Back to reality...I think

[seeker]

Ok, so Thomas the great is history once and for all. Hard as it is, I think this needed to happen for me to finally get over it and move on. I got lost for the last few days, my usual dizzy, lovesick thing (to use Michelins words) when it comes to him. And in doing so I stopped thinking about this guy I went out with Fri. Now, I am thinking about him again, knowing me, not sure if that is rejoining reality or just jumping tracks.

The date was odd, for me, in that he wanted to go out as friends to start. A lot of guys say that, but he actually meant it, as he did not even kiss me goodnight. He canceled our date for the next night, saying he would call later in the week, but I am afraid that I came on too strong and scared him, or maybe he just did not feel chemistry. I was wondering if I should wait to see what he does, email and apologize if I came on too strong or just forget about him.

I asked Yi what I should do about this guy? 50.2.3.5 to 12
What do I need to know? 60.1.2 to 8

Notice I am back to only the 2 questions. Im not sure what I am being told though.

Using Lises translation:
line 2 talks of not being depressed by a bad situation, riches are inside you. Not sure if this refers to the bad situation with Thomas or saying this guy will not be a good situation.

line 3 talks of establishing order before trying to accomplish something, examining your resources. this could say I need to get my life straightened out before I can see this guy or could say I need to establish order in this relationship before it can go anywhere, ie take it slow and let it develope naturally.

line 5 when all circumstances are perfect a strong new life can grow. I think this is a followup to the lines above, if I get things in order, then things can proceed and develope.

12 is standstill, again have to look at it in the context, not sure if it says dont do anything for the time being or just dont push for anything

I thought the next answer would give more insight, but still not sure.

line 1 talks of not doing things outside your nature, but then line 2 says you have your own rhythm but if you never play with others, you lose the ability to join in the song. be open to the new and different (this guy is definitely new and different, not anything like anyone I have been out with before. just from the profile, my best friend loves him, says he is perfect for me, gave me all kinds of advice about not letting Thomas distract me from him).

Looked up Karcher, Wilhelm and Denning also, lightbulb still dim

Thought with Karcher I lean more towards waiting for now, as his 60.1 says it is not the time to make contacts. Any insights???

 

[frank]

OK Seek,

Here we go :-D.

1. What should you do about the guy (starting to become no much afraid every time things like this happen, is my logical advise, but hee, we have Yi answers here :-D).... 50 is about cleaning up. Perhaps you should clean up frights and anxietys insite before jumping to any other fellow (stand still..., as 50 goes to 12..)?

What you need to know... LIMITATIONS... and Union with yourself...

I realy recognise things I do the same here... And from experience I realy can tell you that anxiety about a certain situation does not bring the situation closer or sooner to you... so RELAX :-D.

I realy hope I'm not to harsh, but as I mail to you, I realise I mail to myself as well, as I should respond in the same manner, and I start to know that this does not work... It makes my head spin... and the ladies out... Don't worry, and let this guy come to you with whatever he wants to do... Love yourself first instead of looking for it in other people..... (so hard to learn by me too, so it is very easy said :-D)...

HANG IN THERE,

Hug,
Frank

 

[seeker]

Thoguht about it for a while, even slept on it and still wasnt sure, I asked for clarification of what to do?58.2 to 17

At first I thought this was saying to communicate with him, but to be relaxed and not push.

But then I asked if I should email? 2.2 to 7, Lises interpretation says wihtout doing nothing not done, yet Karcher says proceed directly and clearly. so I am a bit confused on this one.

Oddly enough I feel better today than I have in a long time. I should be devastated, but I feel lighter, freer, more open somehow. When I asked what is going on with me I got 50 unchanging. Ironically, this is the same answer I once got when I asked what Thomas would represent in my life. Seems I have come full circle.