Benefits of letting go or continuing Hex 60.4.5>54

[goddessliss]

Lots of of stripping away of people in my life - some much to my surprise, but not sure about this one.

Show me that this is the right time to let go of my connection with G
(I just realised I asked this question as if it is a given I should let go - eh clearly my own issue)
Hex 60.4.5>54

Yes things aren't really happening how I would like them to at present Hex 54

Hex 60 - Limitations hmm does that mean I should let go or just be ok with the limitations that do exist at present with this person (who could maybe help me a great deal).
Line 4 and 5 - yes we have a peaceful, pleasant time when we talk about what needs to be done to progress and there's a lot of value to our connection as it is. Haha I just want progress and I want it now!!
Please see my other thread talkin' about how I feel at a standstill right now.


How would it benefit me to continue connecting with this person despite the limitations

Hex 52>7

At first I thought yikes! standing still and discipline best to let it go but when I read it properly it looks to me like Line 2 suggests not to go ahead with my intention of breaking the connection, Line 3 - yes for me, I do feel cautious but line 6 suggests just stay still with this and all will be well.

Hex 7 - working together as a team - well that's the only way this connection could work really when we eventually get sorted enough to work together that is.

Have I got it right? any insight would be great - thanks, Liss

 

[Trojina]

Show me that this is the right time to let go of my connection with G
(I just realised I asked this question as if it is a given I should let go - eh clearly my own issue)
Hex 60.4.5>54

Yes things aren't really happening how I would like them to at present Hex 54

Hex 60 - Limitations hmm does that mean I should let go or just be ok with the limitations that do exist at present with this person (who could maybe help me a great deal).
Line 4 and 5 - yes we have a peaceful, pleasant time when we talk about what needs to be done to progress and there's a lot of value to our connection as it is. Haha I just want progress and I want it now!!
Please see my other thread talkin' about how I feel at a standstill right now.

This answer isn't telling you what to do but just showing you the reality of the situation. This connection is quite feasible if you can accept it's boundaries. It looks like the other has set limits of how far this goes, as in how often you see each other....what your expectations are, things like that. Because you want more this places you at somewhat of a disadvantage (54) but you may find in time that if you are patient you will be glad you allowed this to develop at the set pace, in fact you might come to be glad that this may be slow but it is steady and reliable.

In terms of a friendship for example this doesn't look like someone who wants to totally share their world, see you often, call everyday and so on. But it is a friend who keeps dates, who handles the relationship responsibly. It's not mad passion but it looks true and real.

How would it benefit me to continue connecting with this person despite the limitations

Hex 52>7

At first I thought yikes! standing still and discipline best to let it go but when I read it properly it looks to me like Line 2 suggests not to go ahead with my intention of breaking the connection, Line 3 - yes for me, I do feel cautious but line 6 suggests just stay still with this and all will be well.

Hex 7 - working together as a team - well that's the only way this connection could work really when we eventually get sorted enough to work together that is.

Have I got it right? any insight would be great - thanks, Liss

If you go on you are going to have to accept some frustration. 52.2 can be so hard because we can help someone, we can help them avoid hardship, yet they will not accept it. So you'll need to accept that in some way at the moment you just can't offer what you'd like to offer. It seems from 7 as relating you might like reorganise this person a bit, you know make suggestions, assist. And you are right...if he took your advice or accepted the offers you make (in whatever form these are) he would be better off but there's no way he is going to see that.....and it can drive you nuts ! (52.3) You will really have to struggle with your feelings of wanting things to move forward and them not moving at your pace. 52.6 shows you come to terms with things though and feel okay about it.


Overall as I say these aren't bossy answers from Yi. Sometimes Yi is more definite and bossy than others but these answers show how you will need to adapt if you want to go on.

I think if you can accept it as it is you and he can come to a good working relationship but it will take patience. How patient are you ?

Change patterns for first answer were yang pattern 45 yin pattern 26....this suggest to me you cultivate a long term view here. This take time to build up. Sometimes when people seem slow they may actually be being responsible, careful and so on.

For second answer 18 was yang pattern and 17 was yin answer.

Liss I think Yi may be advising you to adapt to this person's pace if you want to go ahead with things. It may frustrate you now but in the long run you may be glad you stayed with things.

Still your choice here though

 

[goddessliss]

Oh thanks so much for responding Trojina that helps a lot - I'm generally not a patient person - when I'm ready to go, let's go - think it's the Sagittarius in me!
Having said that though, I'm getting a real kick out of how patient and accepting I am being about how where he is. He's got to finish another project off before he can come with me on my plans and ideas and told me he likes to finish what he starts and that's just how it is. Yes I've offered to help a couple of times and he says no, so I've had a bit of joke with him about it - though that's quite a reflection of myself
I've surprised myself in just how accepting I am about it all considering what I'm 'normally' like.
Thanks for confirming and re-enforcing my belief that he's worth waiting for on this. - Liss

 

[goddessliss]

Oh dear - I'm losing patience - that didn't last long, did it!!!!

 

[goddessliss]

Update: This connection did come to an end not because of my impatience though. He just kept distancing himself more and more and it turns out he was doing something dishonest that he knew would end our friendship so he kept it to himself, well tried to........womans' intuition won through as it always does.