Best attitude? 1 (1,2,5) 56 (twice)

[oponopono]

Hello,

It is always impressing when this happens, a repeated answer, but as well strengthens the sensation that it is really important to understand its meaning. Which in the case of hexagram 1 I find specially hard.

I only asked two questions in the last week, they were variations of the same question and, very coherently, the text gave me the exact same answer. It is over a state of emotional engulfment over a toxic person that can have no space in my life, but who haunts my thoughts and troubles my emotional balance. I have been doing fine, but every other moment I slip and engage in that destructive chain of thoughts that begins with him.

I believe I only have to stop this, giving him any space in my thinking, but it is turning out to be harder that it sounds.

14th of August: how to handle the feelings his cold treatment triggers in me?
16th of August: what is the best attitude to maintain towards the anguish thinking about him triggers in me?

1 changing lines 1,2 and 5
changing to 56

line 1 is telling me to take no action, and the others two lines inspire me both to share more with friends (which I haven't done much out of pride, or shame for being so unreasonable about this...), meet with someone I find wise (that's why I decided to write this post, I thought it could mean you all out there, the ones that feel the urge to reply) or even trying to demonizing him less and regarding his humanity as well.

summer time is good to drift around and maybe get distracted with some traveling (56) but what about hexagram 1? how do you see it in the context of this answer?

I'm used to taking it as very proactive - I should be responsible and actually create my own healing. Is it about reinventing myself? or sublimation through creativity and art practice?

any thoughts on this are welcomed,
Y

 

[blue_angel]

56 can be seen as "wandering". Does not have to be literally traveling somewhere. You have been wandering how to deal with your emotions. Right? We are traveling through this life. To be a wanderer seems to be someone who has not yet reached his destination. A place to settle. Hexagram 1 can be seen as creative power. Our minds can be very creative and powerful. Your lines to me, seem to say you are developing. Continue to developand maintain your inner worth. I do not see them as meeting with friends. I think the great man could refer to your higher self or a divine energy. Either way I think you are on your way to being exactly where you need to be.

The only other thought that comes to mind is... is there anything further you need to get off of your chest with this person? Is there some air between you that needs to be cleared?

 

[oponopono]

The only other thought that comes to mind is... is there anything further you need to get off of your chest with this person? Is there some air between you that needs to be cleared?

Quite a lot, I feel totally stuck with these dense (low-drama) feelings, but I tend to think dissolution and liberation are not in his hands. I tried talking to him but he runs away from me, which makes me feel awful. He avoids me and pretends I am not there, and I go away feeling invisible and worthless. So asking anything of him will only make matters worse, I have to find that release within me. This is taking me a couple of years already, which is ridiculous considering it was an unimportant affair, not even a relationship as such. I can't seem to let this one go (and 40,4 also comes often, to let go of my big toe so my own way appears again, a life I can trust in) but it is quite irrational. We all have vulnerabilities and wounds but I never knew myself to be this woman in any other affair, this guy really triggers intense self-disgust in me. So, to answer your questions, yes, a lot to be cleared, but it comes down to me, that's why hex1 seems appropriate, but I do not know to which dimension of creation it refers to. I create my thoughts. I create my feelings. I created this situation! (then line 1 would be: stop creating this situation...)
I actually work with the arts and the creative process so the first thought that came was: "dive into work!"...
hex1 can mean a lot of things, right? it is a beginning, a starting point. Somethings that is arising from nothing. What I do know is that is its ACTIVE, not passive, and I feel STUCK.

Do you disagree? Am I seeing it narrowly?

Thanks for your insight, it was very helpful*
:bows:

Y

 

[rosada]

I see 1 - 56 as meaning Create Moving On.
So to handle these negative feelings you don't need to do anything to clean up the past, you don't need to even understand it, you simply need to move on - and 1.1.2.5 tells you how to do that.
1.1 When thoughts of this issue come to mind you are not obligated to do anything about them. Let the thought drift in and move on - do not act on it.
1.2 Focus on something or someone in your world right now that you admire. Let that positive potential draw you forward like a magnet.
1.5 Surround yourself with positive reminders, role models, companions. Become actively involved in positive group effort.

I have recently been focusing on Bachflower essences - the homeopathic type drops you can get at health food stores.. Three come to mind that might apply to your situation:
White Chestnut for recurring unwanted thoughts.
Crab Apple for feelings of self-disgust.
Star of Bethlehem for getting unstuck.

The White Chestnut is particularly miraculous!

Rosada

 

[blue_angel]

I totally agree. If your first thought was dive into work. Then thats most likely what you need to do. I'll tell you what helps me. 1. Cleaning. When I get in these ruts I literally clean every little detail. I rearrange the furniture. It at least helps me feel more organized and shifts the energy around. While I am cleaning, I am meditating. I noticed after I am done, my thinking is clearer, more focused. I am able to work out the troubles of my mind. 2. Painting. This last rut, I decided to paint my furniture. Brighten up the place a bit. Plus it does seem to help to find a focus to use my creative abilities. 3. I try this site www.electicenergies.com .I believe thats it. If not you can google electric energies. The site has chakra test and I love the accupressure information available. It actually works for me. Not just that, but the information was new for me. I don't know about you but I love diving into some new studies. It seems like after doing this I am able to come back to whatever situation is troubling me and see it for what it is. Clearer. Reality.


It helps me to see the other person in a good light. Even if the way they treated me was not so nice. Who knows what they are going through. What inner chaos they are dealing with. So for me I say a prayer wishing them well. Being thankful they have chosen not to be in my life. Who knows what extra pains they may have brought. Sometimes I think maybe we have guardian angels that protect us from certain people or paths. Especially when we are not strong enough or wise enough to do it ourselves. It goes back to "what is meant to be will be". It helps me let go. Perhaps it will help you. Because in your heart you want him to have a healthy, happy, prosperous life with or without you. Right?


Another thing I do is try to figure out myself. If I am repeating patterns or holding onto emotions, I try to figure out my roots, back to my beginning. Why is this REALLY bothering me. For me it usually stems back to childhood. As an example, dad, mom, or some important figure in your life that abandoned you or made you feel worthless. Some old, not dealt with issue. For me, the great thing is, when I recognize it, it nearly vanishes as if it never existed. Both the current issue and the old haunting childhood trauma. But if you do find this is the issue and it does not nearly vanish for you, as it does me. This site is great to start with www.thework.com by Byron Katie. I add this because you said its been a couple of years already, and you still haven't been able to let it go. Perhaps there is some deeper issue you need to work on. Plus, I would hate to see anyone repeat some old patterns unnecessarily, as I have.


These things may work for you or may not. You have to use your own creativity to find what does. My only other advice is.... not to listen to old love songs lol. Listen to inspirational music or music without words. Dance a little if you like to dance. Invent new recipes if you like to cook. Do what you must to enjoy life with you. Sometimes we even jave to go walk in nature. Walk it out. Hope that helps some.

Best wishes on your journey