being influenced by others 48.6 >57

[innertruth]

another question...very important...

How to become content with myself without being influenced by others?
it happened too often and bothered /blocked me

Answer was 48.6 > 57..

Will appreciate your help.

 

[iams girl]

"If one would produce such effects, one must have a clearly defined goal, for only when the penetrating influence works always in the same direction can the object be attained. Small strength can achieve its purpose only by subordinating itself to an eminent man who is capable of creating order" (Hexagram 57, Commentary on The Judgment, W/B).

I think the above can be read as: 1) set goals 2) find someone with whom you're comfortable being accountable and you’ll be well on your way to the “supreme good fortune” of line 48.6. Regarding goals, I especially like:

The Wheel of Life – look at each of these life areas:

1. Health - physical and psychological
2. Work - do you like your job, does it 'suit you’?
3. Money - income vs spending and debts
4. Your ‘inner circle’ - friends and social life
5. Your family, partner, parents, pets
6. Home - town, area, house/ flat
7. Fun, challenge and excitement - travel, performing, hobbies
8. Development and learning/ spirituality / community

Spend time thinking about each life area, and be honest, how ‘happy’ are you with each one right now? Give each area a score ‘out of 10’ to indicate how happy you are with that area at the current time. This will be from 0 (it couldn’t be worse) to 10 (it is absolutely perfect!).

Then be bold! - what would make that area a ‘10 out of 10’ score? What would be the best thing for your psychological well-being regarding money, work, or family relationships?

This is to challenge you to think about what you REALLY want in your life. Think big. If you feel that ‘something is missing’, then this simple exercise can help to point to what that may be.

You can organise this information in a way that suits you. You can use these action pages or use a journal/ notebook or A4 papers in a smart file, or a spreadsheet - it’s up to you!

When I started to do the exercises 10 years ago, I used an A4 file to hold the information for each section with sheets of notes, pictures from magazines, and lots of colours. I still use a similar system in an A5 notebook - my 12 week actionbook - as this works for me. Put it on whatever format you like to use, as long as you look at it regularly (daily is best), write lots of information in it, and use it to inspire you.

When you have identified what you would like in life, think of one action for each section that will move you closer to your ultimate goal. Then decide exactly when you will do it - the sooner the better - then do it!! It can be as simple as buying a health magazine this afternoon, eating an extra piece of fruit each day this week, phoning an old friend for a chat, taking your child to the cinema - whatever is right for you. Do it today, or at least this week. Make a start!

You can work through with a coach, a friend or a nursing co-worker, which will help.
http://www.nursetogether.com/nurses-wheel-of-life-creating-balance-and-wellness

 

[innertruth]

Thank you very much for help. It is very inspirational. I like how you structured every aspect, so it is clearer. Thank you you really wrote a nice self-work strategy