Be happy again?

[Vissino]

After my brokeup I feel so terrible and I suffer so much. I don't want to feel hopeless. I want to smile and feel lucky and happy again.

I asked I ching will I be happy again?
63.1 , 63.4/ 31 (39.4)

63.1 Stop of action.
63.4 something valuable ended up very bad. My relationship with my ex I think.
39.4 going leads to obstruction coming leads to unity. Someone remains stationary and unites with an other one, with the line above 39.3?
31 seeking union. Take a maiden to wife. Relationship for me?

Any thought?

 

[loverofknowledge]

Hi, this hexagram presents the image of a boat, going across a stream. First, the boat is flooding, so it is right to put the breaks on and slow down. Possibly, your emotions are the flood? Put the breaks on, regain self-control. Line 4 shows a leaky boat and somebody trying to plug the holes, night and day. Take a look, what is making the boat leaky? How can you learn from the situation and improve your life?
The context for your question: attraction, love, desire.
Your happiness will come once you exercise self-control -- given your flood of emotion -- and when you mend your leaky boat, so that you can have a new relationship, or move forward with your life, without any holes in your boat.
How does that sound to you?

 

[Vissino]

loverofknowledge, thank you for answering!
You have a point! I guess there is a hope for a new beginning with our without my ex.

 

[rosada]

63.After Completion - 31.Influence, wooing.

On the surface these hexagrams say that after the end of an old love a new relationship becomes possible. So I see this could be interpreted as a saying yes, you can be happy again.
However, the lines emphasize the need to not try to bi-pass the healing process:

After Completion is about how there are still things that need to be done after the completion of something. Like after you complete moving into a new house you then have to set it up and get it organized. After you complete a relationship and become single you still have to adjust to this new reality.

63.1 Take it slow.
63.4 No need to pretend you are healed/happy when you are not. With this hole in your heart you may be tempted to fill it with diversions, like giving your heart to a new relationship that is not really suitable but keeps you from being lonely.

31.uc The superior man encourages others to approach him by his readiness to receive them.
No need to jump into another relationship right away, just focus on getting yourself ready for one.

Also, no need to be hysterically happy right away but do do the things that could lead to being happy - listen to upbeat music, avoid sad movies, get a haircut .
Anticipate that happiness will find you so in the meantime, get ready!

 

[Vissino]

I am writing on this thread as today I received the same answer on the question what it's going to happen with me and my ex this month.
Due to resulting hexagram 31 and the hidden line 39.4 I think something is going to happen between us. I have no hopes for a reunion as I asked if he is going to contact me this month and I got 63.1/39.. one more 63.1... I don't see communication this month or maybe he will contact me-63.1 and nothing more 39..

If there is anyone who can give me an interpretation I will appreciate it.