chance meeting?

[kdedeaux4]

This very well may be an incredibly silly question to approach the IC with, but the surrounding circumstances made me too curious to resist! Will try to keep the explanation brief (I realize I tend to be very wordy!)

Have been doing some major people "housecleaning" recently, with a particular emphasis of one man from my past. I've deleted ALL contact info in order to prevent myself from any temptations to connect or communicate with this man. He lives nearby and I even choose a different (sometimes longer!) way out-n-about, rather than even drive by his house. Such is my desire/hope to disconnect and sever this relationship.
Today, I not only took this "long way" to the grocery store, but I additionally went at a time when I know is during his working hours... (not necessarily intentionally, but it's odd that I DID happen to note the time as I got into my car to leave and felt a sense of satisfaction that he would most likely be safely at his work during this tiime.

As I parked my car in the lot, I see a car similar to his pulling in, but I didn't give it much attention because there was such a slight (to none!)possibility that it would be him. Enter grocery store....grocery shop as usual....half hour into it(it's a VERY big store!), I run directly into HIM!!!!

This seemed so positively inconceivable on so many levels that I was nearly floored by the shock! So after so many "precautions" I had taken, I asked IC, "why the chance encounter?"
Response: hex 31.3.5 to 16.

Reading on line 3, I see mentions of unhealthy addictions/attractions, which certainly describes accurately this association. However, I can't seem to ut line 5 into the perspective of my question nor the resulting hex 16...

Hope to get some thoughts on this confounding and way TOO
coincidental and unlikely meeting of the very person I was trying so hard to avoid!! It's interesting to note also, that I don't live in a particularly small town, there are many grocery store options here (even right in our neighborhood), and in all the many years I've known this man, I've not once run ino him grocery shopping before. Extra funny, to not that there have been many, MANY occasions in the past when I secretly *hoped* to accidentally run into him...and NEVER did!!
...Almost seems as though this was God's idea of a sense of humor.....almost!!!

Thank you! Namaste:bows:

 

[em ching]

Haha, yes that is ironic!

My impression is that the energy you've put into avoiding him, is, another expression of your attraction to this man... so by acting out of this influence, by giving him power over your daily routines, you are giving this person more rather than less presence in your life by going out of your way to avoid him! Perhaps the universe was just showing you this lol.

Hmm.. 31.5 I think talks of instinctive reactions to people - for example trust or mistrust, connection or alienation... I think it also reflects that when you are easily influenced by people/events you are less likely to influence and direct your own life out of your true nature...

Hex 16 could be saying that this man inspires you? Motivates you? But that the influence isn't stable or secure because there is no proper relationship/commitment? In which case it could be reflecting that you perhaps still fantasize about a relationship with this person because you're attracted but that neither of you are approaching it with the idea of endurance (hex 32) which is the necessary next step after hex 31 or it fizzles to nothing...

It could be that he feels the same. After all hex 31 speaks of the attraction and nourishment between opposites - men and women... and hex 16 is about gathering together with people who encourage you.. but it's also about being careful of illusions. Perhaps you think this man is inspiring you, but in fact he is just a vehicle, a way of expressing, your desires/fantasies? Your ideal?

Are you still attracted to him? Perhaps you should ask what your approach should be towards this person.

:bows:

 

[kdedeaux4]

Em Ching

Thank you for responding. I think you have hit several points of this right on the nose. Yes, I am indeed still attracted to him very much...almost pulled as if an addiction even...and I'm fairly certain he probably feels a similar pull and the very same need/hope to resist it and move away from this. To what degree he might still feel challenged, I don't know...I can only feel the challenge of my struggle against this phenomenally strong (and unhealthy!) connection that often seems to defy all sense and logic. I thought of this irony a great deal and wondered the same possibility you posed: by putting so much effort toward avoiding him, I most likely put enough energy into it to bring him into the very situation I was desperately hoping to avoid. We have always been deeply connected with synergy and some type of strange almost "telepathic" bond that continues to connect us regularly and maintain a connection that sadly needs to break completely. This ethereal blessing that bonded us so beautifully once, now seems to be the very thing that curses us both in our attempts to stay separate! There is a very natural and innate pull toward each other, which requires consistent attempts to "fight" against (like going against the flow of the ocean), yet the energy between us is so darned strong, that I really do believe the very effort and energy required to fight this, brngs about the continuation of its opposite!
Therefore, I've beeen struggling long and hard as to just how to appropriately handle this, not fighting brings us together naturally..and fighting it seems to bring us together naturally as well.....It's certainly a "damned if you do, damned if you don't position
Hopefully, I will someday find that delicate balance in the middle and I pray I'll someday understand the greater meaning and purpose of such a drastically difficult feat which the universe has obviously deemed necessary for my life journey
Thank you so much for your valuable insight!