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There was a man in my life last fall, and sparks flew between us during a rather strong celestial positioning, afterwards cooling down. I have tried very hard to stay in touch with him bc I beleived there's something there, and I still do.
I had a foot operation last week and out of the blue he showed up with flowers, a very high tech plug-in automatic ice pack (which is WAY better than trying to hold a bag of frozen peas on your foot!) made me tea, chatted for 2 hours. Two days later came with MORE flowers, brought me lunch, more ice, refilled the ice pack machine, took out my garbage, fixed tea again, hung around again for 2 hours. Because we do not see each other frequently and in fact I had not seen him since mid October-- to me this was huge.
(we had emailed in December but all of that was my initiative)
I thanked him in person for the flowers and sent a message later by text. In return he wrote "that's what friends are for." I got very upset bc i thought, at first, well, obviously i read way too much into this. Flowers mean nothing. We're only friends, period. But my own friends have pointed out that what else was he to say, "thats what lovers are for?" Because there's been no romance between us. Yet. Some people say a man doesnt drive one hour each way with flowers etc just to "be nice" and certainly not twice in a row. I have no idea if that's true or not.
I have several options about how to proceed. I want to cultivate a closer friendship and i would dream of a relationship with him. But i cannot seem to be able to get out of some weird (probably also celestial?) blockage. We have electric conversations, no odd pauses, tons to talk about. I feel physical chemistry personally (do not know if he does).
I think he might but i think he is gun shy. I know he's been hurt in the past. This step to me in a way seems huge. But how can i keep things rolling?
I have recieved advice from several very trusted friends and they are tellnig me I need to treat this more casually, not clam up and freeze. When I think a guy is courting me i do freeze bc i do not want to be too clingy or suffocate them, which i have done in the past. So now, i do nothing. I am polite and i receive but i dont interact as much as I would, say, for a girlfriend, saying let's go out to coffee, want to see this movie etc. Bc in my silly head that's the "man's role" -- to court.
SO I asked the Yi for advice on how to best proceed. I am trying to interpret these results in terms of what *is* best to do at this point. I do not want to lose this chance -- this man stepped way out for me, he went to a lot of trouble, spent a lot of time and money. I want to show him i appreciate it but i fail when it comes to anything but words (and for now i have no use of my foot so i cannot, for example, make a cake and go visit him -- i cant leave my apartment for another few weeks).
What if I call and chat and invite him casually to stop by sometime this week?
12.5 > 23. (Blocked and Stripping Away )
Initially I thought this was a highly negative reading advising me against doing this. But the more I read about it, sounds like line 5 actually encourages you to do this, be aware that it can fail but that by risking the failure things progress (if i didnt just confuse hexes here).
What if i only call and chat (no invitation ie no pressure)? 22.1.2.6 > 46 Pushing upward
Line 6, "simplicity is all" -- that encourages this plan. Ie keep it simple (but keep in contact).
What if i do not phone today? 20.3 and 53
Line 3 is reflection, suggests it might be OK. I dont see anything "bad" in not phoning today. (line 3 is the point of transition. It is no longer sufficient to observe the world with the innocent eyes of the child or from a self-centred point of view. One must strive to acquire objectivity by looking inward and observing one’s feelings and emotions. Learning from these, one begins to plan the future development of one’s life.)
What effort do I need to make to help things continue to get better?
40Release lines 3,4 > hex 46
Not clear to me -- L3 ‘Shouldering a burden while also riding in a carriage
Invites the arrival of bandits. Constancy, shame.’ (what is this bad? I was asking what to do but it seems to suggest bad luck without saying what is bad)
Line 4= ‘Releasing the thumbs also. Partners arrive, hence truth and confidence.’
Partnering is good (??)
I had a foot operation last week and out of the blue he showed up with flowers, a very high tech plug-in automatic ice pack (which is WAY better than trying to hold a bag of frozen peas on your foot!) made me tea, chatted for 2 hours. Two days later came with MORE flowers, brought me lunch, more ice, refilled the ice pack machine, took out my garbage, fixed tea again, hung around again for 2 hours. Because we do not see each other frequently and in fact I had not seen him since mid October-- to me this was huge.
(we had emailed in December but all of that was my initiative)
I thanked him in person for the flowers and sent a message later by text. In return he wrote "that's what friends are for." I got very upset bc i thought, at first, well, obviously i read way too much into this. Flowers mean nothing. We're only friends, period. But my own friends have pointed out that what else was he to say, "thats what lovers are for?" Because there's been no romance between us. Yet. Some people say a man doesnt drive one hour each way with flowers etc just to "be nice" and certainly not twice in a row. I have no idea if that's true or not.
I have several options about how to proceed. I want to cultivate a closer friendship and i would dream of a relationship with him. But i cannot seem to be able to get out of some weird (probably also celestial?) blockage. We have electric conversations, no odd pauses, tons to talk about. I feel physical chemistry personally (do not know if he does).
I think he might but i think he is gun shy. I know he's been hurt in the past. This step to me in a way seems huge. But how can i keep things rolling?
I have recieved advice from several very trusted friends and they are tellnig me I need to treat this more casually, not clam up and freeze. When I think a guy is courting me i do freeze bc i do not want to be too clingy or suffocate them, which i have done in the past. So now, i do nothing. I am polite and i receive but i dont interact as much as I would, say, for a girlfriend, saying let's go out to coffee, want to see this movie etc. Bc in my silly head that's the "man's role" -- to court.
SO I asked the Yi for advice on how to best proceed. I am trying to interpret these results in terms of what *is* best to do at this point. I do not want to lose this chance -- this man stepped way out for me, he went to a lot of trouble, spent a lot of time and money. I want to show him i appreciate it but i fail when it comes to anything but words (and for now i have no use of my foot so i cannot, for example, make a cake and go visit him -- i cant leave my apartment for another few weeks).
What if I call and chat and invite him casually to stop by sometime this week?
12.5 > 23. (Blocked and Stripping Away )
Initially I thought this was a highly negative reading advising me against doing this. But the more I read about it, sounds like line 5 actually encourages you to do this, be aware that it can fail but that by risking the failure things progress (if i didnt just confuse hexes here).
What if i only call and chat (no invitation ie no pressure)? 22.1.2.6 > 46 Pushing upward
Line 6, "simplicity is all" -- that encourages this plan. Ie keep it simple (but keep in contact).
What if i do not phone today? 20.3 and 53
Line 3 is reflection, suggests it might be OK. I dont see anything "bad" in not phoning today. (line 3 is the point of transition. It is no longer sufficient to observe the world with the innocent eyes of the child or from a self-centred point of view. One must strive to acquire objectivity by looking inward and observing one’s feelings and emotions. Learning from these, one begins to plan the future development of one’s life.)
What effort do I need to make to help things continue to get better?
40Release lines 3,4 > hex 46
Not clear to me -- L3 ‘Shouldering a burden while also riding in a carriage
Invites the arrival of bandits. Constancy, shame.’ (what is this bad? I was asking what to do but it seems to suggest bad luck without saying what is bad)
Line 4= ‘Releasing the thumbs also. Partners arrive, hence truth and confidence.’
Partnering is good (??)