of relating to her which may involve what looks like a total loss of her. Thats okay...it can't be any other way right now.

The relating hex is where you are coming from (and also possibly the 'eventually') so its not a future event you are already growing on out of this. BTW one way to see this is its a great step forward for you....one could even say she has helped you to individuate...you know you aren't this, don't want this. In being more you in the end she can be more her. 23.3 shows there is no error in this break up....however painful it is its actually all for the good.


How ludicrous she should think the important person was more important than you. Huh !

 

[yxeli]

Thanks both for the replies!

How ludicrous she should think the important person was more important than you. Huh !

oh no, its not that, its just that she is so insecure, every other thing that comes out of her mouth is suffixed with a famous persons name. it gets incredibly irritating after awhile. and quite embarrassing. Because who is she? all she is is a satellite to these people, and when she's with others, she uses these famous peoples names and reputations to get ahead. its really astonishing how much she lives in her ego. Its even surfaced in her new art projects (which she never completes, its more a topic of conversation that she uses in order to feel like she's keeping up with her peers) where she's dealing with facades and ornamental decoration on buildings. shes the most vacuous human ive met so far. ( and to think at one point she had me convinced about how amazing she was!! i used to think wow, my sister toured with bono, what a legend. now i just look at her throwing these names around and i honestly feel so embarrassed for her)

anyway. its definitely a split for the good. shes quite controlling and competitive and i felt like i had to question my every move i made with her from a very young age. I was interested that lofting has this combination by way of 18. correcting family corruption.

im quite happy not to associate with her for a very long time. she doesnt play fair and is a complete reputation whore.

bye bye sis.

Yx